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OK...we seem to be having a problem that I never thought would be a problem. A little history...before we started swinging, I had never had sex with any man other than Hubby.

 

Well, it seems that my Hubby is ummm...gifted with the size of his package. I of course didn't know this because I had nothing to compare it to. My friends even accused me of lying about his "measurements" when we'd talk like women do about sex and their men.

 

So now the problem is that we chat and make great friends which is wonderful. But, then the male half (it is usually the male half) asks for his "measurements." I think it becomes an insecurity issue but I thought that swingers are secure in their relationships? The female halves that do ask...some are very interested...but others are like "NO WAY". They all say how attractive and sexy Hubby is but apparently his size intimidates them.

 

I won't lie and neither will he because let's face it the couples or females are going to notice his size eventually and who wants to be with dishonest people? How the heck was I supposed to know that 5 inches is normal. Hubby exceeds that by more than an inch or two...lol.

 

Help?

 

Thanks!

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Hmmm. I know that men view penis size like women view weight. Its really important to them. I know that as a woman it honestly is not even a factor on whether or not to play. I know we don't ask about size, everyone has asked about his size? Perhaps you can just say he is "well endowed" and leave it at that? I can see how it would be intimidating to men. With me its not an issue as long as he was gentle with me if I needed him to be. Wow, I don't know what to tell you. Do you play separate room? Perhaps this is an option that you can take depending on what you are comfortable with.

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I've never heard of a larger than average package being a problem. It's usually the other way around. . . .? But I'm still fairly new to this, so what do I know?

 

I have played with a "gifted" guy, and I have to say I was nervous about it at first. BUT what he did with it was waaaaay more impressive.

 

I personally wouldn't be asking potential playmates about size either way. I think I agree with Shelly here that you shouldn't give exact measurements and just say he's well endowed. If it's really gonna' bother the other guy that much, then they're not the right couple for you. You don't need that kind of (potential) drama.

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I've never heard of a larger than average package being a problem. It's usually the other way around. . . .? But I'm still fairly new to this, so what do I know?

 

I have played with a "gifted" guy, and I have to say I was nervous about it at first. BUT what he did with it was waaaaay more impressive.

 

I personally wouldn't be asking potential playmates about size either way. I think I agree with Shelly here that you shouldn't give exact measurements and just say he's well endowed. If it's really gonna' bother the other guy that much, then they're not the right couple for you. You don't need that kind of (potential) drama.

 

Yeah, I can understand how it would be intimidating. I haven't been with a well endowed man yet. Usually though when they are large they understand that a woman can get sore quickly and they are gentle. I just would not make an issue of it to be honest. I have a friend who loves telling everyone within ear shot that his cock is 8.5 inches; this is very insulting to men I think. Especially since it doesn't seem to be the size of the plow but how the man uses it lol.

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Weird -- I've never asked about package size ... and I don't think anyone has asked about Mr. Fun. I brag about his gift of giving pleasure in a lot of ways ... :)

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I brag about his gift of giving pleasure in a lot of ways ... :)

 

Amen, sister! My honey has those gifts, too. :facelick:

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Perhaps not putting it in your profile and making a big deal about it would help.

 

I've never been asked about it prior to getting naked with a new playmate, once.

 

Lets put this same type of idea from the other side the language will have to be different but the idea is the same.

 

'Men, let me tell you just how lucky I am to have a woman with such a great feeling vagina, you really need to try this, you won't regret it.'

 

It also does hit on insecurity aspects, some more than others I'm sure, but most men in swinging are not looking for their wives to have BETTER sex that they just can't give her due to potential size limitations.

 

Personally I'd just remove it from your profile, not bring it up, and see how the reaction goes after. Maybe its a bit dishonest but only if they ask first, and while a guy might be intimidated by it, they won't say 'hey thats too big, honey lets leave' once things get going.

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I agree with Chicup, I didn't think to read your profile. You don't dwell on it but when you put something like "my friends say I'm a lucky girl" in there people will be curious...I might ask about it just because I'm curious lol. You are a lucky girl but some things are just better left unsaid. Thats like when you put in profiles that a man can go for "hours". Thats a great thing but perhaps you should leave that unsaid lol. So I would take the part about the hubby's endowment out of your profile. I think this is what is causing people to ask. First they ask because they are curious and then they start thinking about it.

