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The wife and I have recently shared our inner most fantasies with each other. We've been married 3, together for nearly 8 years. Trust is no issue, love is plentiful...life is good. We almost always have sex at least once a day and it's amazing every time. She has always been sorta a nympho for lack of a better word - she just loves sex - rough hard soft passionate anal oral anything...she loves to be tied up and so forth. I don't know how it happened to me but I became obsessed with the thought of another man fucking my wife. The thought of seeing her in so much pleasure just drives me crazy...when we fuck my number one goal is to make her feel good...I love doing anything I can to make it better for her. To try and make this shorter as I could go on forever...I finally dropped enough balls to share my fantasy with her...and my god has our sex life taken a turn for the bestestever. I learned a lot more about what she was thinking too...so far every time we've done it we would talk about, role play and fantasize together while fucking about her having another man in her mouth/vagina etc...and she has never cum so hard in her life. Moving on... story>

 

The area we are in is pretty rough as far as SLS goes...like its just empty. We are younger in our twenties...friends are an obvious no-no (we don't personally have relationships with anyone mature enough to handle this kinda gift), there aren't any clubs near by which isn't a problem but might be more of a head first kinda situation - which led us to this. We have a lot of bars here...she had the idea that we could go to the bar and she would dress adequately to show off the goods and find a guy that was interested in buying her a drink. They would talk for a while and if it clicked she would size him up a bit more and see if he was alright etc etc then get straight to the point. She wants to ask him after all that if he would be interested in having a little sex party with her and husband. If perspective male was interested she would talk a bit more then introduce him to me and we'd chat for a bit and if things went well head out for some no strings attached fucking (with boundaries and limits of course). Bluntly put - does this sound like a good idea? It sounds too good to be true in my opinion...but I could only imagine guys as horny and sexually interested as I am would be in bars just dreaming for something like this to happen. Thoughts comments questions please....thanks for reading!

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Is part of her fantasy going through the process of being hit on, flirting, getting picked up etc.? I am asking to determine whether she just thinks that is the easiest route, or whether that is actually part of what she wants to happen.

 

SLS is not the only online option, so there may be other sites which have better representation in your area. SLS is not so great where we are either. We have better luck with SDC, AFF and a local site. Another option would be swingers clubs or swinger meet and greets.

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Well, sure didn't have to wait long to hear more about you two! LOL!

 

OK, there are lots of couples here who have done what you wrote. And, they can give you good advice.

 

Personally, I think it might be better to meet guys through an ad and then take your time narrowing down the prospects. Plus, the narrowing down and evaluation process could be a lot of fun for your both too!

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My bad for to many details...just such an exciting turn of events in our life - couldn't help but output it somewhere.

 

I couldn't really tell you if that is part of her fantasy or not quite yet...I never asked, but she came up with it on her own...when she comes home from hanging out with her sister i'll have to inquire about that - it almost does sound like it - then again she likes to get to the point so it could be her trying to find the easiest route towards what we want. I almost feel as if that is too fast and I'll be certain to express it to her but it doesn't always have to end with 'diving straight in' heh. Thanks for the replies...I'll be up late searching on other sites/ads.

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You mention sls is scant for people in your area, Indiana is a hotbed of swingers!! We are on Swinger Zone Central and Indiana is heavily represented.

 

As far as the master plan...it could certainly work, our issue would be finding a guy who knows what he's doing in a threesome. There is a certain role for him to play and if he's never done it, the encounter may not be as much fun. Some guys think a threesome will be hot, but find that their equipment doesn't function with another guy in the room...there are a lot of potential pitfalls and some of those can be mitigated if the guest is more experienced in the lifestyle. Just throwing that out there for consideration, your experience could be the time of your lives!

 

Believe me, there won't be any shortage of lifestyle guys interested in getting together.

 

Do let us know how things turn out:)

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I'm surprised SLS isn't good for you guys... In the Indy area, it was great for us, and we were able to meet a few people form Chicago when we were visiting there as well through that site. We were mostly looking for couples, though, and only met a few single guys over the years so it may be completely different when the focus is different.

