Going to a club....decision made!

Ok we've been looking properly for way to long now and have finally decided to bite the bullet and try a club.

I guess this is a carry on from "are we that scary" and to say we're nervous would be the world's biggest understatement!

Well the talkings been done and arrangements are now in place...we're going to a fairly local club this Saturday night.

Theres obviously lots to sort out, like what to wear etc and we've decided not to stay the night?

Aparerently its a party night and the site says that there should be at least 180 people.

We still haven't decided whether to go prepared to swap or just for a look?

Online they say to let them know if its our first time, is that worth it?

Any advice would be much appreciated?

. . . Online they say to let them know if its our first time, is that worth it?

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Have a good time.

The people who operate a club typically want or might even require that new members be given a tour of their facility while they explain the club's code of behaviour. It is, in any case, a good idea to let them know that you will be making your first visit.

 

Have a good time.

We are just want to blend in and find our feet, but I guess it will be nice knowing where we're going!

We've been reading up on the 'rules'....

For us it was mainly about building Riders' confidence and getting her want to be involved and even take the lead where she wanted to... and she did.

After taking care of old baggage I:

Suggested some sexy cloths on Amazon for her to choose.

Suggested a couple of new toys from Amazon also. Her choice.

After I did a lot of research looking at Adult places, including reading lots of the comments, I sent the links and let her do her own research.

We talked about the pros and cons and as you have read, she set the rules.

We had a flight layover in Miami and I suggested going to a mall that had a Victorias Secret and we shopped some more.

Her having done her own research, including map study of the place, I let her take the lead and very much kept my mouth shut.

She had her massage, manicure and pedicure. Put on her new sexy underwear and beach wrap.

Her self esteem, confidence, feeling sexy, happy and being able to call the shots for what she wanted to due was amazing.

Don't think that I was being Cucked.. I was at her side holding hands and being a part of the whole process but stayed away from the Alpha Male part of me. We just rolled with and opened up to what was around us and let what things happen that she/we felt comfortable with.

That's what worked for us. And it is still working.

Good Luck

For us it was mainly about building Riders' confidence and getting her want to be involved and even take the lead where she wanted to... and she did.

After taking care of old baggage I:

Suggested some sexy cloths on Amazon for her to choose.

Suggested a couple of new toys from Amazon also. Her choice.

After I did a lot of research looking at Adult places, including reading lots of the comments, I sent the links and let her do her own research.

We talked about the pros and cons and as you have read, she set the rules.

We had a flight layover in Miami and I suggested going to a mall that had a Victorias Secret and we shopped some more.

Her having done her own research, including map study of the place, I let her take the lead and very much kept my mouth shut.

She had her massage, manicure and pedicure. Put on her new sexy underwear and beach wrap.

 

Her self esteem, confidence, feeling sexy, happy and being able to call the shots for what she wanted to due was amazing.

 

Don't think that I was being Cucked.. I was at her side holding hands and being a part of the whole process but stayed away from the Alpha Male part of me. We just rolled with and opened up to what was around us and let what things happen that she/we felt comfortable with.

 

That's what worked for us. And it is still working.

 

Good Luck

Yes we can relate to this and yes we are apparently visiting an underwear shop Saturday morning!

We have already researched the club over the past few months and although we have our doubts we're both ready and feel like the times right. Obviously my wife will always have the final say on who we swap with.

It certainly sounds like it worked out well for you guys.

Yes we can relate to this and yes we are apparently visiting an underwear shop Saturday morning!

We have already researched the club over the past few months and although we have our doubts we're both ready and feel like the times right. Obviously my wife will always have the final say on who we swap with.

It certainly sounds like it worked out well for you guys.

I recommend going with an open mind. Plan to chat with sexy people without feeling any pressure to play. If you have an opportunity and it feels right to you both, take it. Otherwise, you hopefully met some nice people you can arrange to meet later on. That said, as the male half, a lot of men have a hard time performing in a club environment the first few times. If you have a meal before hand, make it a light one and limit yourselves to one cocktail (or none).

I recommend going with an open mind. Plan to chat with sexy people without feeling any pressure to play. If you have an opportunity and it feels right to you both, take it. Otherwise, you hopefully met some nice people you can arrange to meet later on. That said, as the male half, a lot of men have a hard time performing in a club environment the first few times. If you have a meal before hand, make it a light one and limit yourselves to one cocktail (or none).

Thanks for the advice.

We'll be staying in a nearby hotel, rather than on site. We think that we'd prefer our first swap (if it happens) to be a little more intimate than the club, do couples pair off and retreat to their hotels together.....or isn't that the done thing?

Thanks for the advice.

We'll be staying in a nearby hotel, rather than on site. We think that we'd prefer our first swap (if it happens) to be a little more intimate than the club, do couples pair off and retreat to their hotels together.....or isn't that the done thing?

