Oral on a Female question

I see there is a post about the intimacy of a BJ vs sexual intercourse. I have noticed that most couples have some form of oral sex prior to intercourse. Mostly this is a female getting a guy hard with a BJ and less so men going down on a woman.

Is this because oral sex is expected by men? I notice that on the other post a BJ is less intimate, what about oral on a woman? Is that more intimate?

When my husband and I have sex it is not that common for me to go down on him, he doesn't really like it that much. He is pretty much already hard when we start. In swinging I typically do. I find that when I give a blow job it gets me wet, so that works out well, and men seem to enjoy it. I also like to to down on guys after we've had intercourse for awhile to get them to come. I take off the condom and they can come in my mouth, on my face or on my breasts. This is a lot of fun.

I love to receive oral and my husband can always make me come that way. Sometimes play partners can. I like it befoe or after intercourse or in the middle, I don't care. But, I do expect it when swinging.

I am not afraid of intimacy, I pretty much embrace it. I don't find any particular act more intimate than another. A whispered compliment can be just as intimate as a lick or a kiss or a fuck.

I'm not really sure if a bj is more common than cunnilingus?

I will say this, it is pretty helpful to get the guys hard.

When I have the time to really enjoy the play partner, lotsa kissing and caressing, sure no problem get hard as a rock. Initially in a group situation, it can be more OK now we are playing. Because I'm still soft probably gonna need that jump start.

I can see this as being seen as being more common.

Interesting what fucoupleindayton said. It gets my wife dripping wet as well. So it's a positive all around.

We both enjoy giving and receiving oral. He will do cunnilingus as long as the gal wants, she is skilled and most guys prefer cumming in her mouth. If we can't make it to intercourse because the oral is so good, thats ok for us.

"Mostly this is a female getting a guy hard with a BJ and less so men going down on a woman. "

Really? I love giving oral on a woman, wife loves it and our other partners have loved it too.

One of the most unflattering things that I have ever heard my wife say about a playmate is, "he does it the same way every time -- left tit, right tit, likety-split for two-minutes-and-thirty-seconds, oral sex for him, he sticks it in me, wiggles it for a while, bam, done."

This got me to thinking. Every encounter with a playmate should be organic. If my female playmate likes to give blow jobs, then she will give some kind of visual or verbal que and she will do what she likes and if I am not enjoying it, I will lead her into something else. And if she does not like to do BJs, well for me it is not a necessary thing and it is not expected.

Post script -- My favorite is face-to-face sex but owing to the fact that I have never met a playmate who did not enjoy my going down on her, it's going to happen every time, either before or after, or both before and after.

I find that when I give a blow job it gets me wet...

Like you funcouple, giving head increases my wife's level of arousal. After a few minutes of sucking cock she's ready to go.

I always give my wife oral when we play. When we are in a threesome with our playmate Bill, he always starts by giving my wife oral while I am kissing her and playing with her breasts. That's the surest way for my wife to have her first couple of orgasms. After that she will suck both of us and we will each have intercourse with her.

Bill fell on the ice the week before Christmas. He really hurt his shoulders and wrists so he has been our of commission for a while. Since threesomes are not possible, my wife has gone over to his place a few times and giving him BJs. It's amazing how much he appreciates it. When my wife got together with him this afternoon he was well enough to start by giving my wife oral.

He has had a real thing for my wife for as long as we have known him. In fact that's the reason he and his first wife seduced us into swinging. After his second wife died a couple years ago we three have gotten much closer and have a polyamorous relationship with him.