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I will start this off by saying I am quite happy with my sweetie's dick. Actually, I am quite enamoured with it...I can barely keep my hands off of it. *sigh* :facelick:

 

Sorry, I need to focus on the topic here. ;) Now...with that glowing review... and not to totally slam your hubby...but you state 'average' is about 5 inches..and that your hubby is an inch or two bigger than that. So about 7 inches give or take (which is about what my sweetie is)....for me, that is not well endowed...that is a nice cock.

 

'Well endowed' to me is at least 8 inches and heading on into double digits. But every person has their own definition of what it means to them. But I guess for a while I was lucky and happened to get larger playmates,8"+...my ex-hubby was 8.5-9...so forgive me if I don't swoon over 6 or 7 inches. However, I just like to play with a dick and happily do so. :lol:

 

One couple we played with in their profile described the hubby as such 'a nice length to his thick cock'...no and no. Either the wife wrote the profile and was trying to puff up hubby's ego or possibly didn't know better (but she was plenty experienced, I'll wager it's the ego thing). Let me make my own assessment of the situation.

 

I would remove the bit about his endowment out of the profile. If someone made a statement in their profile like that, I would be curious and ask. To date, we have never asked specifically for measurements nor would I turn down someone based on their size...lack of chemistry, being a jerk, but I would not refuse to meet someone because of their dick size.

 

Good luck,

 

Maria :kissface:

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My research has shown 6 to be average and I guess that makes me just a hair average but size can matter in this way, I would live to see the wife split apart by someone 9" and thick! I want to know what their size is to get that requirement, I have no fantasy of her with a guy she has to ask if he is in!

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I'm surprised that this is an issue. We are not major players, but one of our friends is hung very well. Truthfully, I like doing him more than our other friends. I enjoy the size (girth) very much.:dncdick: Mr. Odd doesn't mind at all. In fact, he likes seeing me take a big one. After the first time with our friend, I asked if it made him feel bad or odd and he said no. He said we play to experience new things. He doesn't mind a man giving me more than he can (size wise). I am equally pleased by both, it's just different. I don't have big boobs, but one of our friends does and he enjoys playing with her a lot. Just enjoy!:facelick::nannadog:

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I just had to comment on my expectations!!

 

Size does not matter to me at all!!!

 

My hubby is average, couples we have been with, most are larger and to tell you the truth, I would rather have average any day of the week.

 

Since female surgery especially!!! I actually hurts with the larger.

 

To each his own!! We are all different!!! I love this life............

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Not all vaginas and penis's fit together. Some fit together more than others. Have fun with what you got and if others have fun with it too, that's great!!

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I'll tell you, Sat. shed light on penis size for me lol. We played with an outstanding couple and he is on the smaller size. I'll tell you, he worked what hes got like a frickin porn star LOL. I was absolutely impressed and it shed light on the fact that no matter what your size you can be fantastic if you pay attention to her body language and try to be a good lover. :facelick:

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Now...with that glowing review... and not to totally slam your hubby...but you state 'average' is about 5 inches..and that your hubby is an inch or two bigger than that. So about 7 inches give or take (which is about what my sweetie is)....for me, that is not well endowed...that is a nice cock.

 

No sweetie, she said that he's more than an inch or two bigger than that. It was just her way to tell us it's big, without telling how big it is. ;)

 

Incidentally, the average penis (according to widely-used studies) is 5.877 inches long.

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So now the problem is that we chat and make great friends which is wonderful. But, then the male half (it is usually the male half) asks for his "measurements." I think it becomes an insecurity issue but I thought that swingers are secure in their relationships? The female halves that do ask...some are very interested...but others are like "NO WAY". They all say how attractive and sexy Hubby is but appearently his size intimidates them.

 

Thinking back, I don't think that anybody has ever asked us for my hubby's penis size, and we've never asked anybody for theirs, either. This is really odd, to me! I know that some people are into the size thing, but we haven't run into any. We've seen a few of their profiles, though. (We steer clear of size queens, they turn us off.)

 

As for insecure guys comparing size: this has happened to us a time or two, as my hubby has 8 thick inches. It only has happened after they observed the package when we were already underway (because they had no idea until the pants came off). One of these guys actually said to me, once: "I have nothing to offer you". :eek: I had to basically talk him into believing that he did have something for me, and that I like variety. I wrote about it here in the past. I'll go find it for you....

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as my hubby has 8 thick inches.

