No Expectations but Things Went Great!

Sounds like you guys had a great experience! Awesome to hear. Nothing better then taking a no expectation approach to the lifestyle. Everything is that much better when you do.

Sounds like you guys had a great experience! Awesome to hear. Nothing better then taking a no expectation approach to the lifestyle. Everything is that much better when you do.

I'm definitely glad we approached things without a bunch of expectations and criteria! We'd obviously talked a lot about how we felt about the lifestyle in general but because we went only expecting to have sex with each other, the other fun we had was a great bonus! It was also a great reassurance that neither of us get jealous seeing each other enjoy someone else, we were both a little nervous that we liked the idea of it but the reality may be a bit too intense and it's so nice that wasn't the case!

NiknMik, I'm so glad to hear that you guys had a great experience!

It sounds like there was not a single negative thing for you to report, which is great. It sounds like neither of you felt rushed or pressured, nor did you feel like you were in over your heads (pun intended). So kudos to both of you for being bold and adventurous together!

One question I would have is, what about your orgasm? And the other woman's? I'd say that you two are owed a crashing orgasm each! I hope you four get together again, and those lucky guys get their chance to repay you two for your generosity.

NiknMik, I'm so glad to hear that you guys had a great experience!

 

It sounds like there was not a single negative thing for you to report, which is great. It sounds like neither of you felt rushed or pressured, nor did you feel like you were in over your heads (pun intended). So kudos to both of you for being bold and adventurous together!

 

One question I would have is, what about your orgasm? And the other woman's? I'd say that you two are owed a crashing orgasm each! I hope you four get together again, and those lucky guys get their chance to repay you two for your generosity.

I got off from my own fingers, and my husband certainly took care of me when we got back to the hotel! Her husband got her off as she was licking me clean, so we were both definitely taken care of! I agree though, can't wait to play some more if they're up for it!

I'm glad to hear also about the party invite. Do you guys have any "slut cards"? You can go to Vistaprint online and get business cards made, with your names and contact information on it. If you're on SLS or any of the other sites, you can put those site nicknames in there, too. I mention this because you might meet a few people at the party that you'd want to see again sometime, and you can just hand them a card if you have them!

This is why we say always go to clubs with no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens. Sometimes nothing will happen, sometimes something wonderful happens, but if you go with huge expectations, the reality usually won't match and the self imposed pressure makes the evening less-than-enjoyable. Great to here that your first visit was...memorable. Congratulations and welcome to the club! We await to hear about your next experience!

This is why we say always go to clubs with no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens. Sometimes nothing will happen, sometimes something wonderful happens, but if you go with huge expectations, the reality usually won't match and the self imposed pressure makes the evening less-than-enjoyable. Great to here that your first visit was...memorable. Congratulations and welcome to the club! We await to hear about your next experience!

Yeah we were kind of "negative" going in. I assumed my bit of stomach from pregnancy/c-sectionc and not having perfect and perky boobs would knock me down and my husband was a bit like... "Uh who's going to want to sleep with me?" I was like "Well I like sleeping with you!" and he was like "No one gives a crap about a half inch of loose skin". We decided to let the fear go and just go have some fun public sex and we bumped into some awesome and sexy people!

I'd be lying if I didn't admit we both hope we get a hard swap at the party in a couple of weeks but even if we "just" end up screwing each other with an audience, that's totally ok. Having M tell me about how awesome it was to watch me suck another guy off, I really hope I get the chance to watch him go down on another lady!

I assumed my bit of stomach from pregnancy/c-section and not having perfect and perky boobs would knock me down and my husband was a bit like... "Uh who's going to want to sleep with me?"

If there was just some way to let everyone see that less than perfect doesn't mean a thing...

The hottest moment was when she told my husband to "hold on" because she has to help me "take him deeper" and she came over and started rubbing on my body but pushed my head even further down so I was basically choking on him. I started rubbing myself at that point and she told me I was "such a good girl" and I swear to god I think I will get myself off thinking about her saying that for years to come, haha. She went back to pleasuring my husband and as I noticed her guy was getting close, I pulled off and said I wanted him to finish on my chest and for her to lick it off. She grabbed me and told me to start sucking on my husband while she finished her own off on my chest and started licking me. My husband exploded and then her and I had a lovely deep kiss afterwards and we just kind of hung out for a bit enjoying the afterbuzz.

I can honestly say that if I'd just watched Mrs. EastInWest gag on her friend's husband's cock, then her friend started finishing him off on her chest, nobody would need to suck on me. I'd just spontaneously climax. Great story, I'm glad this happened for you.

If there was just some way to let everyone see that less than perfect doesn't mean a thing...

I definitely think we're probably our own worst critics. We've been talking with another couple and getting close to setting up a date to get together and meet and they seemed shocked that we were very interested because they're about 20 years older than us. My husband says porn sets up group sex to look like an airbrushed thing so that's probably why we felt so insecure heading into it, I think he may be onto something!

I definitely think we're probably our own worst critics.

ABSOLUTELY! I was just trying to explain that on another thread.

My husband says porn sets up group sex to look like an airbrushed thing...

Just like Playboy and Penthouse show images of these 'perfect' bodies (same with pro models). Find a picture of those same women without the makeup and airbrush...they actually look like every other woman, usually they are rather 'plain'. Talk about setting up women for failure! Even the women in the pictures don't look like themselves in real life.