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So about two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I for the first time ever visited a really great swingers club. We haven't had any other experience swinging wise, but we have been interested for a while.

 

So on this night when we went to the club, we found a couple. The female half of the couple and I (also female) really clicked and were dancing and kissing most of the night. At some point we got disconnected with them, and later we found them by accident in one of the erotic rooms. We asked if we could take place next to them. We had told them already before that we are still new to this and weren't really sure how far we were willing to go this first evening, that we weren't really ready yet for any type of swap, but having sex next to each other and the females touching is okay.

 

Which is what happened, but at some point, it felt like they really wanted more (but of course, didn't try to push us into anything, they were very very respectful) and we started to feel bad for not wanting to give more at this first time.

 

Anybody else have any experience with this? I almost felt like we were too boring for them.

 

Tonight, we are going to the same club again, and don't want to have this repeated situation. Would you all suggest to just move on fast to another space and don't spend too much time with the same couple because it will bore them?

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I guarantee you they weren't bored. Cautious, yes, standoffish, even perhaps a little scared.

 

All off us experienced swingers have a story about how newbies stated their rules, then broke them, causing drama and or sadness. We don't want to be a party to that; we want you to have fun so you'll come back and hopefully relax your rules.

 

Your mistake was lying next to them and engaging with them - they probably felt you were breaking your rules. If you don't want to engage more with this couple, keep a bit of distance from them while you are playing. If you do want to play even a bit with them, tell them what your new limits are, I'm sure they'll listen and make their own minds up about what to do.

 

Good luck.

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They probably did want more to happen, but they already knew your limits and respected them...I don't see what the problem was. It's OKAY to have limits, in fact you NEED to have limits (although they will probably change as time goes on). You current relationship is more important that what another couple MAY want; limits allow you to experiment and see how things go without really threatening the relationship. That they respected your wishes is a good thing, don't feel bad about it, feel great that they are interested enough to wait for you to maybe someday be ready for what they (may or may not, you don't really even know) want.

 

Either way, you have already been there and are back by now. How did it go? What happened?

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What Gold said!!! Don't feel bad about it. I'm sure they were not bored. Bored couples usually move on. That they continued to interact is indicative that they remained interested. Perhaps that 1st experience with that couple could be the impetus to modify your rules a bit if the couple is there the next time. Discuss too what your next steps could be. Isn't the point of getting your feet wet to progress a bit deeper into the pool? It helps to have a plan for the next one or two baby steps.

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