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  1. #1
    Hi there we are obviously new at this whole swing lifestyle, my wife and I are very interested in an MFM but so far searching sites like SLS and CL have yielded nothing worthwhile.

    My wife is a very private person so going to a public function where swinging is out in the open is completely out of the question for her at least at this point.

    She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our first experience, which kinda makes sense because the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards.

    What are your opinions on this matter?

    Thanks..


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    Swingers Board Addict Tybee Swing's Avatar
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    Hi sugar-nightlife,

    We're a couple that likes single males and MFM.

    My first thought is, why pay when there is so much available for free (and legal)? I suppose it varies in different places, and probably on different adult sites, but there are lots of sexy, intelligent, discreet, respectful single men out there ready to play. Yes, there are creeps, but all we do is weed through those.

    My second thought is that male prostitution is just as illegal as female prostitution is. That's risky. If your wife is so discreet that she won't even mingle at a private (and legal) swinger's event, how will she feel about having a record for committing a sex crime? Maybe you're talking about traveling to where it's legal or something. That would be a different matter.

    It sounds like you had some concern that a single guy will try to have an affair with your wife or something. That's not as common as you might think. The gentlemen we know are respectful and wouldn't think of coming between us. In fact, they clearly understand what casual sex and friendship is, and they seek no-strings, no drama.

    Best wishes.

  3. #3
    IMHO it would be a no for us. Like tybee said, there are alot of single guys out there willing to do it for free, AND it's legal that way. If your wife has an inhibition to mingle at a club, perhaps an ad placed on SLS or swappernet is the way to go. Are there jerks out there? yes...but there are jerks no matter where you go. The key is taking the time to get to know them and weed the good from the bad. Once you find a good one, you can move forward. And you won't have to worry about breaking a law (other than speeding because if the excitement to get there).

    But I would not reccomend it, if for no other reason than it is illegal.

  4. #4
    I've met a couple who only did FFM that way. They went to Nevada.

    I think there was suppose to be a new stud farm there run by Hedi Fleiss sp?

    If you do it, do it LEGAL.

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    Swingers Board Addict good times's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by tribbles
    I've met a couple who only did FFM that way. They went to Nevada.

    I think there was suppose to be a new stud farm there run by Hedi Fleiss sp?

    If you do it, do it LEGAL.
    I think that most of the legal brothels in Nevada would accomodate couples for FMF, but as far as I know male prostitutes are illegal in Nevada, in fact, I do not believe male prostitutes are legal anywhere in the US.

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    Sorry can't imagine paying anyone to have sex...as someone previously said there is so much out there for free.

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    Swingers Board Addict Tybee Swing's Avatar
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    tribbles, interesting article!

    "If Nevada lawmakers try to run her back across the state line, Fleiss says she's primed for a legal fight, on grounds that the state's existing laws discriminate against men. "What's good for the goose should be good for the gander," she says."

    If I were a lawyer, I'd take her case...she's right about discrimination!

    "She's vague about the funding for her $1.5 million sexual fantasyland, but she says she has other investors. And she just landed a six-figure deal with HBO to let a film crew document the brothel's birth."

    I can't wait. I'll be tuning in!

    "For the time being, Fleiss plans to cater to women only (shall we call the johns janes, and the cathouse a doghouse?). But she says she may target the gay market next. She could be forced to: Nevada lawmaker David Parks, who is gay, plans to ask for a legal opinion this month on whether Fleiss would be violating the state's anti-bias law by letting only women hire her studs."

    Interesting, the omission of the mention of couples looking for MFM. I would think that would be higher demand at a place like this, than single women alone!

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    I'll think about it LikeMinds321's Avatar
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    I wouldn't no where to find a female prostitute other than than a dark street in a bad part of town; I'm not using the word "escort" because I thought escorts could be hired for dates, without sex...am I totally naive here?. I see ads for escort services all the time.

    Are escorts just a fancy name for prostitutes?

    And if male prostitutes/escorts are so rare, I would imagine finding one would be a heck of a lot harder than finding a single male swinger.

    LM


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    Jay's Bumper Buddy ShellyM's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by sugar-nightlife
    Hi there we are obviously new at this whole swing lifestyle, my wife and I are very interested in an MFM but sofar searching sites like SLS and CL have yielded nothing worthwhile.

    My wife is a very private person so going to a public function where swinging is out in the open is completely out of the question for her atleast at this point..

    She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our fisrt expereince, which kinda makes sence cause the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards...

    What are your opionions on this matter?

    Thanks..
    Okay, this is JMO: But I would feel like I was hiring a prostitute. And to me thats just not something I would prefer to do, because I want to know that I really turn him on, and that he really does want me. I would hear him say that and would think he was just doing his job.

