"Date" Webs vs Swingers Club vs Meet & Greet vs House Party vs Resort vs Cruise

I did not want to hijack the other recent thread that is similar to this... so I started a new one here.

also...

I recently made a reply to a "Getting Started" type thread, that is along this topic as well. (As a reference.)

This type of question comes up a lot on this BBS (scattered all over the place), so I am attempting to get some comparisons and feedback in one place.

If you feel so inclined... Please feel free to comment, share your experience, etc., on the following:

(One or more... Or any combination you want.)

• What is your preference?

   

  "Date" Webs vs Swingers Club vs Meet & Greet vs House Party vs Resort vs Cruise

   

• Why?

• What has your experience (progression) been like?

   

  Started with one. "Graduated" or changed to another because...? ... etc.

   

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I've tried finding out details online, but I must be missing something. So...

Maybe someone here can clarify a few things for me...

For Hedonism II ... a.k.a. "Hedo"

"All Inclusive" ... "Lifestyle-friendly"

It sounds like sex out in the open, day or night, is acceptable here. Maybe not so much in the dining areas and such... but from what I've gleaned, this is way more than just a simple "CO" resort. (With folks hooking-up in private rooms, or designated play areas on the resort grounds.)

Any comments or experience here?

For Desire

"All Inclusive"

It sounds like this is more of just a "Clothing Optional" (CO) facility, and sex out in the open (on the beach, in the hot-tub, etc.) is not looked upon favorably.

• One LS podcaster I heard called Desire “My happy place”... but it is not real clear (from their web) if Desire (one or both) is “Lifestyle Friendly”.
• The Desire Cruises seem to be LS Friendly.

Also..

There are apparently two Club / Resorts for Desire:

• Desire Riviera Maya Resort
• Desire Riviera Maya Pearl Resort

What is the difference here, if any?

and / or...

Here in the "Lower 48"... It seems the only real "Lifestyle Resort" (that rivals places like Hedo & Desire) is:

Sea Mountain Lifestyle Resort

Sounds like a “Day Visit” facility that is "Lifestyle Friendly", with a few (15) luxury rooms... similar to Hedo & Desire in atmosphere.

Any comments or experience here?

Any other similar resorts (in the Lower 48)?

I am aware of some other "Lifestyle Resorts" that seem more like glorified clubs.

Freedom Acres - Devore CA ... just North of San Bernardino, CA / LA Area

I am also aware of a few others... but they seem to be just "CO" (Naturist) type facilities.

Paradise Lakes Resort … Lutz, FL - North of Tampa

http://www.paradiselakes.com/

“Paradise Lakes Resort is a private, clothing optional resort, located in the heart of the nudist capital of the United States - Pasco County, Florida.”

(More Naturist than Lifestyle... or so it seems.)

Caliente Resorts … Land O Lakes, FL - North of Tampa

https://calienteresorts.com/

“Adults Only”

https://calienteresorts.com/faq/

(More Naturist than Lifestyle.)

“Overt sexual behavior or the appearance of such behavior is unacceptable at Caliente Resorts. Behavior 'never needing an apology' is the norm.”

Paradise Valley Resort & Club - Dawsonville, GA

http://www.paradisevalleyclub.com/

(More Naturist than Lifestyle.)

“Behavior requiring an apology is not tolerated.”

(The term "Paradise" seems to come up a lot.) (Maybe it is just a name, in terms of cleanliness, atmosphere, etc.)

I know that is a lot... but any light shed on just one of these would be helpful.

Many of these sites do not have FAQ pages, for quick & easy answers.

I am also aware of the (limited?) crossover between Naturist & Swinger communities.

A simple "Copy & Paste" for a link reference would be greatly appreciated (for anything not mentioned here).

Most all of this I have heard mentioned on this BBS at some point (in the past few years).

Regardless of what the responses here are... I find it pretty amazing that there are so many LS type opportunities available.

I'll just answer what I think your basic question is: 'What is your preference? "Date" Webs vs Swingers Club vs Meet & Greet vs House Party vs Resort vs Cruise'

It depends.

Date Webs (I assume you're talking SLS, SDC, Kasidie and the like.) Good for meeting people who may become friends, who you'll play in your (or their) home.

Swinger Club: Good for hot sex *Tonight*. You get a chance to get to know the couple or single, and if anyone is feeling it, you've got a place to go.

