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Tips and advice about engaging in double penetration (DP) sex

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Hello, there! So, you’re interested in double penetration but you aren’t sure what it is, if it hurts, or if you’re even interested in it. Well, if you have two patient men and some lube (just in case!) it won’t hurt. Promise.

 

Okay, so maybe you aren’t totally naïve about double penetration. You’ve either seen it in porn or heard about it from someone who watches porn. Or perhaps you’ve noticed that you enjoy being played with anally during sex and have entertained the thought of being sandwiched between two men.

 

For all intents and purposes, let’s clarify what double penetration is before we go on. We’re talking about a male/female/male threesome (MFM) where one male is penetrating the woman vaginally and the other male is in anally. Some might qualify a DP as oral with vaginal/anal penetration but for this article, we will refer that position as a “spit-roast”.

 

I suppose the next step is finding a suitable male playmate to join you and your partner or two males if you are a single woman. Or perhaps you are the single male, in that case, this next part is just as important. A swinging single male with experience or swinger husband with a hall pass (wife verified) is crucial. For one, the males involved will not only be in the same room together naked but they will be in close proximity to one another! Limbs will touch and, from what I’ve heard, males can feel each other move inside the woman during the double penetration. You’ll want to make sure that such incidental contact doesn’t freak him out, and if it does, then find another.

 

Another reason for picking a male in the swinger community versus a male from the non-swinger (vanilla) community is the greater chance that he will be able to perform. Using a vanilla male will increase the odds that he will be too nervous to achieve an erection, more likely to bail, or not show up at all.

 

Now that you know what double penetration (DP) is, you’re interested, and you have your participants picked out and ready to go…when should we go at it, you ask? Foreplay, massages, blowjobs, handjobs, spit-roasting—these are great ways to get acquainted with each other’s bodies and ready for the main attraction. Decide beforehand whether condoms will be used for anal and/or vaginal sex. The use of condoms for anal sex will provide playmates the opportunity to quickly take it off and switch to vaginal sex if desired.

 

Let’s talk about positioning. There’s the cowgirl position, the reverse cowgirl position, the side-by-side-by-side position, the standing position, and the sex swing position. The height and size of the DP participants may determine which positions will work or not. Also, be aware of which positions give the woman the most pleasure. Some enjoy anal sex which might mean cowgirl position might work best because the male on top will be in the position to thrust into her anally. If a woman enjoys having her G-spot stimulated, then the reverse cowgirl might be best. If having both men thrust at the same time is a must, the side-by-side-by-side position is one to try. As for the standing and sex swing positions, those will highly depend on height and athleticism of everyone involved.

 

If engaging in a DP for the first time, it is recommended that the venue be intimate and private so that the male participants will not have extra unnecessary pressure to perform in front of an audience. It’s also a good idea to know where the necessary supplies are (condoms, lube, bathroom/wash clothes) in case they are needed.

 

Here are two of the most important things everyone involved needs to have: patience and a sense of humor! Be prepared that a DP might not happen the first time you attempt it. Technical difficulties may occur. One or both men might not be able to keep an erection during the positioning and maneuvering. It might take some time to figure out who goes where and who goes first in entering the woman. If it doesn’t work the first time or with a certain position, don’t be afraid to try something different to achieve a DP! And remember, if it doesn’t come to fruition in this MFM, try it again during the next MFM.

 

Have fun and happy DPing!

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Excellent advice! Sun points out something that's so obvious but usually overlooked, and that's making sure the two guys don't mind incidental male-to-male contact, including with the other guy's genitals. Don't forget the lube for the anal entry!

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Very well written! We are one of those couples that are working our way up to this. Thanks for the very informative read!

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Thanks for the insight! Like Mochacino, this is a goal we're working up to, and all information is helpful!

