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Ladies,

 

If you and your partner linked up with a male for an MFM and the "extra" male reveals a very small penis (ie 3 inches) what would you do? what would your reaction be? also, consider the same for a very large penis (ie 12+ inches)?

 

Healther

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Well I for one would not laugh at the smaller one...the second man is there for a variety of reasons... facelick not just the size of his penis...

a very large one..hmm..that I would have to see how it played out. If it hurt I would say so, and go towards other options.

Either way I would not make either man feel like a freak of nature. Since the option is there for fun to be had by all, regardless of the size of anything. :kissface:

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Well I for one would not laugh at the smaller one...the second man is there for a variety of reasons... facelick not just the size of his penis...

a very large one..hmm..that I would have to see how it played out. If it hurt I would say so, and go towards other options.

Either way I would not make either man feel like a freak of nature. Since the option is there for fun to be had by all, regardless of the size of anything. :kissface:

Kudos to you--everyone should be treated with respect.

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I'd take the three incher over the twelve any day of the week.

 

I wouldn't bat an eye at the three-incher. I've known a few men that were smaller in size and they were decent in bed. There's more to sex than penetration.

 

Twelve inches, on the other hand, would probably cause me to catch my breath at first sight. I've never seen a twelve inch penis. I wouldn't know what to do with something that big. I'm guessing my jaw would be very tired in the morning.

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Sorry, you get a bi-male response. But then I have the job of vetting the dicks.

 

For my wife bigger is not better. An 8 in guy is going to get told to ease up - I guess getting your cervix knocked by a dick is about as fun as a kick in the balls. We also find that oral sex with an "average" guy is a lot more fun than feeling like you have had your mouth locked open for dental surgery.

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All of our encounters have been with average sized guys. Lyn sampled an enormous cock before we ever got together, but she has always said it was just too intimidating. She said it hurt too much when she tried to fuck it, so she just kind of played, licked, sucked it 'til he came. She never went back for seconds.

 

She also had a guy with a very small cock when she was single. She sad it was quite a surprise to reach in his pants and find a small cock, but not a big deal.

 

I'd love to see her suck and fuck a really big cock (10-12 inches), but I think I fantasize about it more than she does. I'm not into guys, but I do think I'd really enjoy watching Lyn play with a big cock. Now that she's a little more experienced, I think she'd kind of get off on it. She's said that she'd be very willing to give it another try.

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I'd take the three incher over the twelve any day of the week.

 

I wouldn't bat an eye at the three-incher. I've known a few men that were smaller in size and they were decent in bed. There's more to sex than penetration.

 

Twelve inches, on the other hand, would probably cause me to catch my breath at first sight. I've never seen a twelve inch penis. I wouldn't know what to do with something that big. I'm guessing my jaw would be very tired in the morning.

 

Dito to everything. Plus, there's a place for everything and everythign has its place - smaller would be great for anal. :D

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So, does it really matter? Personally, a very large one may be a bit overwhelming--a small one, well it's not the size that matters but what he can do with it

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Both Ms P and Ms F report that when confronted with a teeny one they've gone ahead and done it anyway. "You've come this far" is the tone of it. Ms P says she is disappointed when finding a small one and will usually suck the guy to completion and send him on his way. One guy she met who was small she liked well enough, however, to meet again and got into regular anal with him.

 

This, however, is not in a swinging context, where there is usually some sort of erection photo in play. We already know how big the guy's tool is, and make our selections based in part on that. Both ladies like 'em big! Ms F especially, who is craving to try something bigger than the biggest she's already had, which was 9x6.

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The men that I have been with who have had small penises ... well, let's just say that they didn't really know what to do with them. :rollseyes

 

In my 20 years of having sex, I have of course, come across a variety of shapes and sizes. I am fortunate to say that I have not had too many instances of small penises. Size DOES matter to me. And the reason for that is because those with smaller ones absolutely could not use them to any real degree of satisfaction. Not in my opinion anyway.

 

I am, what I have been told, "two-finger-tight" ... so I don't think it's MY problem that I get very little out of a very little penis.

 

My current husband is a whole 2" larger than my ex-husband, and I really had no complaints with my ex-husband, but definitely prefer my current husband's size as far as total satisfaction is concerned. I have a "limit" on size, and I will not go any smaller than 6" with an average girth. Less than that does nothing for me.

 

I have passed by men on the personals sites who didn't have a penis size to my preference.

