Heat Of The Moment, Boundary Crossed.

[Davdia 78]

On 11/12/2022 at 1:18 PM, Numex said:

We prevent these slip-ups by... not having any rules.

 

What do we do when something surprising happens in the heat of the moment?  Celebrate afterwards.  The first time my wife said "I love you" to another husband in our group?  I said that I hope he feels the same, it's good to care.  When another wife in our group made an unplanned stop at our house on her way home, and Daniela wasn't there?  My wife later asked me if it was good and sucked my dick to confirm what happened.  Heat of the moment, it's rare and good.

Telling a swinger who has specific rules they are comfortable with to just forget their pre-set boundaries and throw out all of their rules might just be the single dumbest advise I’ve ever seen given on this site. People have rules because that their comfort level, your advice is the same as saying the best way to get over getting burned is to jump head first into a fire….dumbass!!

You realize people are here for advice? Right?

[lcmim 907]

Davidia,

 

On the other hand looking at rules to see if they are serving you well, or if each, individually, is even necessary, is probably a good practice on a regular basis.

[Davdia 78]

52 minutes ago, lcmim said:

Davidia,

 

On the other hand looking at rules to see if they are serving you well, or if each, individually, is even necessary, is probably a good practice on a regular basis.

Now this is sound advice.
People have limits for a reason but together they need to be discussed and adjusted as comfort levels change.

To suggest throwing out all your rules to avoid get caught breaking one like the last person suggested was just ridiculous and careless advice.

[bbarnsworth 2,373]

You know what I think is an excellent boundary to not  cross? Not calling other people on this forum a dumbass. It's fine to disagree. It's not fine to start casting insults. Please stop.

[Numex 1,837]

On 11/14/2022 at 5:50 AM, Davdia said:

your advice is the same as saying the best way to get over getting burned is to jump head first into a fire

Your analogy is is not correct.  Jumping into a fire head first will harm anyone; doing something sexually which is consensual between the participants won't harm anyone, especially a third party.  If a spouse doesn't like something?  Make it known and decide how to go forward.  Do it again or maybe not.  There is no real harm done, unless someone is being over sensitive. 

[Numex 1,837]

On 11/19/2022 at 9:51 AM, bbarnsworth said:

You know what I think is an excellent boundary to not  cross? Not calling other people on this forum a dumbass. It's fine to disagree. It's not fine to start casting insults. Please stop.

Thank you.  But I have been called worse by better people.  🙂

[hlgcpl4fun 22]

Sabrina and I (Robert) have been in the lifestyle for a lobg time. When we first started we had lots of "rules?"  No M/F kissing, always in the same room, no one takes one for the team, condoms always for intercourse, etc. .  Over the years we have become more relaxed. We are good with 💋 kissing (that is something we usually still don't do except in rare occasions) we still are almost always in the same room, but are ok when we are not (I love walking in on Sabrina giving head or being fucked, the first time was at one of our house parties. I walked downstairs from the group room and she was giving a really hot BBC a blowjob. It was such a turn on ! Another time she was fucking a hot 22 year old in our bedroom, which was off limits for our party guests. That was really hot 🔥 so far no bareback although I would love to eat a creampie and suck their combined juices of of a cock