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HotEllie

Our first Club experience. I got caught unprepared

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Sounds like you had a nice time, you got acclimated to the Club, which is just what you wanted.

 

I wouldn't worry about the young lady; although it seems she was a little more persistent that I would expect, she should have been ready for your desire not to play, particularly since you were newbies. If I were you and your husband, I'd simply feel complimented.

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Thank you for the reply.

 

It was definitely viewed as a compliment. My takeaway for other newbies like us is that no matter how thorough we thought we were in our planning, something will still surprise you. I do hope that she was not offended.

 

My husband paraphrased a military saying that he likes: No battle plan survives first contact. :-)

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No one can be prepared for every eventuality; boundaries are helpful when used as you used them.

 

Now that you have experienced first hand that sexuality has more dimensions than you anticipated, and further experienced that "no" really does work, you may want to begin distinguishing between "not right now" and "never". In between lies the space of possibility and of fantasies that could be fulfilled.

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