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What makes a great kisser?

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I'm one of the "yes, kissing is absolutely fine with other partners" type of swinger. With that in mind, what makes someone go from a good kisser to a great one? Is it the hands and where they are moving? It isn't your longevity as a couple and comfort level if it is a play partner. Tongue technique? Mashable lip factor? Wetness or lack thereof? What do you think?

 

Kisses,

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Clarification on a phrase above - regarding longevity and comfort. The assumption is that you wouldn't be kissing your life partner or spouse. If you're playing with a swapped partner there is probably not that history or comfort there. So what blows off your doors when you get kissed by one of them?

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So things that don't work for me: needing a snorkel and then a beach towel after to mop my face off. Do not stick your tongue in my ear. Because that's just gross. And please don't try to taste the back of my throat.

 

What works: a partner who is energetically sensitive, who can intuitively pick up on my body language, and finds that chemistry "flow" and goes with it. Kissing should be soft and passionate, and should done without over-thinking it. It IS an intimate act (because it's sexual, and sex is intimate), but I feel that everyone is deserving of this kind of respectful acknowledgement of their worth and desirability.

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Hubby told me that a great kisser was one that makes you dick hard with first or 2nd kiss. I think a similar response cold be applied from the lady’s side as well, especially so in the LS context.

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I will not pretend to know what makes kissing great. A kiss is just a kiss but, for sure, different each time and different with each person with whom you exchange a kiss.

 

For me it's right with eyes open, lips touching more places than lips, and hands-bodies busy at the same time.

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A firm kiss, like you mean it. Like you wanna eat me. My mouth will just fall open as wide as you want it.... I love kissing and especially love when guys kiss like girls!

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I enjoy a wide range of kissing styles, but by far my favorite with a potential new partner is a technique I can only call "please". He comes in slowly for a kiss, touching my face or holding me gently by the back of my head/neck...then doesn't kiss me. Our faces are close, our lips may be hovering and brushing together ever so slightly, perhaps teasing a cheek or neck with soft caresses...our breath warm and fast, my lips will start to quiver with the desire for the actual kiss. Eventually, we get there, but before we do - in that sweet serendipitous moment of desire, my body tingles with want and torture - THAT is the most delicious and memorable kissing.

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I enjoy a wide range of kissing styles, but by far my favorite with a potential new partner is a technique I can only call "please". He comes in slowly for a kiss, touching my face or holding me gently by the back of my head/neck...then doesn't kiss me. Our faces are close, our lips may be hovering and brushing together ever so slightly, perhaps teasing a cheek or neck with soft caresses...our breath warm and fast, my lips will start to quiver with the desire for the actual kiss. Eventually, we get there, but before we do - in that sweet serendipitous moment of desire, my body tingles with want and torture - THAT is the most delicious and memorable kissing.

 

That's awesome, angelkin! You should be writing erotic fiction.

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Angelkin has the right idea; I love that moment of anticipation, when you're feeling one another out. It's that impossibly tortuous tease of just wanting to KNOW what they taste like. It's the mindfuck of it that gets me going. I also like a kiss that builds slowly, starting as Angelkin so eloquently described, and moving to tentative, pleading brushes, to someone's tongue politely tasting the other's lip, almost begging permission. Your partner welcomes you fully, and you find yourself sinking into them, entangling with them physically, energetically, and deeply. You connect with them.

 

I agree that kissing is extremely intimate - as is any sexual act. I'm somewhat empathic, and I pick up on others' energies and the flavour of their thoughts. I see people as souls walking around in their meat-suits, and I'm always interested in getting to know them. When you kiss someone, you get to connect to this other person - the soul, not just the body. This makes a lot of people very uncomfortable, but it does not bother me in the least. Just because I happen to meet and connect with someone, it doesn't mean that now we have to get an apartment together, adopt a golden retriever and start picking out china patterns. We can connect, enjoy and appreciate one another, and let one another go to continue living their life with their own life partner. It was just an enjoyable meeting of souls for a moment, giving one another the loving respect we each deserve, and our lives are the richer for it.

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My ex wife was a total b*tch, but a fabulous kisser. For us, it was always a texture thing. Actually feeling the texture of the "moist" not "sloppy" lips. The tongue should be used to enhance this, not as a wash cloth.

BTW, my GF is infinitely superior in every other aspect of sexuality and emotion, except kissing. IDK why that is, but it's the truth. GF is a GREAT kisser, don't get me wrong, but her kisses are more emotion and less eroticism. Ex wife's were the perfect mixture of both.

Also, I dated a Japanese Lady and she was a really good kisser, but most of her kisses were on the face or body, her lip work was perfunctory, at best. An examplwe is that she would kiss with lips open and the tip of the tongue out, but she would also kiss and lick my armpits which drove me crazy with lust.

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The greatest kisses are the most emotional ones. A connection. The kind that makes your whole body relax and surrender.

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I think for a guy, the kiss makes your dick hard and for the girl, the kiss makes you tremble with excitement! either way it leaves you craving for more!

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It has always been our (wife's and mine) contention that a good kisser is usually a good lover and a bad kisser is not. So, the kiss is important to knowing what lies ahead with a new person. I like a kiss that starts off soft with variations in position (just the upper lip in my mouth and then just the lower). I like a mouth that opens and closes and accepts my tongue as I accept yours. Don't be afraid to breath in my mouth as I do to you to show each other our building excitement. The pressure needs to increase and the depth of tongue as well. An occasional short break to kiss your neck and then back to your mouth. Talk to me as we kiss. Moan in my mouth. Then when the kissing finally stops it's with a rush of air into our lungs.

 

Isn't that a description of good love making as well as good kissing? I think so!

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