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  1. That seems to be the common story. At a party or club, I certainly wouldn't expect anybody to say anything, but on an anonymous message board like this, if this were common at all I would expect to see posts on the topic. For instance, I've been reading through the "New Swingers" forum, and there are lot of people describing the lead-up to and their apprehensions about their first swing, and then coming back with reports. Some say they had a great time, a few say it created some emotional problems between them and their SO. But none of them came back and said they caught anything. I think if I were a swinger (I'm not yet but would like to be), new or experienced, if I were to catch something, I would come back here and issue a cautionary warning to others, either with this name or after creating a new, even more anonymous account. The fact that I can find no such posts leads to believe that, while there will always be a risk, it is a manageable risk. I guess what I'm asking is, by swinging, would we simply be playing russian roulette, tempting fate each time until eventually, inevitably, our luck runs out? Or, by communicating with potential partners, examining our histories and practicing safer sex, can we manage our risk to be as successful as you have been? I think the answer is the later, but I want to make sure I'm not missing something.
  2. So my wife and I are both very excited about getting into the lifestyle, and our only real hang-up is genital herpes. We don't have it and really don't want it. We've read all the literature, understand the risks, and are well-versed in safer sex practices. I see a lot of posts on here about education and fears of contracting an STD through swinging...but have any of you or anyone you know actually contracted an STD through swinging? Not through random hook-ups but through organized activities with other responsible people? What were the circumstances under which this happened? Were safer-sex practices employed? I guess I'm trying to run the numbers, and since about 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men have herpes, it seems like there's a pretty good chance you're going to encounter another couple who has it. Since it's estimated by the CDC that 90% of people with herpes don't even know they have it, you can't count on someone saying "I'm clean!" to really mean anything. They could either be lying, or simply not know. Since condoms only provide about a 50% risk-reduction, with drugs increasing that reduction to 75% and most transmissions are from asymptomatic people, why doesn't everybody have it? I've been reading through this board, and I don't see any posts from people saying, "Oh crap, I got an STD from swinging last weekend!" It just seems like there would be more. Are there ones I'm just missing? Thanks for any help you can offer. Alex
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