Cuckhold

Hello friends.I know the meaning of cuckhold but I don't understand why people do it. Is it because of you watching other guy/girl with the person you like? Or is it because you think that you can't satisfy your partner ? (Cum too soon etc).

What do you think about this topic?

To my late wife and me, Gaga, "Cuckold" connoted belittling the one we loved. We would never do that.

We once experimented with Laura spending the night with a guy she found very attractive. Hearing her story afterward was exciting and we took advantage of that, but she found the sexual experience "underwhelming" so we never did it again. We liked playing with couples a lot better.

Another time, I had the opportunity to spend an afternoon in a hotel with my high school sweetheart, with whom I'd not had sex when we were teenagers. Laura helped plan the event by creating a "Tryst Kit," which consisted of wine, goblets, lubricant, etc. It was fun, but we never repeated that either.

My recommendation would be that, once you find the love of your life, the two of you explore the lifestyle together.

We're glad to see your participation. Years ago I was lucky to be able to spend several months in Torremolinos. Soon after Laura and I met we spend a month on Majorca. I'm a fan of Spain!

I'm certainly no expert, but I fully endorse at least two of Alura's concepts: emotional monogamy, and rejection of the cuckold idea in favor of "hotwife." I know that is playing with labels, but the principles involved, in my mind are: 1) Total respect between you and your spouse, 2) Desire on my part to provide every opportunity for her to have the most varied and best possible experiences, and 3) Make sure we explore the experiences that accomplish all of this MUTUALLY. Selfishness and disrespect do not fit with any of this.

 

When done with an eye toward accuracy this is a very good thing. Terms thrown around loosely soon lose any real meaning at all.

I was searching online and I found this guy saying "To me, a woman who cuckolds her man is making a statement. She is saying that she prefers another man sexually. She is saying even maybe that her husband no longer arouses her. I think that process of how a woman naturally gives her body more to a lover and less to a husband over time is extremely humiliating to a husband". Do you agree with this or not? Why?

Which are your top 5 cuckolds humiliations?

I think you have several preconceived notions probably stashed in your spank bank. A swinging couple are likely already satisfied with their spouse. Sex with others, for either of us, is recreational and is not as a result of any short comings we find in one another. Add recreational sex to your spank bank too.

I wrote this for a blog at some point:

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Are you a cuckold? And do you care?

In this world, cuckold is usually considered to be a derogatory term. Technically, any husband who's wife sleeps with other men is a cuckold, and society automatically condemns him. (Of course, any wife who sleeps with other men is a ‘slut’ and is condemned, but that’s another blog!) In actuality, there are three different connotations of the word ‘cuckold.’ If your wife is sleeping around, one of them fits you.

The first usage is ‘standard’ and has a historical context behind it. The term was invented in the middle of the eleventh century and comes from ‘cuckoo’ - that bird has the habit of using other bird’s nest to lay their eggs. It usually meant a man who’s wife was having adulterous affairs with one or more other men. This was a big deal well into the nineteenth century, because a wife was a man’s property. There are plenty of court cases where men sued other men for improper usage of their goods. Of course, if they brought the Earl to court, the men usually got snickered at. This definition continues into modern time to describe a man who’s spouse is cheating on him without his knowledge or agreement.

Now, of course, girls are much more equal than they used to be, and I suspect that many more married women are sharing themselves than used to be before the women’s liberation movement and the invention of effective birth control. (I, for one, applaud the revolution!) In the modern context, the term ‘cuckold’ has evolved.

The second definition is used for some men who have the fetish of their wives having sex outside the marriage and humiliating them in the process. The affront can start with simple embarrassment of the man, (“I slept with Jake today, what are you going to do about it?) to the wife forcing him to watch as she screws someone. She might tell him about the large size of the man who’s screwing him, comparing it to his tiny penis. She might make him wear a cock cage so that he isn’t allowed to orgasm except when she’s willing. Often, he tends to think of himself as a sissy. While this isn’t my cup of tea, if it makes you happy, who am I to judge?

Finally, there’s the ‘modern’ definition. Today there are many couples who engage in swinging and/or hotwifing. With her husband’s permission and (sometimes) participation, a wife is promiscuous. In these situations, the man is technically a cuckold. But since he doesn’t view his wife as ‘property’, he isn’t upset or threatened by her infidelity. In fact he often encourages it to both their pleasure.

Are you a cuckold? If so, which kind?

Hello friends.I know the meaning of cuckhold but I don't understand why people do it. Is it because of you watching other guy/girl with the person you like? Or is it because you think that you can't satisfy your partner ? (Cum too soon etc).

What do you think about this topic?

It has nothing to do with me not being able to satisfy my wife. It's about her pleasure and I enjoy seeing that. If a guy is bigger than me or can do things in bed I can't, it doesn't bother me at all.

Now I understand. Second definition