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Hi Everyone,

 

As some of you know by my introduction I am a married male who used to swing with my wife. We have been away from the lifestyle for about 15 years. recently she has given me permission to swing on my own with some restrictions. A lot has changed since I've grown older in that time. My sexuality has even changed and I'm finding that I want to explore my bi-side. My intention was to seek out a mature couple with a male that is also bi and wife who loves to watch. I'm really not all that interested in playing with the woman but am very turned on that she wants to see her husband and I stroking and sucking each other.

 

Shortly after I placed my first ad I got a hit and an invite for meet and greet. I took my wife along to meet these folks so she would stay in the loop. All went well and we scheduled a future time to play at their condo.

 

It had been a long long time since I played with anyone. We engaged in some "get to know each other talk for about 20 or 30 minutes and then made a move to the bedroom. The wife wanted to start out watching the men and I was eager. I didn't know how it would all go for me but I was unusually comfortable playing with his cock until it was hard. I was so hungry for his dick that I started deep throating almost immediately. This was really turning him on. He wanted to get into 69 position so we could suck each other. This was glorious! I could feel his wife's hand around my cock, guiding it into her husbands mouth. It was starting to get frantic, he was pumping in and out of my mouth, hitting the back of throat. I told him I wanted him to cum in my mouth and I was so turned on by the thought of it, as he was cumming I went down so far on his cock that my mouth was now around his balls. After he came down my throat I slowly let his cock slip out. As I watched it, it seemed like I was never going to see the end of it. I looked up and saw his wife masturbating like crazy. I reached over and placed a finger on her clit. I only worked it for about 15 seconds and she exploded. I gave her two more orgasms before she was spent. It was definitely one of the best sessions I can remember. I can't wait to get back over there. He told me I was a good cock sucker and that made me proud.

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Glad you three had fun! It seems like bi guy activity is a little more out in the open than it used to be, and that has worked to your benefit. And it sounds like the wife really enjoyed it!

 

May I ask what were the restrictions that your wife imposed for your solo activities?

 

Enjoy your next encounter!

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Your wife is sure more open-minded than mine. She, not only doesn't want to swing anymore, she doesn't want intercourse anymore. Now, since we both did have sex with others back when we were swinging, you'd think she'd be OK with something like what you and your wife have agreed on.

 

And, like you, I'd be fine being with a couple just like the one you've found.

 

And, like the previous poster asked, what are the limitations you've agreed to?

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As far as restrictions, we talked briefly about this. She doesn't like the idea of me seeking out single females or males and I wouldn't be comfortable in that arrangement anyway. I also believe from our conversation that she preferred that I keep it to only one couple, possibly two. That is fine with me because I don't want most of my time consumed with hook-ups. At my age I don't have the energy or patients for that and I'm quite busy and happy with other interests.

 

ViSex, I was in exactly the same situation you are in. After menopause, my wife lost most all of her sex drive and became REALLY sensitive down there so any kind of penetration was intolerable. I haven't penetrated her for about 6 years now. In order to have some kind of human sexual contact, about 2 or 3 times a year we would plan an evening of mutual masturbation and if I worked at it long enough she would orgasm. After a couple sessions of this it became apparent her heart just wasn't in it. I couldn't make her go through it anymore just to satisfy my needs.

 

We talked about it, I had to tell her that I wasn't going to live out the rest of my life masturbating. Amazingly she understood and I proposed a solution that didn't seem to threaten her. At this point in my life I really wanted to explore my bi side, pretty taboo years ago so it was very infrequent and always incomplete. I really wasn't all that interested in intercourse with the couples wife but having the wife present seems to add a dimension of security for my wife and myself. I knew there were plenty of women out there that get very turned on watching two men so this is what I sought out. I think some of the reason she agreed was it takes all the pressure off of her and as long as she is kept in the loop and nothing is hidden from her she is somewhat settled with it. I know that certain aspects of it probably weigh on her. Not because I want sex with other people but probably because she feels failure for not being able to provide for me, not her fault.

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check out your wife's testosterone level. Mrs Afterwork had same issues and we spoke with our GP. After testing, he changed her medication from simple estrogen therapy to be "est-T". The "T" is a very small amount of oral testosterone add to her normal estrogen.

 

 

Now she is comfortable, gets wet easily, and is back to multiple O's. I have to take daily Cialis and a testosterone cream just to keep in sync with her. We also use a small amount of lube to help enhance the fun.

 

Doc says after menopause or in our case a hysterectomy, plus aging (happened at 59), that a woman's minute testosterone level almost vanishes. An extremely small amount is need to help balance her desires and, vaginal responses we were told. It does work and she it is as if she was twenty something again.

 

Mrs Afterwork had zero interest until she got that med.....now she is making certain that both of us are taking our medical helpers. Yea!

 

In our swinging history, she was bi-casual. After the surgery, even that was off the table. Now...more back to our normal experiences.

 

Good luck

(please make certain testing and a doctor is utilized. Scary some of the Internet medication resources. Free Iron in one's system must be considered when anyone is contemplating the use of testosterone....per our Doctor)

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Thanks for the advise. Unfortunately we've looked at all the options. The problem is there is a history of cancer in her family on both sides so she is understandably reluctant to go through hormone treatment. Seems even the latest treatments can not claim 100% non-reactive. I'd rather have her around and worry free than take a chance.

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You have to pick living a long and healthy life over sex IMHO. Do what is best for both of you and I hope that you creatively and safely find happiness for both of you.

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I'm certainly not an expert on the hormone replacement but I do have a similar story and so I have some lay knowledge based on the information we were given. I know this post is over a year old. I hope you are still around to read it.

 

Basic background. My wife had a total hysterectomy a few years ago. Oral estrogen was fine for the first three years or so but then the drive rapidly declined. Someone mentioned a long and healthy life. My wife was at a point of being completely unhealthy due to weight gain, she was suffering from short bouts of severe depression, irrational mood swings, fatigue, you name it all the symptoms were there not to mention the lose of sex drive. Her quality of life had taken a major hit. After talking about it she went to her OB/GYN to plead her case and see what could be done if anything. He suggested pellets which he had started using with great success over the last few years. They have been a life and relationship saver for us. It's been an amazing change. The mood swings are gone, energy is back to the point she is continuing her education, weight is dropping and her body is toning up. Her drive is back to the point that we've finally taken the plunge we always talked about in this lifestyle.

 

I've been taking testosterone supplements for several years, first the creams/gels and currently I administer my own injections under a doctor's supervision. I've asked my doc about switching over to pellets. I think he doesn't want to lose a patient because the only negative he can give me is that if they get the dose wrong you're stuck with too little or too much T for 4 or 5 months and can't do anything about it. That's not exactly correct though. If too much( which is not likely since a knowledgeable and responsible doc with start you out on the low side anyway) you can take progesterone short term until your next implants, if too little they can add a pellet, or two, to bring it up.

 

But here's the most promising part:

Pellets are biodentical hormone therapy. They are not synthetic but derived from plants so they reportedly don't have the same cancer risks as synthetic hormones. I think emerging data may suggest biodentical hormones may actually act as a preventative for certain types of cancer and other diseases so if there are specific risks in your wife's family you could actually lower them with biodentical hormones. Obviously, don't take my word for any of this. Seek out a physician that uses pellet therapy. Get as much information as you can, ask the appropriate questions and do the research. Also ask your current physician about it for a contrasting viewpoint. Information is key.

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