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I'd Like To Hit A Club, But:

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Hello:

 

As the title suggests, I'd like to visit a club (I'm not far from TJ's Lasting Impressions, in central PA), but I'm a little apprehensive:

 

In person, I have no trouble communicating - I live by the Golden Rule, so respect, decency, and honesty are the norm. I also have a lot of interests, and a sense of humor that ranges from dry to off the wall.

 

I'm not shy about my body (decently-built, tall, above-average penis), but I feel a little awkward going alone. I don't want to come-off as "the lone weirdo", but I don't currently have anyone to go with me.

 

Does anyone have any advice on this? A lady's perspective would be greatly appreciated here.

 

Thank you,

 

Drew

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Hi Fi86:

 

Unfortunately, no I do not (though that would be the ideal way to go, in my book). I'm currently single, which adds another dimension to the problem - I don't want ladies (or their husbands/boyfriends) getting the idea that I'm just a single guy looking to hook up. I've done a so-so amount of reading on the forum, and I get the impression that a lot of people have that perception of single guys at the clubs, (probably from bad experiences). I try to conduct myself with class, but it's not easy getting past peoples' preconceived notions, sometimes. In my intro post, I mentioned that I'm more interested in making new friends; sex is an added benefit, but not my sole reason for being interested.

 

Thank you,

 

Drew

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I've both seen and known single guys having trouble getting accepted or even admitted to clubs and parties. Some places are OK, but in others single men aren't particularly welcome, which can be unfair.

 

Going with others already in the lifestyle is best. Do you know of any swinging couples you could tag along with, or borrow a wife so to speak? I've gone with single men in the past appearing as a couple to help them out, which is why I asked if you knew a girl.

 

Otherwise I suggest you find an event aimed at single guys like a singles night, newbie night, gangbangs. But you're less likely to meet couples and women at some of those types of events and they can be less friendly. But some places are really good so give it a go!

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I've both seen and known single guys having trouble getting accepted or even admitted to clubs and parties. Some places are OK, but in others single men aren't particularly welcome, which can be unfair.

 

Going with others already in the lifestyle is best. Do you know of any swinging couples you could tag along with, or borrow a wife so to speak? I've gone with single men in the past appearing as a couple to help them out, which is why I asked if you knew a girl.

 

Otherwise I suggest you find an event aimed at single guys like a singles night, newbie night, gangbangs. But you're less likely to meet couples and women at some of those types of events and they can be less friendly. But some places are really good so give it a go!

 

Thank you! I'll have to look around, and see what's available here; I think the best-known club around here (TJ's) mainly caters to couples. I'm very close friends with a couple in NJ (best friends since HS), and they sometimes go to a club in Atlantic City; I know I'd be a welcome third wheel with them, and "borrowing" her wouldn't be a problem either, so I might start thinking in those directions.

 

Thank you!!

 

Drew

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You could also try Temptation Resort in Mexico. It caters to single men and though not necessarily advertised as such, it's a swingers resort.

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Thank you! I'll have to look around, and see what's available here; I think the best-known club around here (TJ's) mainly caters to couples. I'm very close friends with a couple in NJ (best friends since HS), and they sometimes go to a club in Atlantic City; I know I'd be a welcome third wheel with them, and "borrowing" her wouldn't be a problem either, so I might start thinking in those directions.

 

Thank you!!

 

Drew

 

Tbh that sounds like your best bet. Look around for single friendly places, but in the meantime I'd go with your friends wife. The third wheel will work better for private parties but if clubs say couples they're not going to accept a trio, so I'd go with her as a couple assuming he doesn't mind. While you're there with her use the opportunity to meet people and make friends. This will open the door to friendships, relationships, and hopefully invites to events.

 

I assume your friends wife is happy having sex with you? On couples nights if you are planning to play then playing with your partner comes first and maybe a swap if you meet another couple you get on with. You'll get funny looks to say the least if you and your partner refuse to have sex with each other.

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