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I got an off question here. Has anyone on this board have a hysterectomy and still sexually active and enjoying sex? We are planning on swinging and wife swapping, but now my wife is getting a hysterectomy on Halloween night. We're both worried about her losing interest in sex. If anyone has any information or has known someone that went through this please let me know if anything positive has come out of having the operation. She doesn't want it, but has to have it done.

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I have played with a few women that have had a hysterectomy and they were all quite enthusiastic.

 

Hopefully some of the ladies on the board will be able to give personal experience.

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my wife had a hysterectomy many years ago and is still very sexually active with me and with a longtime male friend of ours. And what's more amazing is that she will be 71 in just a few days. She is also multi-orgasmic.

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That's great news, I worry about whether or not my wife will still be sexually active afterward. I still worry, but your post makes it a little reassuring. I still have to remember everyone is different. Maybe we'll get lucky and she'll become a squirter.

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I have played with many women who have had hysterectomies, and I think we have enjoyed ourselves! Granted, there is a selection bias in my "experiment", because the people I've played with are people who wanted to play! But at least that proves that it is possible for a woman who has had a hysterectomy to enjoy sex afterwards.

 

I have heard of one case (a lifestyle pen-pal, with whom I've not played) in which the procedure left the woman a little, as she says, "shallower" than before. She now finds that she has a little bit of discomfort with longer penises (unfortunately including her husband), if they penetrate her very deeply. But, if the guy is built right, or careful, she can enjoy sex a lot!

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Be sure she gets replacement therapy that has a minuscule amount of testosterone. After my surgery healed. I found I was able to take a deeper thrust. The estrogen-t helps me to lube and to release lots of moisture as I get excited in the passion.

 

However, I always have a small amount of Astro Glide to use to massage my clit and whomever I fucking.

 

I am more multi orgasmic since the surgery and feel healthier. Most of our sex buddies share the same surgery and are happy to just be able to fuck any "time of the month."

 

We get zero complaints from the husbands. Regardless, health is first!

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My wife had a total hysterectomy when she was 32 years old because of cancer. She lost total care for sex. She went religious. I thought our swinging was over. Talked to my doctor. He put her on estrogen shots. Did the trick. She was back. Horny as ever until four years ago she was taken off her estrogen shots. Said at her age could cause cancer. Found a great GYN and she started her on a estrogen cream to be put in her vagina. She is as active as ever now. It does effect some women very negatively toward sex.

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I had a hysterectomy 2 years ago. Healing was tough and it took a while, PLEASE be patient with her and give her time to adjust. Aside from normal surgery recovery there was also a fear of injury for me. Hubby would insert fingers (a big turn on for me before) and I would be afraid of him hitting a sore spot. It also seemed more sensitive in that he keeps his nails neatly trimmed but I could swear I had felt them scratching and that made me nervous which is a passion killer.

 

It took quite a while for me to get back on my feet fully without reservations. About 6 months I'd say. I also had problems with being shallower than I had been before but don't worry, us ladies can stretch with gentle practice.

 

There was also mental healing I had to do around my femininity. What makes me a woman, it left scars - will those bother him, will I feel different to him, etc. Love and support from hubby helped me through it.

 

Today I'm active, healthy and able to enjoy sex and swinging with the same vigor and abilities as before the surgery. I hope healing for your wife is going well and she's on a road to quick recovery.

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Thank you for all the responses. Next month is her operation. I think I posted somewhere it was last month, but had the dates wrong. So it seems there is light at the end of the tunnel. I joke with her and say her mouth still works, but I really just want her to take her time and heal properly.

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Greetings...

 

First, best wishes to your wife for a speedy recovery. Two or three things that might help both expectations and recovery.

 

Hysterectomy can be performed either as a conventional operation through the lower abdominal wall or trans-vaginally. The choice of route depends on the indication for hysterectomy, whether there have been prior operations and so on. It is worth asking the surgeon what route s/he plans. The route through the lower abdominal wall is typically performed through a Pfannenstiel incision, a cosmetically favorable incision leaving the scar just above the pubic bone. Scars take about 6 months to completely mature. Regardless of route the surgeon takes, the cervix and uterus are removed. If both ovaries and the Fallopian tubes are also removed this is typically done through the abdominal wall. In either case, the vagina is sewn shut there the cervix is removed. This takes several weeks to heal sufficiently before starting sexual intercourse again.

 

Especially if an abdominal route is chosen, one of the best things she can do right now is increase her exercise before the operation. Hour-long walks. Increasing time on the treadmill or the other machines at the gym. She will recover faster. It is important to ask her surgeon how quickly post op she can resume an exercise regimen such as walking--either outside or on a treadmill, on a stationary bike, on an elliptical machine. The sooner she resumes the exercise activity post-op, the faster she will recover. No one will want her lifting weights and so on. Walking on a treadmill or using an elliptical machine or a stationary bike can be easier than negotiating streets and sidewalks. She can expect to be told to not do any heavy lifting or strenuous exercise for several weeks following surgery. However, you should ask specifically about how soon she can be up and walking for 30 min or an hour at a time. Most surgeons recommend early ambulation. Again, whatever your surgeon says is the right answer.

