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Okay, so I should preface this with the fact that I have never liked my breasts. Mr.Prufrock loves them and says they're perfect, but I've always been a little embarrassed about them. I am a larger woman, but my breasts didn't get that message (the boob fairy forgot me.) They started out almost B cup, now after two kids, at least they're a respectable C cup. But position wise on my chest, my breasts have always been slightly farther apart then they should be (not sure how else to explain that.)

 

Recently, while having a fun naughty shopping trip with Mr. Prufrock, I found an AMAZING bra. I'm not kidding guys, tits up to my chin, for once in my life, I loved the way my breasts looked. It pushes them together so I get lovely cleavage, and it makes me feel sexy as hell, which is a wonderful feeling! Here's my problem... is it deceptive to wear it?

 

I may be overthinking this, but when the bra comes off, they droop a little (I have had two kids after all) and separate. I don't think I look weird, by any means, but they're not perky :( Mr. Prufrock and I haven't gone to a club yet, but I don't want to meet a couple while wearing the bra, only to have their enthusiasm vanish as soon as the bra does.

 

I've already decided that spanx and the like aren't going on. A) they're uncomfortable, and not sexy and B) if the idea is to get naked with these people they're going to see what I look like with out the sucky-inny thing (as I like to call them) anyways, and it would really be false advertising to wear one. So wouldn't the bra fall under that category?

 

What do you guys think? Should I go with the bra or not?

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Of course you should! Deceptive? You would not say that about other enhancements, like pumps, lipstick, hair color or curls, would you? IMHO this is the same.

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Speaking for myself, as a self proclaimed breast-man, I would encourage you to wear the bra. First, it makes you feel good about yourself and that is always a good thing. Second, once the bra comes off my reaction would be simply "tits". Honestly, I think you find most guys reactions will be positive.

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I've never thought of a push up bra as deceptive. It's presenting your assets in the best possible position (literally!). Like you, I think a girdle or spanx would be deceptive. My BF just said men can sometimes tell if a lady is wearing one, more so if she is a lady of a certain age - there is an expectation of less than perky boobs. But for him, ladies wearing something that accentuates cleavage translates into pride in her appearance.

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:kissface: Thanks everyone. Appears I was right in that I'm totally overthinking it. Can't help it, Mr. Prufrock and I are getting a hotel and going out Friday night (not really planning on bringing anyone back with us... but if it happens...) and we are SO excited. To be honest, I have been feeling so frumpy lately (with a 7 month old) so taking care of myself and getting dolled up is awesome.

 

Speaking of which, is a little black dress too fancy to wear to a meet and greet?

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The little black dress is fine depending on the setting. Perfectly appropriate for most bar or restaurant settings. Similar for many hotel settings. Skip the panties if you want to feel sexier still. Unrelated it is always nice to have social cards with you (hubby can keep in pocket) that you can give to interesting couples.

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I too never like my small breasts. I'd be lucky if I find a B-cup bra that fits, so no, push-up bras are not deceptive! I'd do anything to create a cleavage.

 

I think the little black dress is fine for bars and restaurants. I have to second Fundamental Law's idea of no panties, which I do a lot and really gets me in the mood to be flirty and sexy.

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First, sexy has nothing to do with what you are wearing or how you look. It is something that comes from within. Second, push up bras are hot. Third, tits are hotter, regardless as to the size. I'm another one of those guys who love tits, any size, any time (but I do prefer real over 'enhanced' but I've enjoyed both). Little black dress is ALWAYS fine, no panties is even finer, no bra even more fine.

 

BTW, I checked out your photos on SLS. They are very good photos and FYI: you are hot (your scale must be lying as you look great). REAL women have curves (and Barbie is made out of plastic and doesn't have nipples or a vagina). Being a mom is great, but don't forget that you are also a woman. I think that you will find that there are LOTS of men (and women) who think that you are very desirable. Don't be so critical about yourself and your body...of course, we may be wrong. Just to verify this, please take and send more pictures of yourself in the push up bra and out of the push up bra so we can properly judge your breasts and report back to you. I'll be checking our email...

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Guys that like tits like all types, big'uns and lil'uns. Oh yeah and especially mommy tits!!

 

Push-up bras are as deceptive as any other article of clothing, it means you thought enough of the other people to look good for them.

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Aww thanks GoldCoCouple! Flattery gets you everywhere! Ask and ye shall receive. I think you can access the album I just created... ;) let me know if you can't though.

 

I wish my scale was lying. It helps that I am tallish so that it kinda evens out, all except my stomach. I hate my stomach. It's funny, I thought the pics I uploaded to SLS were too risqué, considering most profile pics on SLS are pretty vanilla. Then I went and signed up for SZC. HOLY HECK. I mean, I'm not prude, but, what's with all the single dudes with profile pics of their junk buried in some other girl's ass/vag/mouth??

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Oops, thought you meant on SLS but found them here.

 

Absolutely beautiful! They seem to be the prefect size for you...I can't imagine them being any different than they are. Seriously, they seem a good size for your body and I have NO problem looking at them at all. If we were to see you walking by somewhere, both of us would be checking you out, pushup or not. I also have to agree with kikonkrome: the best tits are mommy tits.

 

Ms. Gold is tall as well so weight is kind of deceptive. She's 5'10" which just makes her weigh more. We list a weight on SLS (but it's more like what she looks like she should weigh, I don't know her actual weight and don't want to know) but she is isn't overweight at all. She walks several miles every day and is very careful with what she eats and how she takes care of herself. When you are taller, you just have more of everything. That's where pictures can help. We almost wish that weight wasn't necessary and replaced by body type instead. We suspect you are the same...curvy...and very attractive (from the neck down at least :lol:). I think you will find more people will agree with that statement than will disagree.

 

Thank you VERY MUCH for sharing (and feel free to share more at any time...yes that's another request). Oh, and let us know if you ever make it out to California so we can check you out when you walk past.

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It’s just a wonder bra. You wear it and when the guys take it off, they wonder where the tits went.

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It’s just a wonder bra. You wear it and when the guys take it off, they wonder where the tits went.

Haha! See? That's what I'm talking about.

 

GoldCoCouple, you are very welcome!

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. . . I think you can access the album I just created... ;) let me know if you can't though. .
I am able to access. There are no uninteresting women; only those who do not know how to be interesting.
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