Just starting out. Threesome?

My husband and I have a fantasy of a threesome with another woman. We’ve discussed it, thought about it, have set our expectations and boundaries, tried to anticipate problems. I think we’re ready to proceed. Thinking about an escort...no personal attachment, won’t see again, meet at a neutral place... Maybe then, start going to a club? Very intimidated by the club idea....thinking the escort idea is the way to start shedding our inhibiations and get comfortable being with someone else. Thoughts???

Problem with escorts is that it is illegal in most parts of the states. When we were starting we had the same idea but the thought of getting caught in a police sting kept us from doing it. Risk/reward thing...too great of a risk for us. Of course finding a single woman who is in the L/S is known as a unicorn due to their rarity. Not impossible to find but they were impossible for US to find. That left us with other couples and clubs. We aren't club 'people' so we started meeting other couples. Worked out great for us. It just takes some time and effort to work us the nerve to do whatever you decide to do...and then later you will both laugh when you look back. The ABSOLUTE HARDEST part about going to a club will always be walking through the door for the first time. Wish there was some magic I could tell you, but the first step really is the hardest and your fears will always be much worse than the truth. Good luck and let us know what you decide to do.

For the reasons gold couple listed and others we did not go that route. We opted for a Target Rich environment. In our case that meant hotel parties. This started our Network growing at this point anything we would actually desire is around and available.

For the reasons gold couple listed and others we did not go that route. We opted for a Target Rich environment. In our case that meant hotel parties. This started our Network growing at this point anything we would actually desire is around and available.

How do you find hotel parties??

What Gold said!! Escorts are a bad idea. While there is no personal attachment, you probably want way more interaction than what occurs with an escort who will be detached, businesslike and nothing more than a VERY expensive hooker. Im pretty confident that there are several upscale clubs in the Houston area where you could get your feet and other parts of your body wet at much less expense than an escort. In a swingers club, you can throw a tennis ball onto the dance floor and likely hit a bi sexual or at least a bi-playful woman. That is also a target rich environment.

We started with my wife doing exes. It was easy for her, me and him since she knew and liked them, but they were exes for a reason. We've since moved onto couples who are friends, acquaintances and friends of friends. Can there be emotions? Yes, but that's hasn't been a problem. They treat her well.

In most places in the US, charging for sex isn't "work" it's prostitution. I am curious however, how are you charged? By the hour? By the date? By the day? and how much?

Too pricey for us. Yes, we've kissed a few frogs and had a few disappointing experiences but at most, that cost us dinner and drinks or the cost of a hotel room. In most states, what you have described is a crime under prostitution laws.

And here comes the agenda...... Back to the original question, stay away from hookers, risk/reward isn’t worth it. You guys will figure it out and that’s honestly one of the best things about getting into the lifestyle. Good luck!

Personal opinion: Prostitution should be regulated and de-criminalized in the US...and we wish we had $2000 a month that we could use to play (actually for $2k/mo we would be going to Desire every other month) but that's not the question here.

How to find hotel parties (also how to find swinger clubs): sign up and create a profile on one of the swinger websites (see Find Swingers at top of page, most allow free registration but you will be more successful if you pay the membership fee). There are always people advertising hotel parties, house parties (like a hotel party, just smaller at a a private home), and clubs. Hey, THEY want to find you as much as you want to find them. Cost is usually $50-$100/couple. If you are looking for NSA swinging, then this is the way to go. Even if you only go to the party...you are not expected to do anything, even take off your clothes, you will be amazed and enlightened (and probably see things you never imagined), the sex the two of you will have when you get home (or while you are still there) will be some of the hottest sex you have ever had. Go with your rules and limits established, don't violate them, and have no expectations (once again, you are not required to do anything). No always means no and just about everyone will ask permission before they touch anyone or anything. You WILL have an unforgettable time! Hardest part is walking through the door for the first time.

If you are looking for FWB, then finding other couples on line is usually the best way to go. Bottom line is join the less than 2%ers that have a relationship that is solid enough and honest enough to where you can experience this (not necessarily participate, but at least experience) and then decide if it is for you. Have fun and let us know if you have any more questions and where you go from here. Good luck!

I was a "hobbyist" for a number of years. I learned to do my homework, read the reviews, find the girls that were independent/ not ruled by a pimp or service, who had a good attitude and that did it because they really liked the sex! I had a pretty good reputation with the Denver callgirls. I never had an experience with LE. I would not be hesitant to look up a girl who specialized in "couples therapy." A thousand bucks seems steep though.

European mindset?? That pretty much says it all.

I too believe that sex work should not be a crime, but I would never avail myself of it. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with me for mutual pleasure, then I'd rather just move on. Just like I wouldn't enjoy paying someone to golf, hike, cycle or sail with me. To me the mutuality of sex, whether a ONS or marriage, is a big part of the fun. I (and my wife) do almost always pay for all expenses, including for entire vacations, so it's not that I'm cheap. Perhaps I'm fooling myself, but I see myself as generous to people who I click with, not buying an act.

Swinging is much more fun than using an escort, and legal. Single females are called unicorns because they are as scarce as unicorns. Setting up an MFM is relatively easy because there are many single guys out there seeking sex. Plus, my gal found very quickly that she loved having more than one guy pleasuring her. Her favorite number is three, one sucking each nipple and the third sucking her clit. After she has a climax she likes to have one in her and the other two kissing or sucking various hot spots of her body: lips, ears, neck, and nipples. We have also found out that one woman can usually wear out three guys, so everyone goes home well sated.