    On the other hand, if Tony Stewart is ever selling it I'm the first one in line to buy me a ticket.

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    I'll think about it LikeMinds321's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShellyM

    ...I want to know that I really turn him on, and that he really does want me. I would hear him say that and would think he was just doing his job.
    Great point!

    LM

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    Jay's Bumper Buddy ShellyM's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by sugar-nightlife
    She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our fisrt expereince, which kinda makes sence cause the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards...
    Regarding this...is this her concern, or yours? I know that swingers who are married men will not try to pick up your wife after. Its amazing to me how you can have hot, passionate, lust filled, sweaty sex with a man and then not feel love at all for him, only a different sense of friendship. I mean, we had an incredibly hot time. And then the next day we are talking like hey, how are you doing? Good, and you? lol. The love I have for Jay was not affected in the least, only enhanced. I don't think you have to worry about a man picking her up, maybe try playing with couples if your wife is comfortable with that.

  13. #13
    We actually have some friends that hired a male prostitute for their first swing event, and they had a good experience. Because the guy was a "pro", he was very patient and kind of took charge--in a good way--and they felt comfortable. Now, personally, I'm waaayy too stingy to think of paying for sex, but in their case, it turned out well.

    Pepper

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    Jay's Bumper Buddy ShellyM's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew
    Now, personally, I'm waaayy too stingy to think of paying for sex, but in their case, it turned out well.

    Pepper
    Now you really sound like me Pepper lol.

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    Swingers Board Addict good times's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by LikeMinds321
    Are escorts just a fancy name for prostitutes?
    Yes, I think that is pretty much the case, while thier may be an escort that exists that wouldn't have sex with a client, I have yet to meet one. I think they use the word escort because escorting isn't illegal, whereas call girls, prostitutes, etc. are illegal almost everywhere, so if they described themselves as such they would most likely spend more time in jail than working.

    One escort I knew once told me that her clients were paying for time with her, not for sex. She said she would throw the sex in for free. Of course, all her clients got the free sex after paying for her time. I would guess though that if she ever got busted, that explaination wouldn't get her very far.

    The biggest problem I see finding a male escort, or female escort for that matter, is avoiding prison, a lot of them are actually vice cops. In fact, just recently one of my buddies got busted trying to get a female escort. I don't know how they handle it where you all are, but in Reno if you get busted for solicitation your name gets a mandatory headline in the local paper, very embarrassing, I'm told.

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    Swingers Board Addict Tybee Swing's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by good times
    I don't know how they handle it where you all are, but in Reno if you get busted for solicitation your name gets a mandatory headline in the local paper, very embarrassing, I'm told.
    Additionally, my understanding is that in most places, being found guilty of solicitation includes being listed as a registered sex offender, the same list as child molesters.

  17. #17
    I see this is an older post but I feel the need to chime in here. I work in Mental Health and Addictions and for the last several years I've done outreach with Sex Workers. If you know what you're looking for and how to find someone safe, professional and empowered, a sex worker can be a great option. It's the only way we play now. As someone who'd been in this world for a long time I was the one who chose a worker. I checked several profiles and picked an independent worker who's web site was professional and showed no signs of human trafficking. Key words to avoid, New, and Fresh, Young, Teen Looking, Tiny etc. If the pictures look cheap and the web site looks slapped together, walk away. Probably pimping or trafficking involved. We also would never pick a worker under 30. The worker we chose has a PHD in psychology , is very well spoken and provided an amazing girlfriend experience type threesome. She insists on condoms and is fully STI screened bi-weekly with rapid HIV tests weekly . For us it's been the absolute best experience we've ever had and we'll never go back to doing it any other way. Because I have no desire to sleep with other men we were not feeling welcome at the few swingers events we tried. We did a lot of trial and error with friends and while we had some fun times it inevitably always lead to drama. With a sex worker there is no drama and no agenda and when it's done, you leave and it is over, no lingering feelings, no insecurity. Just a strait up good time .I wish it's what we'd done from the beginning but I needed to develop a comfort in that world .As for legality, in Canada sex work is a grey area. Sex workers can not be charged for anything as long as they are of age and not soliciting near a school. Pimping is illegal, living off the profits of sex work is technically illegal (on paper) but with most sex work happening online now the police only care about busting traffickers. Escorting is completely legal, you are hiring her or him for their time not for sex. Our sex worker files income tax as an escort and deducts all her travel and outfits. Sex work is real work and there's a need for it. Yes there's a cost but what does it cost to travel to a Hedonism resort or to be a member in a club , plus hotels, food, gas etc. and after all that there's no sure thing. With a sex worker you get your guaranteed fantasy with no strings. Seems like a win win to me .Just something to think about. if you need the flirting, sexting and work up it may not be for you but if you want fun sex without head games or bull shit I highly recommend it.


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