First hotel overnight

This new years we had a rare treat, that being our first overnight hotel stay after a party.

Took a while for us to plan this one, we have 4 kids and my parents enjoy going out on NYE with friends so that knocked off one of the potential babysitter options. Managed to get 3 members of my wife's family to take the kids though (2, 1,1 split) and we were set.

We were thinking about this night for some time, reveling in what we wanted to do and what potential there was. Of course, as many of you know, detailed fantasy plans of that sort almost never come to fruition.

This wonderful day started off pretty poor. Probably bad enough that some folks would have tossed in the towel.

First thing was the weather. It was sleet/rain/icy out, about 10-15 degrees. Roads were horrid.

Hotel check in time was anytime after noon, party technically started at 9, although many people were arriving in afternoon for a bunch of pre party gatherings.

Our babysitting drop off times were staggered from 3-4pm, so at 2:30 we left to hit the first stop. Roads were bad, but we got there fine. Then, about 10 minutes out, our minivan broke down. A tie rod end broke as I was driving down the highway, it must have been nearly broken for a while and just finally gave up the ghost.

Luckily it was a straight section of road, so I just hit the brakes and slowed down gently to the side, and parked in the plowed section of the shoulder.

Called a tow truck, and called my parents house (we were about 8 miles away) to see if I could tow the car there and borrow their SUV.

Typical towing delays and whatnot set us back about an hour, but on we went.

Dropped off #3 and #4, and then we got a phone call from the neighbor (who was set up to feed our dog) that our house was locked and he couldnt get in.

Nice.

Even better is our house key was on the key ring for the broken van, back at my parents house, which is 30 minutes in the opposite direction..

We had a spare key located at my wife's sisters place though, which was nearby. Scrounged around for a while to find the key (sister is a bit messy), finally found it, drove back home and unlocked the house.

Ok, finally we are on our way. About 2.5 hours after we planned, but still on the way nonetheless.

Messy drive to the hotel, roads were getting worse by the minute and some drivers really shouldn't be on them in that condition.

We arrive, and are greeted by familiar faces at the check in desk and fellow hotties in the lobby. Looking good, this night will be very fun.

We go to our room, and luckily find that a couple we have previously met and are suitably attracted to are in the neighboring room. Another good sign.

We get dressed up, and go to grab some food at the nearby restaurant. In there we meet up with another friend, plus another couple that we wanted to meet. This wasnt planned, just a stroke of luck. Cool. Even though only one of us hit it off with this new couple, it was nice to meet them in person to figure that out, and that still means one of us could possibly enjoy a new playmate at a future time.

Onto the party. Good party, plenty of dancing, meet up with many others we have talked with before, plus some new ones.

Best part of the night was a hot tub. Lots of topless action, and some interesting dare type games being played. Great way to spend a few hours.

The night came to and end at 4am, and we went to bed exhausted and by ourselves. That is something we definitely didn't expect, but it was a choice we made basically due to how the pairings all ended up. What happened was a couple we were talking/dancing/kissing with off and on throughout the night invited us back to their room. But, they also invited another couple back too, one that was doing what we term "clinging", meaning hanging on them for a few hours and not leaving. We ended up declining the invite, basically because the clingers turned us off, and we realized that when push came to shove, one of us would end up being the odd man out since there wasnt enough attractions to go around (we are turned off by clingers). So instead of most likely creating that sort of situation, we bowed out, so that the clingers and the original couple could have a straightforward evening.

Onto the impressions. This morning we woke up and talked about the night, what fun we had, what experiences, and what we could learn from it.

Our fantasy plans were that we would hook up once or twice during the evening, and reality was that we didnt hook up at all.

Now, in looking at this someone might think that it was a "failed" night. But in retrospect we learned a lot from the experience. We learned that we can have a very fun night even without hooking up. We also learned a bit about ourselves (from the hot tub activities) in terms of what we like in a group setting and what we dont.

Oh, another thing to note. This morning we went over to our neighbors room and had a nice soft type of situation. Ran out of time (had to check out of hotel) otherwise we would have full swapped, but the soft stuff was definitely fun. Fun enough that we exchanged some mail back and forth about meeting up again soon.

Had to say it was a nice ending note for the total NYE package.

