Our Toy Chest:
The Go-to toy:
Hitachi Magic Wand
(We've burned out two, crimped and shorted out the cable in a third and are currently using the repaired third and a fourth)
Also use Magic Wand attachments for a different "feel"
Other Electric:
Eroscillator -- Different sensation, and also electric. This has a better cord design and has lasted a long time.
Battery Vibrators:
All sizes, hard plastic, soft jelly, and now we insist on silicone
Other diversions:
Rabbit (gone through 3 of these) Not a bad toy, but we play too rough. ;-)
Bullets:
These are always good and we've had many over the past years.
Cock rings-- more hype than benefit Probably depends on individual preference and staying power.
Anal plugs-- variety of sizes and put to great use on occasion. These are great for the right mood.
"pocket pussy" -- I guess if you really need it. The real thing, a soft hand or warm mouth is much better. Tried two of these over the years. Won't be buying additional.
Oils, lotions and potions:
Silicon oil (on the plastic stuff) We use Swiss Navy
Otherwise, we use a variety of water based lubes--none really seem that much better to us.
The flavored ones usually are too sticky for good play but are great for oral sex.
Other stuff:
Sexy games--- strip battleship or of course poker
Videos can "set the mood"
Good music -- lite jazz, Sinatra, Marvin Gaye, Dave Koz...