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In our experience has been that this is easier said than done. At times it seems like you might need a Ph.D. in advanced physics/ math or be an acrobat in order to successfully pull this off. If I want to do the back door entry and my wife and the other guy are doing the missionary position, being 5'7" I have to squat over her like in a football stance while attempting to maintain my balance on the bed. The other part of the problem is that my wife likes spontaneity so if we want to do a DP then I almost have to telepathically tell the other guy to be half off the couch, get my wife to straddle him and then position all the legs in order to enter her through the back door because if I start telling them what to do I will probably hear "don't direct".

 

I do agree that for me, a very straight guy, I find this to be one of the absolutely hottest of positions.

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DP is still on our bucket list, and this is a great guide to giving it a go and hope to get to put this advice into use some day.

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Two points, one physical, one mental.

 

If the woman hasn't been doing anal and enjoying it already, accomplish that first. It's an advantage to already be playing since if she isn't doing anal with her regular partner, she can find a guy who knows how to be gentle (it helps that his partner can give some womanly advice too). And has a slender dick to start, length doesn't matter.

 

Second, after you as a couple decide to go for a DP, agree on who gets which hole and the position she wants to try. Some guys have a thing about not having another man putting his dick in his woman's butt hole.

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I have enjoyed anal sex for many years, my first hubby and I kind of got into it a few times and after his death I had a 3-year boyfriend that really was into it. When I met my current hubby, while still dating I mentioned that I enjoyed being spanked and he quickly took that to be in invitation to anal sex as well. We moved it to experimentation with DP using him and a dildo or butt plug. I enjoyed it and so after we started swinging, MFM was our start, after we had done a few I susgested that he lead it to DP. And you are right, its not as easy as one might imagine but we were successful and have included it several times now. The interesting thing to me is that non-swingers tend to think that MFM would automatically included DP but realistically, we have never had the other guy attempt it or even ask about it; each time its happened, it has been us bringing him into it.

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. We moved it to experimentation with DP using him and a dildo or butt plug. .
In our minds, we never considered it to be a DP unless there were two real penises, one in her vagina and the other in her ass. A dildo is just pretending.

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In our minds, we never considered it to be a DP unless there were two real penises, one in her vagina and the other in her ass. A dildo is just pretending.

 

We all have to start somewhere, baby steps and all that. Nice to see if you can swim or enjoy the water before jumping into the deep end.

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Two men in you at the same time is not easy. For me my butt is my least favorite opening to have a penis in. I won’t say I never do it, I just rather other things. It wasn’t my idea that we try this. Finding the right position the guys thought was fun. Believe me Google helps a little but it looks easier than it is. And when the guys decided they would change places when the first tries failed I made them really clean and wash first. Then we needed both up and working at the same time. We did have some laughs, at my expense.

As Chicc said a vibrator and a penis did the trick. Our friend said he enjoyed feeling the vibe too.

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In our minds, we never considered it to be a DP unless there were two real penises, one in her vagina and the other in her ass. A dildo is just pretending.

 

If she is having both holes penetrated at the same time, regardless to what is actually doing the penetration, in our book it counts.

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I enjoy anal. I didn’t always, I mean it’s kind of an acquired taste so to speak. I remember way back when my first hubby wanted to try it, kind of out of the blue. In retrospect, I suspect he experienced it elsewhere and decided to bring it home. The first few times, it’s at best uncomfortable. But, I don’t know, after the 5th or 6th time, I’m on my knees on the bed and he is standing, sliding back and forth. I didn’t notice it and he pointed out, he had stopped his motion, all of the back and forth for the past minute or so had been me. I was obviously enjoying it at that point. So, admitting to my self that I liked it, made me view it much differently. He and I weren’t swingers so even thought DP fascinated me when I saw it in porn, the topic never really came up. But, after he passed and I remarried, I let my new hubby know that anal was something I kind of enjoyed, actually causes me to become a bit submissive and he took full advantage of that. Then, was we moved into swinging and MFM, I suggested that he bring it into an MFM. So, we did and I find it extremely intense.