 

And on a sidenote, a funny story:

 

We went to a house party one night ... got to talking to this one couple. I was a little inebriated at this point, :rollseyes , so I was a little more enamored of this fella than I should have been (and now that I have met him stone cold sober, I discovered he has the allure of a sweaty sock). While talking, height and penis size came up. He told me he was 6'5" (sooo not true .... my husband is almost 6'3"), and that he was 8" (found out later this was untrue as well ... 4" erect TOPS - my own husband is 8" - I know, I measured myself :D ). I understand that women like me put undue pressure on men as far as size is concerned, however, I really don't see the point in lying, especially if people are gonna find out the truth anyway. :hahaha:

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Its not about "how much" a guy has to use, but more about "how" he uses what he has. My wife has told me she's had guys with small dicks that have made her scream in bloody delight. :D Just give the guy a break. After all, he just might have a wicked toung. facelick

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Well I for one am angry ...I am so sick of it... by "it" I mean the lying.

 

The exaggerating penis size by inches ( allot of inches) in order to get into bed with us.

 

I am very angry at the “tiny” men who when I ask them straight up- “How big are you when erect?”- and inform them I have a preference- “because, I prefer men who are at least 7.5 or 8 inches or more”...( that is what really hits my g-spot... smaller just does nothing for me) LIE their asses off just to get to the "point of no return".

 

It puts me in a spot were I would have to hurt someone’s feelings , something I have been conditioned not to do... bruise a poor male ego... so they get to fuck with me...

and then I feel like a prostitute- Used and very, very unsatisfied.

 

I have even wasted my time performing oral on a limp little phallus trying to get it hard to no avail, until I lost all interest even in enjoying play with my Darter… to say I was pissed is an understatement.

 

So, these lying men with little dicks get over using that ploy. NO MORE... I am justifiably angry because this has happened more than once to us.

 

It is wrong. As wrong as if someone waited until they were done cumming in or on you to inform you they had an std. It is deceptive and low and I think women should quit being so damn polite about it and stand up for our dignity.

 

If you know going in ..that is one thing... but lying about it...well then I think you should be open game and get ready to be told off and kicked out of the room.

 

As for big... I would be delighted to finally meet a man who says he is "huge" and it not be a lie. I would make his millennium just because I was so happy to finally “see” an honest man. Just let me be on top.

 

A very hissing mad ~CAT

 

I know this will get a flame response but it is such a passionate topic with me... it is the reason I am about ready to just quit and leave the entire thing.

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Ok this is going to sound way to grade school but, how is the penis properly measured, I think I am aveage but now I have doubts, please explain how to properly measure

Thanks

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I agree with your measurement technique, BodyScape. That's how I do it! :D

 

And, though I am not fighting pissed off like you are BodyScape, I do detest the liars. It hasn't caused any real problems with us like it seemingly has for you ... we just had the one incident and I just wrote it off to the guy being a total weirdo in every sense. lol I mean, I guess I should have clued in that if he could stand next to my husband, who at 6'2.5 towered over him by at least a good two inches, and say with a straight face that he was 6'5 ... it should have tipped me off that he was exaggerating his penis size as well. :lol:

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for me...base of the erect shaft on the belly button side to the tip... that does not include the balls...

 

anyone else?

This is the way MrLM measures his penis. I think it would be better to underestimate and give that number out than to overestimate and disappoint people.

 

Which brings me to this: I like it when swinger ad sites give you a place to list your penis size. I think it helps people who want a certain length penis in their playmates. Some people refuse to fill that information in on their profiles and I think it would be an advantage to do so.

 

Also, I'm more comfortable having a fill-in-the-blank place to put that info rather than writing it in my profile, which can sound like I'm bragging rather than simply trying to point out a fact.

 

I would not be interested in a very large cock, my vagina couldn't handle it. I would much prefer smaller than larger.

 

LM

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I wrote our profile, and I did put my husband's penis size in there. A choice he, himself, would probably not make.

 

I guess I was bragging. lol :lol:

 

What can I say? I am proud of it, and so happy it's mine! :D

 

I agree with LM ... I think it is an advantage to somehow communicate that information to those who have an interest in it.

 

But beware of those like the fella we met ... lol :eek: I think he was thinking in terms of centimeters. :rolleyes:

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for me...base of the erect shaft on the belly button side to the tip... that does not include the balls...

 

anyone else?

 

This is the correct method but just an added suggestion for those males with upward curved penises; pull it down so it is parallel to the floor when measuring. This is the universally accepted method (at least in my universe). Penile (that word always cracks me up) measurement is very simple really. The measurement should measure the usable portion of ones member. Starting at the asshole to the tip of the penis, may produces impressive results, but also will piss off the Mrs. BodyScapes of the world, as it should.

 

Kevin

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Starting at the asshole to the tip of the penis, may produces impressive results, but also will piss off the Mrs. BodyScapes of the world, as it should.

