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I am new but very excited to get started. Question - I am a single, recently divorced male looking for ideas or recommendations on how to find a single lady in to this lifestyle. Many are not but this is certainly something I would like to do. Where would I go about meeting singles into this kind of thing? Not sure I would want to date anyone not interested in considering this.

Thanks,

J

What is it that you find appealing about the lifestyle? It sounds like you are looking for a LTR. What do you think the lifestyle will bring into an LTR?

I'll be honest with you. I was in a similar situation however I played as a single guy for a while and I also fucked up a couple of relationships before I figured out both what I really wanted and what the lifestyle was all about. I got extremely lucky and have been told as much by every guy and couple we've ever talked to who has asked, as a part of general "get to know you" small talk, how we ended up together.

Said as gently as possible, I think you're going about this the wrong way. You should find a partner whom you have a full, strong relationship with and THEN start into swinging, if both you are agreeable. Trying to find a single lady to start a relationship with and immediately begin to swing as part of that is likely going to fail, and fail hard.

Unattached women who swing are called unicorns because there are so very, very few of them particularly when compared to single males who call themselves swingers. You should heed Bbarnsworth's advice. Failing to do so will result in your spending most nights having sex……..with your self! Same thing will happen if you want to become a 2nd penis with a couple. In that case it's a buyers market and you're starting way behind.

I has been said that a single male in the lifestyle is about as rare as a cheeseburger in McDonalds. You are on the difficult end of a very tough road...