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  1. Just wondering...If non-swingers are vanilla, then would swingers be chocolate? Or is there any term other than swingers that swingers refer to themselves as?
  2. We are still in the stages of prior communitcation and have yet to have our first real experience. But even with the lack of experience I think this is a very similar situation. Her being with another female is a long time fantasy of ours. And we have just recently began thinking about other men,couples and the reality of swinging. The first time we ever talked/fantasized about her being with another man she got extremely turned on, as did I, and the sex was great. Afterward there was a brief, odd moment of silence before we began talking about it. She did mention she felt some guilt even fantasizing about it. She felt like she had wronged me. I assured her that it turned me on just as much and that she shouldn't feel guiltly. We continued to talk about the prospect of real swinging ecnounters, rules, limitations, etc. Since then the subject has been brought up several times and she has gotten even naughtier with it, (especially now that she knows i'm into it) without guilt. I think the morals and virtues we are taught stick with us even after we deviate from them. In my early adolescence i can remember feeling guilty for looking at nudie magazines because i was always taught they were bad. When some people are turned on our inhabitions lessen and you can get turned on by a fantasy you didn't know appealed to you or you might have a sexual encounter (planned or unplanned) and feel different than expected afterwards, and after it's done the reality of it hits you and you have to face it. You may feel guilt or regret until someone assures you that you've done nothing wrong, or it may stick with you. It's all a matter of how your mind works it out. Basically what i'm saying is don't ignore these emotions by any means but also don't dwell too heavily on them either.
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