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We all have to start somewhere, baby steps and all that. Nice to see if you can swim or enjoy the water before jumping into the deep end.
I am sorry, I did not intend to criticize anyone's approach or practices, I was only trying to clarify what I thought the definition is, two dicks.

 

We started with baby steps as well, but it was one, then two or three fingers in my wife's ass. She always likes a finger in there regardless of whether a dick, tongue or other fingers are in her cunt. Our first two penis DP was while my wife was riding a guy and I was fingering her asshole. We decided to try it and I went in.

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I love DP and now that I write, I wonder why I haven't done it more often. I can remember every time...3 times. The positioning has never been an issue. I get on my husband cowgirl and a lover straddles his legs and sticks his cock in my butt from behind. We've done it two ways... completely on the bed, and the best, with me near the edge of the bed with my ass available while my lover is standing. (You need the correct height bed for this one)

 

Why do I love DP and not really into anal? Because anal doesn't get me off. It feels good to have an excited man penetrate me and I'll do it for them, but it's just a favor. However, DP...Ooooof! Here's why. I have very strong contractions during orgasm. My whole body goes through some sort of spasm and I normally lose my breath for a few seconds on the first few. And I have a long string of little spasms in my pussy and hips and thighs after. They can last for a couple minutes. With a cock in my pussy and up in my ass...WOW! I can feel my insides contract and spasm on the one in my butt also. It's a way different feeling. For me, and after the first time, I ride my husband first and get to the place where I can basically cum when I want, then have my lover stick it in. From there it is all about riding the edge between an orgasm or not. The reason I do this is because the men that have been in my ass, always cum first. It makes sense since they are getting most of the friction. And the first time we did it, my lover went soft after cumming in me and when I came, it popped his cock out from the pressure. So, like I said, I get to point where I can decide when I cum and when I do I tell the guy to hold my hips and push.

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I love DP and now that I write, I wonder why I haven't done it more often. I can remember every time...3 times. The positioning has never been an issue. I get on my husband cowgirl and a lover straddles his legs and sticks his cock in my butt from behind. We've done it two ways... completely on the bed, and the best, with me near the edge of the bed with my ass available while my lover is standing. (You need the correct height bed for this one)

 

Why do I love DP and not really into anal? Because anal doesn't get me off. It feels good to have an excited man penetrate me and I'll do it for them, but it's just a favor. However, DP...Ooooof! Here's why. I have very strong contractions during orgasm. My whole body goes through some sort of spasm and I normally lose my breath for a few seconds on the first few. And I have a long string of little spasms in my pussy and hips and thighs after. They can last for a couple minutes. With a cock in my pussy and up in my ass...WOW! I can feel my insides contract and spasm on the one in my butt also. It's a way different feeling. For me, and after the first time, I ride my husband first and get to the place where I can basically cum when I want, then have my lover stick it in. From there it is all about riding the edge between an orgasm or not. The reason I do this is because the men that have been in my ass, always cum first. It makes sense since they are getting most of the friction. And the first time we did it, my lover went soft after cumming in me and when I came, it popped his cock out from the pressure. So, like I said, I get to point where I can decide when I cum and when I do I tell the guy to hold my hips and push.

 

Holy moly, lady! You sure know how to make a man wish he could be a woman once or twice! Heck, if I had orgasms like that, I'd probably want to stay a woman! :)

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Have you tried the "King of Clubs" position? (the men laying on their backs with their legs in a scissors position and their cocks together and the woman lowers herself on to them.)

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Why do I love DP and not really into anal? Because anal doesn't get me off. It feels good to have an excited man penetrate me and I'll do it for them, but it's just a favor...

That is me exactly. I can't orgasm with just a dick in my bum. But if someone in underneath, licking...

 

...I have very strong contractions during orgasm. My whole body goes through some sort of spasm and I normally lose my breath for a few seconds on the first few...
I'll suck a dick and will swallow, but don't put it in my mouth when I'm going to cum - I can't breathe.

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