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JustDave

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  1. Lots of great insight in this thread. Apparently my wife is not alone in her thinking. I've been doing alot reading in regards to womens sexuality and it doesn't appear my wifes views are out of the norm. Most of the magazines and articles that I have read say that women typically associate sex with love. Apparently the women who have gotten into swinging have overcome that association. I'll give it some time and bring up the topic again in the future, or maybe my wife will beat me to the punch. I'm also going to pickup one of the recommended books to gain additional knowledge and insight for myself and maybe share it with her.
  2. Are there any good books out there that accurately explain swinging? It would be good if the book described the positives and the enjoyment of swinging but it would also be helpful to hear about any negatives or pitfalls that might be looming out there. It's always good to have a complete picture when considering something.
  3. I've gotten really great responses from all of you. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and experience. I think what it comes down to with my wife and I is that we view swinging very differently and I think it's because I could disassociate sex with love where at this partucular time she is unable to do that. Maybe I'll bring up the topic to her again in the future, after she's had time to think about our conversations, to see if she has changed her opinion at all. If she never changes her opinion I'm OK with that. I was looking at swinging as just another way to spice things up for us after being married for 28 years. Thanks again.
  4. Hi, I have posted here not too long ago asking for advice or insight. I have brought up the topic of swinging with my wife. We had a very open and lenghty conversation in regards to swinging. Where we left it off was that my wife is of the very strong belief that sex is associated with love therefore she could never have casual sex with another person, man or woman. She feels that the majority of women also associate sex with love. I don't mean to open pandoras box but she feels that most of the women who swing or live in the lifestyle are probably doing it because they feel pressured from their SO, or are afraid of losing their SO or are unsatisfied somehow in their relationship or unsatisfied sexually. She feels that men have a much easier time because they can disassociate sex from love. It will probably be difficult to get open honest responses from the ladies on this but I wanted to at least try. I'm not trying to pressure her or change her mind but wanted her to see some other opinions.
  5. Ron, thanks! I read the summary about Shane's World 35: Swingers and it looks like a pretty good place to start. If anyone else has any insight to my original post I would appreciate any and all responses.
  6. Question for the women. What prompted you to bring up the idea of swinging? I'm trying to decide if I should bring up the idea with my wife. Knowing what prompted other women might help me with my decision I was hoping to get some responses from the ladies on this question. Any and all responses would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
  7. I've gotten good suggestions already. Thanks a bunch. My wife and I watch adult (XXX) movies from time to time so I was wondering if anyone could suggest an adult movie that has a swinging theme to it? This might be a good way to initiate some harmless conversation on the topic. It might give me a feel for if she would be open to it or wouldn't even consider it. Some of you might be thinking why don't I just bring the topic up instead of beating around the bush. On most topics thats exactly what we do but this can be a very sensitive subject as many of you probably already know. So, I'm treading lightly.
  8. Hi, this is my first post to the board but been reading the board for awhile. I've been reading it because I was considering bringing the idea up of swinging to my wife and I've been looking for advice and insight from others. First some background. I'm 51 and the wife is 48. We've been married 28 years with 2 grown kids. We have a happy and loving relationship. We have a great sex life. It's not as intense as it used to be but its still pretty damn good after 28 years. We are both pretty conservative. I'm the less conservative of the two. The reason I was considering bringing up swinging is to keep things fresh and maybe experience some variety for the both of us. My wife has told me that I keep our sex life interestng because I bring new ideas sexually to our relationship. But, swinging is at a totally different level. Even people in the lifestyle must admit that, its not mainstream. So, thats my concern. I read much of the positives of swinging on this board but I'm wondering how much negatives it has caused in relationships? I'm wondering if even bringing up the topic has caused problems in relationships? I know communcation is key and my wife and I have great communication but I'm still concerned that even just bringing up the topic itself could be too much for her to handle. Any insight from the experienced and the not so experienced would be helpful and appreciated.
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