Overall it was a great night. Not what we expected, but still fun. We met some new folks, had some fun times, and stayed true to our desire to just go with the flow and not push into a situation that doesnt feel right (clingers).

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Overall it was a great night. Not what we expected, but still fun. We met some new folks, had some fun times, and stayed true to our desire to just go with the flow and not push into a situation that doesnt feel right (clingers).

This story is a great example of what I love about my BF and the lifestyle. It is great to have fantasies about what you hope might happen at any given party or on any given weekend but as long as you stay open minded you can enjoy whatever happens in reality. My BF and I had a similar weekend that didn't go at all the way it was planned but we had a great time anyway. We laughed, had wonderful sex and just spent some quality time together.

Happy New Year, MN. I'm glad that your weekend was fun.

I'm glad that ya'll managed to get there and have a good time despite all the snafus. And kudos on realizing that the success (or "failure") of an evening has a lot to do with not only the choices you make, but the attitude you take.

As for the "clingers" . . . We had a similar experience not long ago. A couple of weeks ago, we attended our favorite meet and greet for the first time in several months. Mr. Sweet and I (at least as a couple) had been going through a bit of a slump, and we were eager to see some of our friends at the party. A few of the folks we were hoping to see backed out of the party, which happens from time to time.

We arrived to see a few good friends, a few new folks, and a couple we’d met a few months ago, and were hoping to “get to know better.” The crowd was pretty small (only about 30 attendees) so the pickings were slim. As we approached Pebbles and Bam Bam to say hi, I was stopped a bit short. Barney, one of our good friends, was practically glued to Pebbles’ side, and I joked to Mr. Sweet that I was half afraid I’d get my hand slapped for even hugging her. I tried to just talk/be friendly, but it was obvious that Barney was “staking his claim” on them for the night.

Bam Bam was being friendly and sociable, which at least reassured us there was still some interest on their part. But we chose to back off and give Barney and Betty space to make their move. So like ya'll, hopefully, we'll get our chance at a later time.

Happy New Year!

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Yeah, not quite sure what else to do with "clingers" than how we handled it this time.

Last time we encountered a clinger we later heard back from the objects of that clinger that they wish we would have interrupted more, because they weren't sure how to tell the clinger to back off a little bit.

Sounds like you handled it right. It's up to the cling-ees to tell the cling-ers to back off or walk away from them. But now that you know they'd have preferred your company, perhaps things will be different next time.

In our case, we also knew that Barney and Betty had been in a much worse slump than ours, and we wanted them to have a good time. I'm of the, "if it's meant to happen, it will eventually," mindset.

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Wow what an evening! Glad to hear that you are not viewing the evening as a failure. It sounded like you and your spouse had an awesome time. You handled the clinger situation great. I highly doubt if this will be your last encounter situation so it will okay out great in the future if you want it. I love hotel parties the energy they bring are terrific.

Thanks for sharing the story I've read many stories here of how things started off sooooo poorly (as yours did) and the couple threw in the towel. Ok, you didn't get the fantasy but it still sounds like a fun date, even so

Good for you to hanging in there. I think your experience mirrors some of our earlier times in terms of expectations. It seems like the more expectations we had, the less we actually had anything happen. We now go into most situations not expecting anything, or even expecting nothing to happen, and then we are wowed. Take a look at your morning soft swap...you probably never would have guess that would have happened. Our attitude is that we'll end up having a great time as a couple and whatever happens on top of that is a little extra!

That's definitely a good attitude about the whole situation, and the way you handled it was spot-on!

The more we are getting involved, the more the "clinger" thing is evident. Not to hijack the thread, but we went to party where we had the clingers on us. Not a bad thing until you realize that the clingers love your company, but they're not into the playing part. They like the concept of going to a LS party, but playing isn't their thing ... Doesn't quite make sense, but then again we're pretty new to this, and we're discovering that each person is literally different from the next when it comes to preferences. We've been chatting with a couple who said that this also happened to them while at a resort in Mexico. For 6 days, they had to find refuge and felt like they were sneaking around to find some new friends that wanted to play.

It's good to hear how you guys dealt with it, and that's something we can keep in mind if we run into a similar scenario in the future.