Meet & Greets: Good for meeting people, but you may have to wait for another night to get down.

House Party: Great for orgies, not so good for getting to know people.

Cruises and Resorts are a lot like Swinger Clubs, but much more expensive. Of course you get the vacation aspect too, so . . .

luv2was said:

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Also..

There are apparently two Club / Resorts for Desire:

• Desire Riviera Maya Resort
• Desire Riviera Maya Pearl Resort

What is the difference here, if any?

 

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BTW... those two resort names are straight off their web.

https://www.desire-experience.com/

The following thread addresses this question...

Pearl or RM

... Date Webs (I assume you're talking SLS, SDC, Kasidie and the like.)....

Yes. Thanks for the clarification.

I only have any real experience with SLS. A fairly decent site, but a bit of a clunky interface (especially the email client there).

Kasidie seems to be gaining a lot of popularity.

The general consensus that I've gleaned off this BBS is that Date Webs are a waste of time (mainly due to the "Flakes & Fakes" factor). I am inclined to agree, though my experience with them (almost always as a single guy) is no doubt a bit slanted. (Apparently I'm just not wired to compete in that environment. And that is OK.)

I'd be inclined to agree also (as has been discussed often on this BBS) that "free memberships" at these sites are pretty much a waste of time as well.

Luv2, yes the sites can soak up a lot of time, but I wouldn't call it a 'waste.' My wife and I get most of her lovers off SLS, it gives us a chance to winnow out the chaff before meeting. Since one of our passions is her playing in our house, it would be very hard to meet gentlemen for that in any other way.

But yes, you have to pay for memberships in this post-FOSTA era - it's the decision of the government, not the websites.

Notes:

Hedo: allows single males to register. This is why we haven't gone there.

Desire: AKA Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Both in Cancun, both are couples only, both are 'swinger' friendly. While people claim one is for the 'younger' crowd, it shifts between the two as to which is which...it just depends on who is there when you are. Pearl is 'newer', but RM is being updated. Both are nice and we would go to either and can't wait until we can go there again.

Nudists and swingers: Some swingers are nudists, some nudists are swingers, but not all nudists swing and swingers are nudists. At Laguna Del Sol (northern CA), it is a nudist resort...but they have more swinger oriented events on Saturday nights. If you are running a resort that caters to one crowd, you usually try to cater to both since you want as many visitors as possible.

....it just depends on who is there when you are....

My understanding is that for resorts (especially Hedo & Desire), it is best to do your homework and arrange to go at a time when a group that suits your fancy is headlining the week. For example: If you go during a week when BDSM is the focus, and you are not into that, your experience could be less than optimal. (Apparently this is especially true for Desire.)

Another example is that folks like Mr & Mrs Jones from the "We Gotta Thing" podcast will "Host" (promote? organize?) various events... some of which get "sold out" fairly quickly.

I suspect that some (or most?) Lifestyle Cruises are similar, but maybe not so much, as some of these cruise ships are fairly large (with capacities in the thousands). :-o

We just finished our 9th trip to Desire and spent 4 days at RM followed by 4 days at Pearl. We liked Pearl better but you will find others that like RM better. And yes, it depends upon the crowd there at the time. We made sure to have a Friday night at RM and a Saturday night at Pearl since the weekends are usually at capacity. This time, we saw more action at Pearl than RM.

What we like about RM: More rooms (114) so more people to interact with. Habatchi grill is the best.

What we don't like about RM: Jacuzzi and Disco are on the second story meaning stairs. Stairs are not conducive to heels and alcohol. And the jacuzzi is very small.

What we like about Pearl: Rooms are nicer and bigger (88 rooms). Pool and jacuzzi are much larger. Disco is off the main lobby so easy to get to and move about.

What we don't like about Pearl: The DJ in the club at night is the worst. Does not read the crowd well for music and, as such, the club empties an hour after it opens. Many head down to the jacuzzi for late night fun.

We don't do Temptation nor Hedo because they allow single guys there. Unfortunately, many of those guys do not know the protocol when interacting with women and figure because a woman is there, it is a free for all. Too many stories from couples we spoke to that have gone there.

Desires is like Disneyland only for adults...no matter when you go it's hard to have a bad time. Certain groups MAY make the experience better for you, but you are going to have a good time as long as you are open to having a good time.

The latest episode (#73) of the "Swinger Diaries" podcast has a segment on Desire RM vs Pearl. Recorded at RM.