Club recommendations

Hi, my wife and I have never been to a club, but looking to take that 1st step. We’ve looked around online and whilst there are loads around, nobody really leaves reviews.

We keep seeing Vanilla Alternative (anyone been/any thoughts) but apart from that we have no idea.

Can anyone suggest a good 1st time club to have a look around and take a step towards the dream please??

To do that we need to know your location. What city or region you are in. Maybe I missed it, but don't see this in your profile.

Beyond that I'd not obsess finding the perfect club first time out. Its like restaurants, bars, lawn and garden stores, or Dentists. You should look over the selection, pick two or three & try them all. ...and don't go with big expectations. Hang out, observe, have a drink or two together, and have some great sex with your wife in one of the private rooms, or in public as you are inclined. Circulate among several clubs, visiting each 2-3 times and after a few months you will have a much better understanding of each club, what your options are, and maybe have a few surprises along the way.

I never go to a club with th expectation of meeting someone new. That has happened, but I have always gone with the intent of meeting a friend prearranged, or with a friend. More often than not I just talk to the others I encounter there, without any intent to pick them up. Have had some great conversations that way.

That is really reassuring, thank you! I guess one concern is that we turn up and are instantly expected to join in. We want to take it slow, have a look around. Who knows, maybe first time is the time, but maybe it isn’t. We want that option.

We are London based but happy to travel. Preferably south of the midlands for ease....but pretty open.

One fear, and the reason for asking, is we don’t want to end up at a bad site the first time. It feels like a big and key step.

Happy to take your recommendations on any location to be honest, but you’re points nonetheless are well appreciated. Thank you.

You might try starting with this list:

SLS - England - United Kingdom Swinger Clubs - by City

https://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/united_kingdom/england/index.cfm?orderby=ccity

That is really reassuring, thank you! I guess one concern is that we turn up and are instantly expected to join in. ...

Very unlikely. There is occasionally the pushy male, attached or otherwise, but those are considered rude and social misfits. Many people will chat with you a bit. Others may not be interested in talking. Either way very few will expect instant gratification. The experienced will spot you are new & most of those will treat you with a bit of respect that way.