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NY2004CTS

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About NY2004CTS

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  1. HOLY SH*T! You people are completely nuts! The guy from Argentina - WOW - you're out there! "Rape???" Christ, I haven't seen a psychotic manifesto like that since Ted Kaczynski! With the exception of the guy who sent the account of his first time (which I sent a private message to) the rest of you are the reason why "swingers" are stereotyped!!! If you've made it to this post - save yourself the sanctimonious rant of piling on. I WILL NOT RETURN TO THIS WEBSITE! Have fun blowing smoke up each other's proverbial skirts attempting to justify your own positions or poor choices. Not a shot in hell I would EVER go to a swingers club with my wife solely based on this ONE ONLINE HORRIBLE experience with your (collective) types.
  2. SPECTRASCHAIN: For someone who presents his position as one speaking from authority/experience, you'd think there would be at least (1) certification on your SLS profile. A fool and his money soon part... Big mistake to treat all newbies as they're idiots. Newbie in a particular field of play but not the game of life. I will not respond to any further of your posts or "wagers."
  3. Because it doesn't fit the conventional mode of established swinging per se there is something (many things) "wrong" with the potential encounter? If we've gone 20 yrs without sitting at the dining room table talking about sex, then all of a sudden, boom, there it is on the table, isn't there "something wrong" with that? Certainly that would jump off as a red flag to almost any adult. I sincerely appreciate everyone's position, right wrong or indifferent. Everything will be taken into consideration before and/if fantasy ever becomes reality.
  4. Thanks for your position. It's a valid one. Going into the encounter I planned on telling her that I'm doing this for her and I would be comfortable with a one time fling out of our area. I understand what you're saying tho. Thanks!
  5. Yes, absolutely! Everyone will be on the same page that's for certain. Ideally a married male who isn't promiscuous would be perfect.
  6. That reference to swinging protocol was made because in the threads I've read, when a common question was asked, it was routinely followed up with a reply (much like yours) that had nothing to do with the question but moreover the do's and don'ts of swinging - or imposing opinion on the post. Time is valuable. Rather than have someone spend effort educating us on lifestyle choices et al. it would be much more informative/helpful for only those who have relevant information pertaining to the topic replying.
  7. I would never try to TRICK her or anyone else into doing something. My motive here is for her pleasure. It has to be something she wants. I know she'll never come out and broach the topic with me. The only time we talk freely about it is during sex but no plans or further happenings are discussed at that point. Because she has no prior experience she has nothing (sexual) to draw from. To put it best, we have a very sheltered sexual life in terms of communications. That partly because I've never shared my past with her - in detail. She knows I've been with several other women but I've never told her what took place and don't feel it's any of her business because it has no bearing on our current sex life. I was just hoping to find someone on here that has had a similar situation and knew the best approach. Chose the vacation in the event it doesn't work out well we didn't do it in our own community. AND then we don't run the risk of the other male reappearing in our personal life. This will not become a lifestyle choice for either of us. I just want her to have the option of trying another guy. Plain and simple!
  8. I've read just about every post on here pertaining to first time encounters, open dialogue, etc. Although all are very insightful few are the complete directive a newbie needs to instill confidence to take that next step. I've been married to my wife for 19 yrs - together 21. She was a virgin when we married. She was brought up in a very Catholic household where sex was shunned upon. Prior to marriage I had my fair share of sexual exploits. Up until the past couple of years I was content with our sex life, however dull and traditional it may've been. Recently I find myself envisioning us bringing another male into the bedroom. We NEVER talk about sex outside the bedroom while having intercourse. On a few ocassions she has shared very basic fantasies, snippets if you will with me but I could tell they were painful for her to blurt out so I didn't follow up with questions. I've never completely shared my fantasies with her because I don't want her to think I think of her differently than the person I married or the good mother of our son. We're planning a vacation in July. During which period I'd like to take a day trip with her and try a MFM. Would like to meet someone online, develop a rapport with him, establish trust, meet for lunch then afterwards do it in a neutral hotel room. Family members are going with us so we'd have to get a room to avoid detection. I don't need a lecture on the protocols of swinging. Ideally this would only happen once so she's able to experience what sex is like for another person. Personally I'll get satisifaction by knowing she had a great time doing it. No hidden agendas or underlying motives on my behalf. Would some creative husband that has been in a similar situation share some advice with me on how to make this happen? When we watch porno mostly it's MFM so the seed has been inadvertently planted. Just need to find out without being blunt if she's on the same page. Thanks in advance for your assistance. If anyone is apprehensive about placing a post online I have the same screen name for my Yahoo email or instant messenger. Thanks!
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