Thanks, dave_susie2001 - I really appreciate your warm message. Though off-topic, I couldn't help noticing that many westerners do not think of India when they talk about Asians - though we are Asians, too ! Can't blame you though, and it's no big deal, anyway. Thanks again for your reply. I am also concerned that our first experience (whenever it happens) should turn out to be good for both of us... I'm thinking, instead of starting by going to a swingers party, it's better for us to meet a couple more privately. Also, personally, I too would prefer intimacy.