 

On a more helpful note, I mostly agree with what others have said. While picking a guy up in a bar would probably be possible and may not be too difficult, a man who has never been in a threesome/group situation before may have more problems than a man who is a bit more experienced or even a man who has had time to think it through. You could try kind of combining the two approaches, though, and throw up an ad on Craigslist or something like that saying that you're interested in an MFM and any responses that interest you could be sent a response about you being at X bar at Y time wearing Z and they should come over and chat to see if you hit it off. Then you kind of have a prescreening tool, you know the men have thought about having a threesome or have done it before, but you still get the sexy bar pickup scenario.

 

Clubs/parties are always good, too, and we've never struggled meeting solo guys for a one-time-encounter going that route.

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I have to offer some agreement with others above; the idea of picking up a guy in a bar might sound appealing. But, there are potential problems. The point about performing in front of another guy has been mentioned. There's more though. Will the guy respect any boundaries? Will he understand his role in this MFM? Does he really have the maturity/experience to understand it's fucking for fucking's sake and there's no relationship in the offing? Will he respect you, or will he think you're an idiot for letting your wife have sex with another man? Non-lifestyle guys offer a lot of potential problems.

 

You're in La Porte. You have pretty easy access to Chicago. You have thousands of single men in the lifestyle literally at your fingertips. There are also plenty of clubs in and around Chicago.

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Having her dressing sexy and going to a bar is a good idea if you want to find a playmate. Most guys won't care if she is married or if you are sitting beside her or are going to be in the same room watching or taking your turn.

 

I would send my wife into a bar by herself and wait about five minutes and then go in and sit across the bar and wait and watch. It was funny watching the old drunks hit on her and a little uncomfortable watching big biker guys or black guys hitting on her. The first time I watched a guy talk her into leaving the bar with him led to another.

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I say go for it. Sure there are potential issues (but there are in anything). When she gets to the point where she broaches the idea of a threesome with the guy and he agrees just make sure he knows your boundaries and what you expect his role to be. If you have a specific fantasy, spell it out (ie. "I want to suck your dick while my husband fucks me from behind..." ). Being specific helps him get a visual of what direction the night is going to take and not be thinking that it's just going to be the two of them while you watch (unless that's what you want). I would suggest getting a hotel room (just in case) rather than taking him to your home.

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Apologies for getting back to this thread so late - so much has happened! We decided to play it somewhat safe and see if a mutual friend was interested in the idea of a threesome. He doesn't live in town so that separation is there just incase she felt differently afterwards (which wasn't the case) - we've known him for years and is a good clean trustworthy friend. After a day of hanging out discussing and talking about everything we had one of the best sexual experiences of our life later that evening - 3 times haha. Our relationship is 110% ok and we both enjoyed ourselves very much! We figured the bar idea might be too fast/diving in head first...now that we know we are both ok with this we DEFINITELY want to keep on doing this. Thanks everyone for the comments, tips suggestions and so forth - everyone here seems very helpful!

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I am happy to hear that it went so well for you two! We are pretty new to this lifestyle ourselves and always like hearing when things go great for someone else. We have had one fmf experiance which was a good learning experiance for both of us on an emotional level. Also got the lady past her bi curious stage to know that she is just straight up bi. Then the next step was the night with another couple we had a couple weeks ago. The woman in that couple was bi curious and the man was straight like I am. We hit it off right away with them on meeting and had the most amazing night of action with everyone involved 100%. We are now hooked. What interests me about your story is it is my fantasy to do the mmf with my lady as well. The problem is finding a good guy that really understands what it is all about. No shortage of guys willing, but we both want it to be with someone who gives us both respect as we would do in return. I already know I am totally okay with it, because I got to experiance it with the really great guy in the couple we were just with. Like us they are a couple that only plays together so that is not an option again.

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