 

DAYUM! Every time I think I'm impressed with the Shiek you go and say something like this! SNAP! Thats it lol, I'm vacationing in Georgia.....:kissface:

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LOL!!! Now don't go being a size queen, Shell! You know it turns us off! :lol:

 

LOL! Touche! Alright, we'll just say that I like his mind. Hows that lol

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That'll work. He's a really smart guy and a good conversationalist. :D

 

I know, you're still thinking... :dncdick: LOL!

 

Ahhhhh, perverted minds think alike lol.

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Hey all! I never imagined that I would get this much advice in such a short time! I have taken the advice to redo our profile some. I also took out my bra size statement. I think the pic says it all. Which by the way I wish that Hubby would change but he says its his favorite...lol

 

Thanks to everyone for reviewing our profile and giving me the ideas. Perhaps that will stop the "question" and the "thinking"......lol. Please keep the advice coming!

 

Thank you Tybee for understanding that I was trying to explain his size without stating it exactly...lol and for the archive link!

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Which by the way I wish that Hubby would change but he says its his favorite...lol

 

Just looked, profile looks great. Yeah, I think you will be happy now, I don't think we have ever had a couple ask us Jay's measurements. If they do just say he is well endowed, but I would not bring it up yourself and you'll do great!

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This does seem weird or unusual, I have only once had a woman tell me later that she didn't approach me to play with her for a long time because she thought I was too big for her. After we had played she said that she was worried for nothing because I knew how to make best use of what I have without hurting her. Other than that I have never had anybody ask or anyone refuse to play because I was too big (I have had a couple woman want to play with me that previously hadn't after they saw me naked, which was weird for me in it's own way). So, it makes me think that some of the others here might have the right idea, in that if you don't make a big deal about it, others probably won't bring it up or make a big deal about it either.

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In all the years I've been cruising this planet I've never ever wondered how many inches my dick is. Still no clue. I find it really weird that someone would sit there and measure his own dick.... No wonder they have insecurity and ego problems.

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No sweetie, she said that he's more than an inch or two bigger than that. It was just her way to tell us it's big, without telling how big it is. ;)

 

Incidentally, the average penis (according to widely-used studies) is 5.877 inches long.

 

lol...Ok, well I guess what I was trying to tell the OP is that my idea of 'average' is a bit skewed because most of the partners I have had fell into what some would consider the 'well endowed category' and I didn't have a comparison to either b/c all of my partners were comperable size. And the 'average' 5-6 inches was what I would normally have considered smaller than what I was used to.

 

Maria :kissface:

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Tybee Swing said:
Incidentally, the average penis (according to widely-used studies) is 5.877 inches long.

 

That is 14.928 centimeters in Canada. I like Canada. I can go faster (100 kilometers per hour rather than 60 miles per hour) and I can penetrate more deeply (14.928 centimeters rather than a mere 5.877 inches).

 

Michael

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sexcupid said:
lol...Ok, well I guess what I was trying to tell the OP is that my idea of 'average' is a bit skewed because most of the partners I have had fell into what some would consider the 'well endowed category' and I didn't have a comparison to either b/c all of my partners were comparable size. And the 'average' 5-6 inches was what I would normally have considered smaller than what I was used to.

 

I am reminded of a old, sexist joke that young (male) engineering students used to tell each other. Question: Why do women make poor architects? Answer: Because men have been telling them all of this time that this [gesture with three-inch gap between fingers] is six inches.

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SW_PA_Couple said:
I am reminded of a old, sexist joke that young (male) engineering students used to tell each other. Question: Why do women make poor architects? Answer: Because men have been telling them all of this time that this [gesture with three-inch gap between fingers] is six inches.

 

lol...very bad, but funny....besides, I carry a tape measure...:lol:

 

Maria :kissface:

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SamuiCouple said:
In all the years I've been cruising this planet I've never ever wondered how many inches my dick is. Still no clue. I find it really weird that someone would sit there and measure his own dick.... No wonder they have insecurity and ego problems.

 

And I find it really weird that a guy wouldn't know how long his erection is. :lol:

 

SamuiC, I give you props for being secure, or not caring, or having a big dick. Good for you on any or all of those fronts. But it wouldn't surprise me that most men have measured their dick (several times, just to make sure), and if not most men, then a large minority. Men are competitive, and this physical aspect is the most primal competition.

 

And maybe some of the guys who didn't or won't measure their dicks are worried about how they'd compare. :rolleyes:

 

Anyway, I don't know when I first measured my dick, but I most likely did it because I was an insecure, scrawny, late-to-reach-puberty kind of guy, and a "grower" rather than a "show-er". I'm no longer scrawny, I reached puberty, finally, and the insecurities are minimized now. I'm still a "grower", though, but it isn't as much of a concern anymore.

