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Does anyone participate in LS activities in a club/house party environment only and turn it all off at the door when you leave or does it always grow/evolve into meeting couples outside of those places as you get more into the LS? We are completely new to this and are attending our first club this weekend. Just wondering if there are those that only play in those situations ONLY and never bring it to a more personal level in their outside vanilla life.

 

I don't know why I'm wondering this tbh. It just popped into my head after spending countless hours reading this forum trying to learn as much as possible and making an attempt at being at least somewhat informed. Lol

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This is an interesting question that without a doubt will illicit different answers. When I was married to my first husband, we simply played at our local club and left the LS behind when we went home. We did have dinner a few times with couples that we becamse friendly with at the club but kept it vanilla outside.

 

With my current husband, we do socialize more with couples that we have met at the club. But... couples we meet outside the club are also only for vanilla activities. Sure, we flirt and joke but don't play at all. I'm not sure that this really gives you much insight. We just tend to keep our playing inside the confines of the swing club. We have hosted a few private parties and there we all play but that is the point of the party.

 

Over time our social life has become pretty much all swingers as this is who we are most comfortable with. Even if we don't play with them we have more in common.

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I know this experience will evolve and grow over time. What we want now may or may not change the more we are involved. I've just seen countless posts about people meeting in the club and the couples texting the next day or some other form of communication afterwards. I'm not sure that's what we are interested in. Not that we aren't friendly or want to meet cool people, but this part of our life, while fun, has its place. I guess I wanted to make sure we wouldn't alienate a majority of people by being this way. I suppose clear communication with anyone we might hit it off with would solve the issue.

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Ok let me clarify. When we go to our club and swing with a random couple (which is 99% of our play time), we say thank you and walk away. We have no interest in being in touch. We will always be friendly and say hello if we see them again but we never seek out further communication. The people we se outside the club are simply friends we have made in the club over the years. We way prefer when people do not ask for our numbers because it's awkward to have to make some lame excuse or give it to them only to show them via text that we are not interested in anything further. You'll be fine...

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