Am I too old

I'm 55 and we would like to go to a club. However, what's the average age? Are we gonna end up being there with a whole bunch of really young people that aren't interested in us? I need to know.

We are 59 and we've been swinging for four years. We do try to meet couples in our age group. Most clubs have a diversity of ages. You could call the club and ask or go and scope it out. Worst case scenario: have a night out, see some sights, do your spouse, go home.

You are far from too old and you should be able to find partners with whom you can share mutual pleasure.

As I mentioned in an earlier thread, at a party I once played with a couple who were in their mid-80s. They looked their ages but they knew how to have a good time. A mutual friend later told me thecouple had a long history in the lifestyle, which included an orgy on their wedding night. Which was in the late 1940s! I found them an inspiration for the notion of a long and adventurous sex and love life.

Yeah, you're too old - just joking.

I'm damn near seventy, I'm not too old. You're the same age my wife and I were when we started swinging.

Go for it, have a great time!

As long as you are alive, you're never too old for anything.

Thanks, I think I'm just overthinking things and feeling apprehensive .

We’ve been in, out, and around the lifestyle since the ‘70’s and like the commercial says, “We’ve seen a thing or two during our time.” I think it all comes down to mindset. As a rule, the people that you meet in the lifestyle are the friendlies, fun loving people that you’re ever going to meet. It didn’t take us long to realize that we had the most fun when we went to clubs or parties with a mindset of just having fun and enjoying ourselves. As opposed to going out looking for a specific body type or age to have sex with.

Don’t over think it, be open and friendly and not pushy and demanding. Be warm and inviting, not cold and aloof and you will find yourself having fun. I think one of the biggest problems that some people make is going to events with a preconceived fantasy that they are trying to live out. For us going to these things with a mindset of a surprise party where you never know what you’re going to get were the nights we had the most fun.

It’s been my experience that if people would work more on their people skills than they do at pumping iron in a gym they would find themselves getting laid more. You are who you are and you’re not going to change that so just go out and have fun.

We are 59 and we've been swinging for four years. We do try to meet couples in our age group. Most clubs have a diversity of ages. You could call the club and ask or go and scope it out. Worst case scenario: have a night out, see some sights, do your spouse, go home.

That's the best part of swinging...you're getting laid no matter what!!

Just go to a club in Naples, FL, you’ll feel young again. Seriously, definitely not too old to swing. Regarding clubs, depending on where you go. A “sex club” such as Trapeze in Fort Lauderdale or Atlanta, you may feel old. But, go to your local “couples club” that allow singe men on a particular night of the week, you’ll be fine. Or, try a local swinger club that has no facility of their own, go to a meet and greet they sponsor, you can get an idea of whether they attract the older or younger crowd before attending something that is more of a commitment.

Quite a few people in their 50s at the clubs around us, although they all say they perpetually 49

Generally we don't target the under 40 couples, but we do get approached by younger couples once in a while. There seem to be quite a few younger women that like older guys, and young guys that like older women. We try not to let age be a barrier.

We are just considering our first visit to a "club" and will see what happens from there. I am a very fit 55 and my wife is a gorgeous and fit 37 year old. My wife has always preferred men at least 10 years older than her because of the maturity factor. We have been together over 10 years now and know and trust each other very well. I know a lot of couples with a big age difference don't usually last. But, because of the trust factor, ours will. Also, my wife knows that she can pretty much have any fantasy fulfilled that she wants, if she ever wants it (no real interest right now but she is open to the possibility if the right situation comes up).

Go...neither of you has to 'do' anything, but the experience is something that you will never forget. Let us know how it was...

Age is a state of mind, at least in Florida, so let us know if you come or way and we will be happy to show you that like most things sex gets better with practice and that takes time.

Are you breathing? Then what are you worried about

So...now what? Are you going to do something about it?