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    Quote Originally Posted by TexasTwosome View Post
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    The following two paragraphs, may or may not be of relevance here but, probably should be mentioned. Throughout our lives together, most of my best friends have been male. .............
    First reading you is very interesting, so thanks!
    Second, I'm curious, have you ever wondered why most of your best friends are male?

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    Sorry you had to have a persistent correspondent who was trying to lay guilt or something negative on you. This board is typically not like that, usually very supportive.

    My wife's friends are mostly male. She, like you, just isn't interested in much of the female conversations, yet she has tremendous relationships with the women who are strong and independent like her.

    Your husband is a lucky man, good luck to both of you in the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by machiavel55 View Post
    First reading you is very interesting, so thanks!
    Second, I'm curious, have you ever wondered why most of your best friends are male?
    Actually, I do know why that is.

    When I was young, I was a jock and tom boy. I loved sports, all sports (except golf and basketball)and competed at high levels of many sports. I liked climbing trees, martial arts, building forts, snakes, spiders, dirt, BMX biking, skateboarding, competitive shooting, working on cars…I hated dresses, talking, painting my nails, was Uber-competitive and could out cuss a sailor. My mother made sure that I learned all of the “girl” things like ballet and went to "manners" school but, I preferred to hang out with dad helping him build the cabinets for the dining room or pouring the concrete patio.

    All of that turned me into this weird mix of being both a very feminine looking woman but, with the competitiveness and confidence of a man.

    Most of my life I worked in a male dominated field so, my professional and social interactions were with men, sometimes managing several of them professionally.

    My current career is working with cattle horses, training the more "crazy" ones that other people won't touch. Nothing like 1100 lbs of attitude and muscle that are so good at reading body language that they can almost smell fear no matter how well you think you are covering it up.

    But, with them, while you cannot be afraid and must have confidence every step of the way, you also must have compassion and treat them fairly by their rules, not your human rules. Try to push them into something before they are ready to go there and you might end up in the hospital or the horse might end up on the meat truck to Mexico. The focus can never be your own ego (too many in my profession are all about proving how tough they are and try to dominate rather than taking the time to encourage the horse to find the right answer for themselves), everything you do must be done for the good of the horse or you will fail them. There is a fine line there. Horses have taught me a lot about humans and controlling emotions. You have to love the horse for what they are. Do what is best for them and then be able to let them go back to their lives with their owners.

    Most women find me very intimidating at first. My best female friend (a fellow horsewoman) relayed to me that for weeks after we met she was scared to death of me because I "don't take no shit" as she put it but, she is really glad she stuck it out. I don't mind it at all. I like who I am and so does the one person who really counts, DH.

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    lol Wornsilver

    If you thought that why did you not say hey ease up, For myself i was talking openly and saying what i was thinking - were you?
    and for the record i had message these two after there last post - to say hey your view point is just as important and that i will note interact with them again ( and no I'm talking to you not them lol )
    because when all is said and done we all have the right to say what we think - that's why even though i think your view is lay out of line because you did not say anything when you though what you posted - i still 100% respect your view point.

    What happens is that we all get so caught up in our own little worlds we some times forget that when asked about our intentions or why did this happen - that most of us get bent out of shape - what i wanted to understand was the why = but to do that you need to ask and talk over the answers - but if you need guilt or some thing to justify it then go ahead my friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by luvin eye full View Post
    lol Wornsilver

    If you thought that why did you not say hey ease up, For myself i was talking openly and saying what i was thinking - were you?
    and for the record i had message these two after there last post - to say hey your view point is just as important and that i will note interact with them again ( and no I'm talking to you not them lol )
    because when all is said and done we all have the right to say what we think - that's why even though i think your view is lay out of line because you did not say anything when you though what you posted - i still 100% respect your view point.

    What happens is that we all get so caught up in our own little worlds we some times forget that when asked about our intentions or why did this happen - that most of us get bent out of shape - what i wanted to understand was the why = but to do that you need to ask and talk over the answers - but if you need guilt or some thing to justify it then go ahead my friend.
    Personally, I agreed 100% with the opinions expressed in your posts...you took the words right out of my....euhhh....keyboard.

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