It really depends on the local culture and club itself, but where we are it seems like people do both. Some stay-and-play and some meet, flirt, get hot, and then play off-site. It may also depend on whether the party has a theme that would lead more to on-premises play or not. For instance, "orgy night" or some such. Personally, I think a nearby hotel room is a good idea, especially for a first time out!

It really depends on the local culture and club itself, but where we are it seems like people do both. Some stay-and-play and some meet, flirt, get hot, and then play off-site. It may also depend on whether the party has a theme that would lead more to on-premises play or not. For instance, "orgy night" or some such. Personally, I think a nearby hotel room is a good idea, especially for a first time out!

Oh we hadn't considered that it might be a theme night....the website just says party night?

The club is set in 20+ acres and has rooms and wooden chalet type things and obviously theres lots of different rooms in the main building apparently, so the option is definitely there for fun. But we both think that we'd be a little overwhelmed there, especially now knowing how things really work, meaning private places and how others join in etc??

We're just both desperately hoping for a relaxing, but flirty night and hopefully somehow we'll connect with another couple and finally do the deed! lol

I would definitely let them know it's your first time there. It will likely lead to a tour of the place and possibly an introduction or two to other couple who can help show you the ropes and introduce you further... way better than sitting in a corner all night because you are too scared to introduce yourselves to someone.

I'd suggest going with options open. Don't expect to play but be ready to do so should the opportunity present itself in a way that you want to take advantage of.

We have very open communication about sexual interests. I would love to go for the experience but am afraid my man wouldn't have a good time and I don't want him to feel left out on any adventure I partake in. I am in the late 20s and am trying to figure out what all sexual activities I really do enjoy. Been sexually active for 10 years but only recently happily satisfied the last year and half. Is this worth our time? I hear mixed revoews. Nothing negative. I just want to male sure the scene is more open to couples close to our age.

I would definitely let them know it's your first time there. It will likely lead to a tour of the place and possibly an introduction or two to other couple who can help show you the ropes and introduce you further... way better than sitting in a corner all night because you are too scared to introduce yourselves to someone.

 

I'd suggest going with options open. Don't expect to play but be ready to do so should the opportunity present itself in a way that you want to take advantage of.

A tour will be helpful and some introductions would be invaluable, because there is definitely a chance of us just sitting in the corner wondering how to proceed!

We have very open communication about sexual interests. I would love to go for the experience but am afraid my man wouldn't have a good time and I don't want him to feel left out on any adventure I partake in. I am in the late 20s and am trying to figure out what all sexual activities I really do enjoy. Been sexually active for 10 years but only recently happily satisfied the last year and half. Is this worth our time? I hear mixed revoews. Nothing negative. I just want to male sure the scene is more open to couples close to our age.

Hey this will be our first time going to a club, but we'd be happy to report back how we find it and tell you the sort of age ranges that are at the club Saturday night? We're both pretty nervous ourselves!

Sorry that I missed this entire party...jury duty. So, how was it?

Sorry that I missed this entire party...jury duty. So, how was it?

Overall, it was good......somehow different from how I in particular imagined?

The club was way busier than either of us expected and there was a mix of different people. Although some were quite pushy and even aggressive, but the majority were nice, especially the few that stepped in a couple of times! We had more I guess you'd call them invites than we expected and after hiding for a while and then watching some incredibly hot scenes we kind of hooked up with another couple. It almost didn't happen, but we ended up going back to our hotel with them and yeah.

Overall, it was good......somehow different from how I in particular imagined?

The club was way busier than either of us expected and there was a mix of different people. Although some were quite pushy and even aggressive, but the majority were nice, especially the few that stepped in a couple of times! We had more I guess you'd call them invites than we expected and after hiding for a while and then watching some incredibly hot scenes we kind of hooked up with another couple. It almost didn't happen, but we ended up going back to our hotel with them and yeah.

Success! Congrats!

Did the hotel time go well?

Success! Congrats!

 

Did the hotel time go well?

Yes we exceeded our own expectations! lol

And yes shaky in places, but extremely good thanks!

Did you both full swap? Inquiring minds want to know. Your right to plead the Fifth. Or attorney client privilege, if applicable.

Did you both full swap? Inquiring minds want to know. Your right to plead the Fifth. Or attorney client privilege, if applicable.

Yes we did!

Did you both full swap? Inquiring minds want to know. Your right to plead the Fifth. Or attorney client privilege, if applicable.

Does that satisfy inquiring minds?

We are satisfied. It sounds like you were satisfied, too! Congrats, glad you had fun!

We are satisfied. It sounds like you were satisfied, too! Congrats, glad you had fun!

Yes, surprisingly different with some shaky moments here and there, but yes we had a lot of fun! Second time meeting them tonight in fact!

Yes, surprisingly different with some shaky moments here and there, but yes we had a lot of fun! Second time meeting them tonight in fact!

Vunderbar! I hope the second encounter is even better for you both than the first!

Vunderbar! I hope the second encounter is even better for you both than the first!

Yes Yes Absolutely fantastic thanks!