Ok, you veterans are going to get a kick out of this. Been to about 6 socials. Been the hit of the party, pics on the website. Danced a lot at the social and later "upstairs" . We are an attractive couple and people seem to like us a lot. I tend to flirt more with the ladies because I'm bi and enjoying sex with another woman is #1 with me. Guys are great but not what we are seeking although we have enjoyed couple/couple soft swap before and they are never excluded.
Now for the question...
We are missing a very important step and I don't know how to insert it. Everyone just takes it for granted that we have all this experience because we are comfortable in the atmosphere, which we are. I believe they are waiting for us to make the request "do you want to play?" or perhaps they are asking us and we just don't realize it.
When do you ask another couple about playing? What would be some of the phrases we should listen for? Maybe we are missing something.
I don't know what we are doing wrong unless it's just not acting fast enough, do the couples plan downstairs for what happens upstairs? It just happens over and over that we have people all around us, all having a great time, all dancing and then the evening is over and we are heading back to our room alone.
My sweet husband has told me I can be intimidating because I do have a good body and am on the pretty side. I like to dress in lingerie and love having a place to wear all the great outfits that are frowned on in regular clubs, but they are always tasteful with a bit of slutty mixed in. Seems I've been lucky and have turned somewhat swanlike after years of being a plain old duckling. So here we are friendly, dancing, enjoying, laughing and yet always ending up alone. More and more of the regulars seem to be accepting us into the clicks. We get all hugs and kisses on the way in and out. Even the pretty people have welcomed us, you regular swingers know exactly what I mean by that.
Any good insight out there? Any helpful hints ?
