Ahhhhh! THE question.
When we first got started in the lifestyle, I thought that I needed some kind of emotional connection with the guy who would be fvcking me. Friendship, love, SOMETHING! My husband reminded me that we were in this for the physical gratification and not to fall in love. Of course there needs to be a physical attraction for me, however I already have a best friend, lover, and husband. Shortly thereafter I read an ad on SLS that stated: "We don't want to know your Zodiac sign, your favorite color, or the life's trivilations of your kids!" That too....... reminded me of where "home" is.
So, I'm saying that we do not have to be "friends" with anyone in order the fvck them. It IS however, nice to have a partner(s) with whom that is more than a fvck-buddy. Still our support system is at home. Fvcking is totally separate.