 

The comment about hormone replacement therapy is worth asking your doctor about.

 

What follows is only general advice. I include it as a framework for speaking with your surgeon. Whatever your surgeon instructs, follow that instruction. With that disclaimer...

 

--Most post-operative pain medication instructions are unclear. Because of this patients keep taking more and more pills--typically an opiate mixed with acetaminophen-- without clear expectations of the effects and how their body is responding. Often this leads to misunderstanding and early requests for refills.

 

--Instead of the usual "fixed-dose-combination" pain medications that include both and opiate and Tylenol (acetaminophen) in a single tablet, I prefer to prescribe the opiate (I prescribe oxycodone, but there are others) pills separate from the acetaminophen pills. (if a patient has liver disease, acetaminophen may not be appropriate)

 

--What I tell patients is the following:

 

1. Take one of the oxycodone pills. Fifteen minutes later, get up and walk as far as you can. To the bathroom, to the front door, two round trips to the front door, whatever. Then rest. The oxycodone effect is usually maximum at 45 min or so and wears off in about 3-4 hours.

 

2. Two hours after taking one of the oxycodone pills, take one of the acetaminophen tablets. Note that there is still some residual effect from the oxycodone so the pain won't be so severe. Again, 15 min later, get up and walk as far as you can. Then rest. The acetaminophen effect is maximal at about 45 min and wears off in about 3-4 hours.

 

3. Two hours after the acetaminophen tablet, take one of the oxycodone pills. Fifteen minutes later, get up and walk.

 

And so on for the day.

 

What you are doing is a sort of "leapfrog" with the medications. You are still taking each one only once every four hours.There is always some pain medication active.

 

The next day, continue with the "leapfrogging"--alternating the opiate and the acetaminophen--but lengthen the interval between pills. Thus instead of every two hours, lengthen the interval to two hours and 30 minutes.

 

The day after, stretch out the interval between pills to three hours. Now you are taking each pain medication at intervals of every six hours. Make sure the exercise--walk to the mailbox, around the block, whatever-- is planned starting about 15 minutes after one or the other pills is taken.

 

Keep taking longer walks.

 

What happens is that as the inflammation and pain subside, the patient is still getting pain medication but--at the end of the intervals, the patient is getting short periods where there is effectively no pain medication in the system. By the time the patient gets to intervals of four hours or more between pills, the last 30 min or so the patient is nearly medication free. The patient might feel a little stiff, but many patients prefer that to feeling drugged.

 

This approach seems to get patients "off of the pain medications" reasonably fast.

 

Once again, follow your surgeon's instructions. However, if this sort of "alternating" approach stretching out the time intervals makes sense to you and to your surgeon, you might find it useful.

 

Good luck.

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Good luck and best wishes for a smooth recovery. This is tough over the holidays. Little things to pamper her will be remembered for a long time. Keep thinking comfort and simplification at home. I am sure others will chime in on inexpensive and simple things that you can do to make her just a little more comfortable during the recovery period. Books and magazines, a warm robe and slippers, a footstool and so on can make life so much easier.

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Guest FunintheSnow

No experience to share, but just wanted to say we wish her a safe operation and a rapid recovery.

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Guest luvin eye full

Hi, hope all goes well.

 

My sister-in-law has had one and she does it like a rabbit still lol.

No loss of sex drive - though they left one ovary I'm not sure if that has any thing to do with it.

Womb and other ovary were taken out due to child birth complications.

 

Also the mental aspect of it can be huge for some chicks - do not worry, your womb does make the girl - if you have these kind of problems then go see the doc - but just to let you know I don't no of any man that thinks you're not a woman after this operation so be at peace with this please. You are and always will be worth more then any one body part. But I think the husband would of told you this already and he knows you better then any one.

 

Once again good luck guys!

 

regards.

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10 hours left. She told me she having a vaginal hysterectomy and leaving the ovaries intact, well at least one of them. And yes this is due to a child birth complication when my child was born.

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10 hours left. She told me she having a vaginal hysterectomy and leaving the ovaries intact, well at least one of them. And yes this is due to a child birth complication when my child was born.

 

Well hope it goes well, Yes I know 2 ladies that have had after child birth problems - I think we are lucky in so much as we have the skill to help, it must of been bad right up till the 1900's, and you never know in 20 years they may be able to throw some stem cells in and give it a swirl and bingo a new womb!

 

Of course that would be after we can make all men 6 foot 5 inchs tall lol

 

Once again good luck and tell her many are thinking of her and wishing for the best outcome possible for her and you.

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Hey that's great - hope to here some good progress on the recovery now

 

Regards

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Great to hear that all went well, thanks for letting us know. Wishing her the speediest of recoveries.