 

I was very insecure and worried that I didn't "measure up", but I got over some of that gradually as I got more sexually active. I had no complaints (to my face) about my average size and sexual performance, but there was always that doubt in the back of my mind, even during several short-term and long-term relationships.

 

After the break-up of a relationship in 2000 I decided to dip my toes in the lifestyle waters. As I mentioned in another SB thread I became much more secure in my "average" size after engaging in several threesomes and public play at clubs and house parties. What boosted my confidence the most was that in more than half of the threesomes I was involved in, the husband/SO was more endowed than I am; sometimes I was out-gunned by 2 or 3 inches. And in all of those cases I played with each couple three times or more. So my average unit was acceptable for repeat performances.

 

Like posters have said in this thread and the one that Tybee linked, there are things that can be done more comfortably using an average cock, and there are some things that only the larger dicks can do. Fair enough. I'm glad I'm appreciated for my average-sized erection.

 

Regardless, I have to be truthful about that fact that I wish my flaccid joint was just a little bigger. :rolleyes::lol:

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oddcouple said:
I'm surprised that this is an issue. We are not major players, but one of our friends is hung very well. Truthfully, I like doing him more than our other friends.I enjoy the size (girth) very much.:dncdick: Mr. Odd doesn't mind at all. In fact, he likes seeing me take a big one. After the first time with our friend, I asked if it made him feel bad or odd and he said no. He said we play to experience new things. He doesn't mind a man giving me more than he can (size wise). I am equally pleased by both, it's just different. I don't have big boobs, but one of our friends does and he enjoys playing with her a lot. Just enjoy! :facelick::nannadog:

 

Whoa, Mr. Odd is a very lucky guy. I'd love to be in relationship with a woman that craved a large cock once in a while. I'm average, and get quite a thrill when a woman admits to enjoying that "full feeling".

 

like djjwp, many couples seek well endowed men. I'm not saying that most couples do, but quite a few, so much as to form groups on ad sites.

 

Like Shelly mentioned early on, penis size is more comparable to a women and weight. Breast size issues simply can't compare with penis size issues.

 

Different strokes for different folks. I do not prefer large breast or shaved pussies. Other's have unique tastes also.

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I do not prefer large breast or shaved pussies. Other's have unique tastes also.

 

Well, at least I don't have big boobs lol.

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Ah Shelly, your interesting personality overshadows it all anyway. So they're not big? I'll have to take another look at your sexy profile pics.

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Ah Shelly, your interesting personality overshadows it all anyway. So they're not big? I'll have to take another look at your sexy profile pics.

 

38C. Where you been sexy, haven't talked to you in awhile. Hope you are doing well!

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swingcouple69 ~

 

Your profile update looks great. I doubt you'll have anyone asking about your husband's penis size...well, maybe, I suppose some people do but we've never been asked nor have we asked.

 

My experience has been with men 6-7.5" and it wasn't because I was looking for that. Those "numbers" have always "come up" during our four years of swinging. :)

 

If Mr LM and I were to begin first-time play with a couple and once my playmates pants fell down he hand a really big showpiece, I know Mr LM and I would both take a good second look but it wouldn't intimidate either one of us. By that time we'd all have gotten to know each other, would feel comfortable all the way around, and something like a larger-than-life penis would be a small part of what would be on our minds.

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I would remove the bit about his endowment out of the profile. If someone made a statement in their profile like that, I would be curious and ask. To date, we have never asked specifically for measurements nor would I turn down someone based on their size...lack of chemistry, being a jerk, but I would not refuse to meet someone because of their dick size.

 

Good luck,

 

Maria :kissface:

 

I'm totally with you on this, Maria. If this couple REALLY was concerned about this issue they would leave out any mention of endowment in the profile and if it DID come up in conversation they could just state that he is "big" or "well endowed" like 99% of the couples would say if asked.

 

I might be wrong but this post sounds to me like a guy who gets off on the fantasy of being turned down because of his "huge cock" because in reality this rarely happens....

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To say size doesn't matter is being polite, if you're presented with a present that is in a large box, only to find out after seeing what's inside, it doesn't measure up to your mental expectations, there's a little dissapointment for sure. But what it really boils down to is the person you've met that you want to be, face it, it's not all about the sex. What's more rewarding actually, is the relationship of your new friend.

