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    Default Should I let my wife shag another man

    Hi everyone
    I have been thinking for awhile about my wife fucking another male. It turns me on to think about it and I know it turns her on cos when I mention it to her she gets very wet very quickly but tells me that my cock is enough for her.
    Do U think Iím wrong to let her fuck another male for my pleasure or not.
    I have organised a male to come over and to massage her and to se if she goes any futher with him but only time will tell


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    South of disorder WesternSwing's Avatar
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    Should you let her? Yes, if it's both of your fantasy and you've thoroughly talked it through beforehand. Watching your partner fuck someone else will bring many feelings to the surface, both good and bad, and it's better to cover the "what-if's" beforehand than play damaage control and pick-up the pieces afterward.

    Second, is she on-board with this massage arrangement and seeing where it goes, also? It rarely works-out when these things are a surprise.

    Again, talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Then fuck other people once the talking is done and you are both on the same page about what you want to happen and ultimately what you want to get from this.


    Good luck.
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    Welcome to the Swingers Board! Great advice above from WesternSwing

    Quote Originally Posted by Bigjohn2015 View Post
    Do U think I’m wrong to let her fuck another male for my pleasure or not.
    Swinging needs to be for both of you and something you both found pleasurable. While it's not uncommon for one partner to be ahead of the other when first starting out, for couples who are successful in swinging after a little time that evens out and both enjoy it just as much as the other, and in fact, seeing your partner happy and enjoying it brings you as much or more enjoyment yourself than anything you are getting out of it personally.
    Not all those who wander are lost

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    “Letting her” implies that she is actively wanting to and asking you if she may. Is that the situation or is this more of a fantasy of yours that you want her to adopt or even pursue?

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    South of disorder WesternSwing's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by chiccouplexx View Post
    ďLetting herĒ implies that she is actively wanting to and asking you if she may. Is that the situation or is this more of a fantasy of yours that you want her to adopt or even pursue?
    "Letting her" also, to me, implies that she's a possession, like a lawnmower to be loaned to your neighbor. I've always disliked this term. I don't feel you "let" your partner do anything. They are their own being with their own self-governance and they can do whatever they please. Now if they choose to or not is also their decision. Just because someone has the freedom to fuck someone else doesn't mean they will or even want to. Hell, they could leave you tomorrow or they will stay with you, and it's their choice, not yours. I've always thought that one of the perks of having an open relationship is that the door is fully open for someone to walk away, and they don't. That's how you know they really love and care about you.
    "Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are." ~ Anna Freud
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    We just got back from our first trip to hedo… we have been nudists, curious and discussed the lifestyle but no experience at all with others... The first night there we met a nice couple at dinner, and met them to go to the pool afterwards. Got in the hot tub.. and started to talk. Wife said the water was too hot for her so she got up and walked to the shelf of the pool next to the hot tub and the other husband went with her. Me and his wife stayed in the hot tub and talked... after a minute I glanced toward the other pool and my wifes head was bobbing up and down on him. Most awesome sight I've seen and gave me an instant erection. Anyway, they got up and walked to the deck chairs and in a few minutes she was sitting on him. We started kissing and watching and after a few minutes walked over and sat next to them... and all started chatting like nothing was going on. Went back to their room and wife did two more with him while the two of us did one and watched.

    So to answer the question... I didn't let her to anything, she just did it... so Yes I would say she can do what she wants. When I asked her why and how she started so fast, she told me with a big smile, isn't that why we came here... and we shared the couple together openly. The rest of the week was a lot of fun!!!

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    Default Re: Should I let my wife shag another man

    What does your wife want to do? If she is getting excited by the very thought, stand back and see what happens, provide support and move forward....right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleve76Pom View Post
    What does your wife want to do? If she is getting excited by the very thought, stand back and see what happens, provide support and move forward....right?
    My wife gets very wet and excited when I mention another mans cock but has said mine is enough for her.
    What can I do ? Please help me with solutions.
    I am not the jeaslous type been together for 13 years and Iím happy with her as she is happy with me. I want to spice things up on the bedroom

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    Default Re: Should I let my wife shag another man

    Are you looking for a male to join you or a couple? It sounds to me like it's just a male so you can watch your wife be fucked? What does she think of that?


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    Hi I would love a couple to join us really but to be honest with u Iíd love a man to come over to mine so that I can watch my wife get fucked good. I only have a average size cock and I know that she wants bigger cos every time we watch porn she says how nice a good thick long cock would be and her pussy by than is soaking wet and thatís before even touching her.
    Help what should I. Do

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    South of disorder WesternSwing's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bigjohn2015 View Post
    My wife gets very wet and excited when I mention another mans cock but has said mine is enough for her.
    What can I do ? Please help me with solutions.
    I am not the jeaslous type been together for 13 years and I’m happy with her as she is happy with me. I want to spice things up on the bedroom
    She may get wet at the thought, the fantasy if you will, but there is a huge difference between getting turned-on by the fantasy and actually wanting to do it. But this is where you two will need to have a long, honest talk with each other about whether this is a fantasy she really wants to fulfill and she's afraid of how you'll feel about it so she's telling you that you're enough, or it's something that is better left a fantasy for her. Of course the only way to find-out is to talk about it, outside the bedroom when you're not hard and she's not wet so that lusty thoughts are clouding rational thinking.
    "Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are." ~ Anna Freud
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    Make sure to talk about any boundaries or limits so you both understand what is and is not allowed. The more communication, the better.

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    Sounds to me that you are more interested in a hotwife/cuckold situation than swinging. Try OHW instead of this site and you will get plenty of advice there - and probably plenty of offers to do your wife while you watch.

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