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Guest luvin eye full

Great to here - both the wife and i send are best wishes for you two and a speedy recovery.

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My wife had a hysterectomy before we met. She's the horny 24/7. She says nothing changed in her sex drive after the hysterectomy. Now having her ovaries removed made a difference, but hormone therapy has helped that.

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Guest luvin eye full

Hey CuckholdTheClow

 

The wife and I were just wondering how your wife is doing, all ok I hope.

 

Regards.

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I hope your wife is doing well and glad to see that you are an understanding husband. I am very happy to see such positive responses to you question. I felt I should share my story.

I had a hysterectomy after my second child at 32 in 2013. We were very concerned about sex afterwards.

It took about 6 months for me to heal. The next 18 months were great! I have a high sex drive and I continue to have a sex drive and interest in sex.

After the 18 month high, my ovaries stopped making estrogen and I now have vaginal atrophy.

I have extreme vaginal dryness and tear easily. I can handle deep penetration if it starts slow. The main issues are on the outer vaginal tissue.

Sex leaves me sore and sometimes with tears. I can not always produce enough lubrication so we always have to use astroglide or supplement even with hand stimulation. My husband can not be too rough.

I am told that I can not have oral hormone replacement due to my age and risk of cancer. I have recently been given estrace vaginal cream (cost $200 per 90 days) to use twice weekly.

Even with this some days are good, some are ok, and some are bad.

So for our family, it has become a very frustrating road. We no longer swing because I am afraid of the pain or lack of understanding from another partner. We have a high sex drive but a broken tool and almost inability to do anything.

I hope you have a better experience but I felt the need to share.

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In our experience, we were met with the similar conditions of surgery outcomes. The OBGYN really had no solution, but our Family Doctor did. He first did a set of tests which included the free-iron levels along with testosterone levels. The plain estrogen replacement that the OBGYN was just not helping. He prescribed Estratest in the lightest dosage of testosterone. You can get an GoodRX discount for this. Expect anywhere from 40-130 dollars for 30 days.

 

Mrs Afterwork has been on this for years. We still happen to like to use lubricates more for just adding a "toy" or an "external" element to our foreplay. We tend to use those that are compatible with oral pleasuring as well. The result of the Estratest is that the libido is way, way better and the vaginal dryness is completely gone. We have reached a point this June where we both will be tested once again for our T levels in the same full view of free-iron as well as a bunch of other conditions.

 

All hormone replacements according to the "side effects" labels suggest several not nice conditions. In our case, we just test, test, test with the doctor. Sadly, our Family Doctor can only prescribe this for a certain period of time before we have to see an OBGYN. Probably a good idea as a OBGYN checkup is absolutely merited from time to time.

 

Mrs Afterwork also prolasped, but she returned to normal and now has a comfortable time after introduction to the new meds and a lot of Kegal work and hand help by Mr Afterwork along with ever increasing soft dildos. Our LS group of friends are not without more than one couple that have experienced the same issues. The husbands are very aware and very responsive to the conditions making for comfortable swinging.

 

We have one couple that was using a vaginal gel that contained the testosterone. That turned out to be almost an STD in that (yes, we have a very close knit group that doesn't use condoms....our bad, we know but the cream pies seem to be enjoyed by both sexes) she was adding the vaginal treatment which was coming in contact with a bare penis. As sometimes happened, those same bare members ended up (specially during a group grope) either penetrating or coming in contact topically with other ladies skin or genitallia not needing such medication. Sort also important that a male not encounter additional testosterone unless he needs it.

 

For Mr. Afterwork, turned out he needed it so the chance encounter wasn't too noticeable. However, this one particular couple is a regular for us as a foursome. The transfer to Mrs Afterwork during the foursome freakouts was adding too much to her. Yes, we were doing it pretty regular with them. It was only after a very brief period of encounter that Mrs Afterwork and the lady were discussing their methods of coping with vaginal dryness previously experienced that we learned of this topical medicine appliation. Our friend now is on the same medication as Mrs Afterwork abandoning her gels. She tells us that she is having a better result. Mr Afterwork can attest to that LOL.

 

As to the cancer concern, we hope that you have sought other opinions. Some OBGYNs refuse to prescribe anything that remotely might be an issue simply out of defensive medicine.

 

We wish you well and good fortune. Regardless if you return to swinging, you might want to consider this medication as a possibility. Our sex life returned between us and then our sex life returned with our close friends. We will not be engaging in club scenes...only those folks that we feel can be caring about how life sometimes changes our physique. Mr Afterwork has his issues as well. He is on a T program and really seems to do a lot better with his Daily Cialis. Aside from the testosterone being really low, Mr Afterwork was so attentive to Mrs Afterwork's sensitivity and architecture, that he would focus so much on making certain Mrs Afterwork achieved her needs that the event was distracting. The Daily Cialis really helps him and it helps with our other partners. Makes for more than a one squirt night.

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