 

Not a lot is said about the size of a woman's clit. They vary in size as well.

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I am reading the OP's post and thinking to myself I've never once asked another potential playmate about his size and I've also never been asked by another husband/boyfriend. I don't recall being asked by a woman, either.

 

I also feel, like others have said, that size is not the reason most people swing. Most couples are not looking for a bigger one than hubby's. The husband in one couple we know is VERY well endowed, to the point that maybe on 1 out of 100 other men would be equal to or greater than him. If size was the issue for his wife than why are they swinging? And why does she like me?

 

But, that said, some women are size queens and some men do get-off on seeing their wife impaled by a cock much bigger than their own. If that is what works for them, great. Again though, I can recall it ever being an issue of whether or not we were going to play.

 

Mr. WS

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8inches said:
I'm totally with you on this, Maria. If this couple REALLY was concerned about this issue they would leave out any mention of endowment in the profile and if it DID come up in conversation they could just state that he is "big" or "well endowed" like 99% of the couples would say if asked.

 

I might be wrong but this post sounds to me like a guy who gets off on the fantasy of being turned down because of his "huge cock" because in reality this rarely happens....

 

I'd just like to make the statement that I (the WIFE) didn't even tell my husband that I had posted this question. He hasn't posted here since April I believe. To be honest, he is very shy about the fact, so I came here seeking help. Glad to know that when people (especially wives) have questions like these, that its blamed on a husband who is getting off on his cock size.

 

As far as it rarely happening...we have two couples who we have become very close friends without benefits because in one couple the female is intimidated and in the other the husband is. We love their friendship because we talk OPENLY about everything. However I was seeking advice on how to keep this from being a factor. SO for you it may rarely happen but for us its happened twice in a year!

 

I thought that the Swinger's Board was a place where you could seek advice and ask questions without being ridiculed. Apparently, I was wrong. Thanks a lot. :mad:

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swingcouple69 said:
I thought that the Swinger's Board was a place where you could seek advice and ask questions without being ridiculed. Apparently, I was wrong. Thanks a lot.:mad:

 

Actually, it looks like you did get three pages of great advice/encouragement. Sure, you got one that rubbed you wrong, but that is bound to happen with a topic like this.

 

As in all things, take what is good, ignore what is bad.

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Spoomonkey said:
Actually, it looks like you did get three pages of great advice/encouragement. Sure, you got one that rubbed you wrong, but that is bound to happen with a topic like this.

 

As in all things, take what is good, ignore what is bad.

 

Thanks Spoonmonkey for reminding me to cool my jets....:surrend:...I am very defensive of my husband especially when he is being blamed for "getting off" about something he is very shy about. Especially when I posted the question. All coming from a man calls a woman a cow :nono:.

 

Bravo to all of you who have given some great advice! I've made some changes to the profile and have learned some "verbiage"...lol. My very first thought was to no longer post here but I'm not willing to give up the advice and friends that I'm making here.

 

Thanks to all of you!:kissface:

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As far as it rarely happening...we have two couples who we have become very close friends without benefits because in one couple the female is intimidated and in the other the husband is. We love their friendship because we talk OPENLY about everything. However I was seeking advice on how to keep this from being a factor. SO for you it may rarely happen but for us its happened twice in a year!

 

I agree with Spoo...you have to take the good with the bad on this board...if no one posted anymore after someone's comment rubbed them the wrong way...well...I don't think this board would see much activity. :lol:

 

Now, as far as these two couples...have you ever soft swapped with them? Your profile states you are open to that. Maybe if the woman who is intimidated would see him in action and realize that he is a considerate partner it might ease some of her tension...but then again it could be the wife wanting to protect her hubby's feelings by going totally ga ga over finding a playmate with a larger than average dick. I don't know, just speculating there.

 

As someone posted in another thread, doing this is about variety...why would anyone do this if when everyone dropped trou we all had exactly the same equipment? Personally, I would hope that would be more toward your hubby's end of the spectrum. ;) However, we don't all have exactly the same thing, so I don't quite understand why some feel intimidated by finding someone so different...

 

However, with the mention of your hubby's size taken out of your profile this may become less of an issue.

 

Good luck!

 

Maria :kissface:

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I am very defensive of my husband especially when he is being blamed for "getting off" about something he is very shy about. Especially when I posted the question. All coming from a man calls a woman a cow :nono:.