 

Kevin

 

 

LOL :lol:

 

Sorry, this cracked me up. I really like Mrs. BodyScapes, and am glad she is around to offer her advice. I enjoy her posts ... but I have read at least a couple of her posts today, and she seems to piss off rather easily. :kissface:

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AHAHAHAHAHAHA>>>>

 

Mr. Bodyscape here… just read my baby's reply and the subsequent responses…

 

Will anger over men lying about penis size be known as the “Bodyscape Effect?”

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Sorry, this cracked me up. I really like Mrs. BodyScapes, and am glad she is around to offer her advice. I enjoy her posts ... but I have read at least a couple of her posts today, and she seems to piss off rather easily. :kissface:

 

Actually, she only wrote once. I was the one going on about smokers... we should sign our posts I guess...

 

MR BodyScape... LOL

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Unless penis size is correlated with tongue strength (which I'm pretty sure it isn't...) it's not worth my trouble worrying about. The truth of the matter is, the penetrative aspect of sex (I think I just coined some new terminology... :lol: ) just isn't what it's all about for me. Also, I'm a lot more comfortable going down on a slightly smaller guy. I just don't have a big enough mouth... much to my own dissappointment.

 

I do enjoy larger men for hand jobs though. It's a little easier to get a good grip.

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I do enjoy larger men for hand jobs though. It's a little easier to get a good grip.

 

I have only had one really big one, but what I really did enjoy about it was playing with it in my hands. I really liked licking, stroking and playing with a big fat cock. (a fond memory) But as far as sucking and fucking something that big, I don't care if I ever get one again.

 

L

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mrs bodyscape here...

 

Actually it takes allot ( or a little several times in a row...lol) to piss me off. This one just gets me because it has happened soooo often.

 

Actually the curved saber type of penis is my FAVORITE type. I guess you would also have to measure that one from the base near the balls to the tip and take the median number. Phallus like that tend to be the young straight against the body type and I have never met a man with one who wasn't a really good lover.

 

In general like Socrates...everything in modernation... too little is too little, too big is too big, somewhere in the middle for all of us is ..JUST RIGHT! I am so happy I know who and how long my JUST RIGHT is.

 

Still I would love to have the chance to get my mouth around 10 inches... gag me baby, I deal with it... after all it is sooo much fun to lick and nibble and do all kinds of things to the shaft and the balls... it is not all about deep throat. Although I like doing that too.

 

So were are you mr. Well-hung-third? Drop me a line... give me a chance to see if I like it or love it or can't handle it. ;)

 

~Cat

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Oh dear it seems my plea for a gag me hung man has scared everyone off... my bad...so sorry.

 

But really ...if your out there... drop us a line :D

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Originally Posted by BodyScape02

for me...base of the erect shaft on the belly button side to the tip... that does not include the balls...

 

anyone else?

Warning; Do not use a metal yardstick when using this method. I needed 10 stitches after stabbing myself trying to get the desired length.

 

The good news is I did get to 10”, but it was embarrassing explaining it to the doctor.

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for me...base of the erect shaft on the belly button side to the tip... that does not include the balls...

 

anyone else?

 

From the base of the spine to the chin...

 

I doubt you will get flamed for it. People lying to get you in bed - be it about their penis size or their relation to famous people is a fair enough reason to get pissed. Honestly, the fact that you entertained them at all... Well - I am glad that you have put your foot down... It's about time...

 

Honestly, this has never been a question we've been asked - nor have we asked it. While I completely understand if it is a preference, it isn't for us. We are attracted to personalities - but there have been a few painfully small playmates out there for Mrs Spoomonkey and those are ALWAYS disappointing.

 

But, I guess that is such a relative thing. She says it is because I have her spoiled - and while that is flattering, I realize that while I may be bigger than some of those guys, I am not exactly "porn worthy" - even with my screwy measuring system. If someone is used to John Holmes, I figure everyone would pale in comparison.

 

The only time "numbers" came up was AFTER we played with a couple. We really didn't enjoy them, so we slid quickly to club acquaintences. However, sometime later, they contacted us through a website - not knowing it was us. We saw their pictures, read their descriptions and had to laugh at his claim of an "eight inch cock to please you."

 

Though - to be fair - he may have a short rooster who tells jokes...

 

Spoomonkey

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Well, at whatever point I found out about his size I'd just take a "wait and see what happens" attitude with the smaller sized man. Tongue agility and patience are much more important to me anyway.

 

With the larger guy, I'd probably have a serious talk with him as menopausal changes have put me in a position where even average size can be painful if not managed correctly - nothing too hard or too deep.

 

If a frank (but sensitive) discussion wound up upsetting him in any way, I'd have to say I'd rather find out now than later that he's a "jerk" cause I'm not interested in someone who isn't comfortable or sensitive enough to talk to me as easily as sleep with me.

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