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Friend says penis size matters, is she right?

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Here's a couple more for you all:

 

On the whole, in a typical California swinger group, how old is "too old?"

 

Also: a Facebook friend of mine "confirmed" that in any swinger community, size indeed matters, because of the "filling feeling" (her words, folks) and other pleasantness involved (and she is around 5' tall). She also mentioned a rule of "thumb" that says if a man's dick does not extend past the plane of his abdomen, he's S.O.L. In all truth:

 

Is she right?

Should average cocks not even bother?

Is body shaving (as well as genital shaving) a hard and fast rule?

Is the swinger population decreasing as a result of what seems to be more "demand" for a particular set of body parameters?

 

Thanks for your feedback!

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Never been to California, so I couldn't say.

 

In Indiana, I've seen all ages from "can't drink" to "great-grand parent." I've seen sexual organs ranging from so small my wife doesn't count it as penetrating to so large I can't believe it was real. I've seen both genders shaved and I've seen both hairy. I've seen skinny, buff and plus-sized. Short and tall. I've seen guys who can dance and guys who are a danger on the dancefloor. I've seen...

 

In short, while I can't say I've seen it all, I've seen a lot... and it all got some kind of action somewhere in the night.

 

A lot of it depends on where you are. One club we went to, only "beautiful people" need apply. Another true welcomed everyone over 21, without condition. I will say without doubt that the second was by far the better place.

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What do you think, Mr. Q? Do your friend's comments even make sense? Spend some time on the board and read what people write. You know, maybe we should all stive to be young and beautiful, but that isn't going to happen for many of us. Time keeps moving, and gravity keeps happening...but the fact is that swingers of all ages and body types keep swinging. Maybe your friend snubs some folks, but some folks might snub your friend because of whatever her percieved flaws may be. Sadly, both may be the poorer for it and never know it.

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Mr.Q,

 

You seem to be caught up on size. Your last thread was about the same subject more or less.

 

Why is that?

 

To answer your questions.... I've been front east to west....north and south...even from north America to south America...I've seen it all. Singers come in all shapes and sizes....that's what makes it interesting .

 

In addition....I've seen guys with all different size cocks ....here is a rule of thumb and most all my gal pals feel the same...

 

Its not the width or size

its how many times you can make it rise!

 

Shaving....it is up to the person ...I've seen it all. I prefer shaved but it is not a prerequisite to play. Cleanliness , however, is.

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Find out which clubs your friend is talking about.

 

Avoid them and try others.

 

I've played with guys who can not get it up. And not just the one time when I figured that out either...dude was fun. Good giver. I'll play with him again if I see him.

 

Ages I've enjoyed 20-74 that I know of...not all give ages and a couple of clubs were ages 18+ so I could have been with 18 yr olds and easily could have not told a 80 yr old from the 74 yr old :lol:

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I like Rainbow's response.

 

My thoughts...

 

Too old is when Cialis doesn't even help you to get it up.

 

I believe overall experience will outweigh the size of your cock. The Mrs. has played with a few couples that were not the most endowed in that department and she would prefer a talented tongue over a large cock any day.

 

Yes, shave or trim. Nothing worse than hairy and scary, IMO. ;)

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Too old is when Cialis doesn't even help you to get it up.

 

Then it's time for a penile implant that will let you get it up and keep it up as long as she wants and as many times as she wants.

Better than a 60 minute man or 2 or 3.

 

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O.C. said:
Too old is when Cialis doesn't even help you to get it up.

 

Then it's time for a penile implant that will let you get it up and keep it up as long as she wants and as many times as she wants.

Better than a 60 minute man or 2 or 3.

 

So there you have it, men will never be too old :cool:

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Thank you all, very much. You have actually helped a great deal; the deafening silence from California folks tells me I'm right about the shallowness of my home state's scene. No one has stepped up to defend or refute.

 

You see, my partner and I were in the lifestyle from late 2005 until Halloween night, 2008. I would estimate that in over 80% of our experiences, we, either individually or as a couple, were shunned, slammed, and outright humiliated by the people we encountered time and time again. Most of those experiences were in Sacramento, and a few were the San Francisco Bay Area. I have no clue what it was that made that the rule instead of the exception (as so many have claimed it is). We believe ourselves to be attractive, witty, funny, affable and genial. We don't, however, meet the ridiculous standards of ideal "beauty" fobbed off on the body politic of America today. Thus, we had a very rough time of it; those we sought out rarely accepted our invitations, and those who accepted were uncouth, a little sociopathic, or old enough to be my partner's father and she ain't got daddy issues.

 

I, for one, am not the type to slink back to his rut and accept someone else's flawed judgment. I happen to like myself and I won't be told I'm undesirable. I write a blog on a sex-positive website that points out the lesser angels of the California lifestyle. I know that won't do much to win friends and influence people, yet someone has to call it out. If a group wants to hold itself out as a cutting-edge progressive community which challenges the norms and paradigms of "normal" culture, then it has no call to still adhere to "normal" culture's parameters.

 

I know; that last paragraph sounded weird.

 

Thing is, I've been poking my head back into the sex-positive set, and little has changed in four years. That's why I'm asking.

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You will always have the 'bold and beautiful' crowd and we have a few of them around us. Not to insult anyone but it tends to be the ones that spend 30 hours a week or more in the gym (god, I'm stereotyping here) but it's true.

 

The guys/gals we see in the lifestyle that have the ripped/toned bodies really seem to be stuck on themselves. They hang in their own little elitist groups at the socials.

 

I'd take sexy curves and a sexy attitude any day. We like genuinely nice people.

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Believe it or not, there aren't very many active board members from California as it relates to the actual number of swingers there. That could be the reason for the silence.

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Mr.Q

 

I'm not considered hwp. I am curvy, little waist ...big caboose and a rack that many paid good money for...mine are just natural. I am also funny, witty, a social butterfly. When I lived in San bernadino I was never shunned or made to feel like I did not belong. This would be true for the los angeles, chino areas as well...oh and riverside and big bear. lots of fun back then. :)

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Clubs in California I've been to quite a few times:

FA, thetoyboxclub, thads, CB (closed), clubtaboo, garyandmargarets, socalcircusie, gemini, sea mountain (also as San Marcos Inn), hillside ranch, aquifinity (closed), panther palace (closed), Play Pals-when they were with a group SCPS (not sure open or closed), others I know I'm missing - sorry--and the only one where looks super mattered to the host: theonlinecountryclub (closed) BUT....we played with other members during our visit...

 

and we are not HWP

 

So, bummer NorCal sux...try SoCal. :)

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I can't speak for CA but I doubt it's much different than anywhere else - you'll find swingers of all shapes and sizes.

 

As for what your friends says, basically what she's saying is if your tummy stick out further than your dicky do... you got a problem. That problem can, however, be overcome with a great attitude and loads of self-confidence.

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