 

Sorry I doubted the veracity of your post but like many others have pointed out "size" is rarely an issue and if anything "bigger is usually better" and will cause you to be more desirable like the woman who has nice bigger breasts. If I heard a woman complain that her nice breasts were intimidating other couples I'd think she was "getting off" on the attention also for the same reason....

 

Just a thought but is it a possibility that there is some OTHER REASON these two couples don't want to play with you and they might be using your husbands endowment as a convenient excuse?

 

Oh and for the record, I never "called" any woman a cow. Only used this term as a convenient way to describe someone's appearance in a light-hearted posting. Now I think more along the lines of "excess body mass challenged" so I don't hurt anyone's feelings....

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A tad confused here.

 

I've been reading for the past couple of months issues about penile performance, so I added a part about hubby's penis actually working. I thought I worded it nicely, so that ladies wouldn't assume that because he's older, his equipment didn't work.

 

Now it seems that the general concensus is to leave out all reference.

 

To the OP, I've had to learn not to take all posts too personally. We come here seeking advice, and sometimes it's not exactly what we want to hear, but it's all opinions (everyone has one...). Don't let one post turn you against the wonderful people here with good advice and experience.

 

Mrs. D

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sexcupid said:
I agree with Spoo...you have to take the good with the bad on this board...if no one posted anymore after someone's comment rubbed them the wrong way...well...I don't think this board would see much activity. :lol:

 

Now, as far as these two couples...have you ever soft swapped with them? Your profile states you are open to that. Maybe if the woman who is intimidated would see him in action and realize that he is a considerate partner it might ease some of her tension...but then again it could be the wife wanting to protect her hubby's feelings by going totally ga ga over finding a playmate with a larger than average dick. I don't know, just speculating there.

 

As someone posted in another thread, doing this is about variety...why would anyone do this if when everyone dropped trou we all had exactly the same equipment? Personally, I would hope that would be more toward your hubby's end of the spectrum. ;) However, we don't all have exactly the same thing, so I don't quite understand why some feel intimidated by finding someone so different...

 

However, with the mention of your hubby's size taken out of your profile this may become less of an issue.

 

Good luck!

 

Maria :kissface:

 

Thanks a bunch Maria....and to answer your question we do soft play with both couples. To be honest, now that you've "typed" it, when we do soft play the "she" that is intimidated seems to enjoy herself thoroughly, while keeping an eye on her husband. So perhaps she is "fearful" that "he" would be upset that she enjoyed it. I think maybe we should strike up this conversation with them. By any means we don't want to hurt anyone's relationship that's for sure. Maybe she is just "fearful" of what her Hubby would think about her enjoying it....thanks for bringing that thought to the table.

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8inches said:
If I heard a woman complain that her nice breasts were intimidating other couples I'd think she was "getting off" on the attention also for the same reason....

 

Just a thought but is it a possibility that there is some OTHER REASON these two couples don't want to play with you and they might be using your husbands endowment as a convenient excuse?

 

Well to start, it wasn't my Hubby complaining....it was me. Actually he's never complained.

 

Of course there is the possibility that there is some OTHER REASON that these two couples don't play with us. We do soft play, by the way, with both of them. Everyone involved enjoys themselves. At least that's my take from the from the noise that we all make...lol. We also have family picnics, holiday parties, and go out as friends without play involved (sometimes...lol). So is there another reason, could be, perhaps I should ask them! Thanks for thought.

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I think by and large,(no pun intended) most will find that average will be somewhat larger with body parts possessed by people who enjoy the lifestyle than one might find in the general population.

 

Whereas 6.5 inches might be average amongst swingers, reality causes the numbers to drop lower than six inches overall.

 

Most guys under five inches would never consider sharing their lady with average sized men, let alone with men with what are considered, here as being "well hung".

 

Of course exceptions do exist.

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Most guys under five inches would never consider sharing their lady with average sized men, let alone with men with what are considered, here as being "well hung".

 

Of course exceptions do exist.

 

I would disagree with this. We have played with many couples over the last five or six years and have yet to play with a couple that the man was more "well hung" than me, but we have never had anyone refuse to play because I was bigger than the other guy, some of which were considerably below average. As I mentioned before, we have had one woman who refused to play with me for a long time (it took five years) because she thought I was too big for her. We have also had a couple of guys mention that they thought I might intimidate some guys, but we have yet to run across a guy that actually was intimidated enough to refuse to play.

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