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    Default Profile Questions

    Hi everyone! I finally read the post regarding single men and swinging. I definitely want to work on my profile so that any interested couples can get to know me. Is there anything you would like to see or would like me to elaborate on in my profile? I'd love any feedback I can get as long as it's constructive.


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    Well firstly it highly depends on the couple your looking to meet, for example some very confident or highly sexed couples simply want a man to provide no hassle, no strings sex, in which case its your profile pictures that will have the most impact. In fact in many cases its your profile pictures that will have the biggest impact.

    Secondly however, if the couple is less confident / new to the scene / wanting a ongoing friendship then its more likely they will appreciate a longer profile that explains more about you as a person and offers things such as taking it slowly, some general friendship, respecting their rules desires or boundaries, been willing to have social meetings, that your clean, safe, have good hygiene.

    However in my experience "One Of" the biggest things that lets down single guys profiles is the pictures. For example they post bad pictures / they post pictures of themselves with massively overgrown pubic hair / they post pictures of themselves is messy untidy rooms / they post pictures of themselves with bad backgrounds / they post pictures of themselves fucking other women which can put couples off / they post pictures of themselves in sex clubs or large group sex situations which can put people off / they take pictures hidden away in gym bathrooms so the wife doesn't walk in and find them taking pictures / they take pictures of themselves in old tatty clothes / they only display close up pictures of their penis which doesn't actually show what their body is like / they take pictures when they have dirty finger nails.

    Basically taking good pictures, and enough good pictures is a key aspect of getting people interested in a single male. Lets be honest most people choose partners by SIGHT not by reading what they have said in some profile. My advice would be to:

    - Get you hair cut
    - Fully trim and tidy your pubic hair
    - Have a fresh shave
    - Cut your nails
    - Fully wash and condition your hair
    - Brush your teeth very well indeed
    - Trim you eyebrows a little
    - Buy a brand new posh designer pair of boxer shorts
    - Shave any unsightly hair
    - Get yourself as clean as possible

    THEN.....

    - Think of the best background for your pictures
    - Tidy the area where you will take pictures
    - Add very clean bedding if your taking pictures in a bed
    - Try taking pictures in different lighting, some light, some dark, think mood lighting
    - Make sure wherever you are taking pictures is clean, secure, private, looks attractive to the eye
    - Perhaps get a camera with a timer, or wire that allows you to take pictures without holding the camera
    - Then take LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES and pick the very best ones for your profile

    I see so many single men taking pictures in the bathroom, they take close up pictures of their penis and below them is a stained wet bathroom rug, below them is messy socks and old unattractive boxer shorts on the floor, they even take pictures of the toilet, you can see grime around the edge of the bath, and sadly its not an attractive thing, it looks messy, it look bad and puts people off.

    If you take pictures where couples are thinking....

    "God that place looks a mess"

    "God it looks like anyone could walk in there any second"

    "It doesn't look very clean or secure"

    "Oh he is taking pictures in the toilet behind his wife's back"

    "Wow he doesn't even trim his pubic hair"

    "Wow look how dirty and worn those boxers shorts look"

    "Eeeerrr he has dick cheese all over his cock"

    "Wow that bedding is proper ugly and messy"

    Then your soon going to put off couples.


    The ideal situation would be to have brand new bedding, this bedding (in my opinion) should be a clean solid colour, don't have pink bedding, don't have flowery old peoples bedding, your not wanting to take pictures in a family bedroom but instead wanting it to look comfy / clean / private / fresh. I see a lot of guts posting pictures in family bedrooms, you can see pictures on the walls, magazines on the side, clothes on the floor, family styled bedding covered in flowers, and actually couples are looking to fuck you, they are not looking for a tour around your home, that such things can put people off.

    If you take pictures in a clean bed, with nice solid colour bedding, with a nice background with perhaps a few arty pictures on the walls, if you take the time to add little touches, maybe candles, mood lighting, lamps rather than big overhead lights then you are creating a clean, simple, minimal look. The photos are not cluttered with objects, they are not cluttered with clothes on the floor, they look appealing and attractive unlike some everyday family home.

    One thing I have noticed is that when we have taken pictures at home they actually look crap, they look crap because in the background are books, ornaments, clothes, towels and lots of things to distract people away from us as people. Then however we visit a hotel and take pictures and what do hotels have? They have clean rooms, they have less clutter, they have solid colour bedding that matches and doesn't contain flowers or silly patterns, they contain lamps to add softer lighting and yeah the pictures look better in that environment.

    I do warn you however, don't just take 10 pictures, take 100 or even 1000, take as many pictures as possible with yourself laid in different poses, stud in different poses. Then pick the very best of the bunch.

    Good clean photos are a top priority for single guys.

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    What he said

    Plus a face pic is crucial in our opinion, there are literally thousands of faceless men out there so why would we bother going through the hassle of swapping messages backwards and forwards just to find out what the guy looks like when there are hundreds to pick from that have face pics?

    Write as much about yourself as you can , so many single guys put stuff like "looking for a good time" well no shit aren't we all, try and make yourself seem as human and normal as possible , a bit of humour always helps

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sun&Moon View Post
    Well firstly it highly depends on the couple your looking to meet, for example some very confident or highly sexed couples simply want a man to provide no hassle, no strings sex, in which case its your profile pictures that will have the most impact. In fact in many cases its your profile pictures that will have the biggest impact.

    Secondly however, if the couple is less confident / new to the scene / wanting a ongoing friendship then its more likely they will appreciate a longer profile that explains more about you as a person and offers things such as taking it slowly, some general friendship, respecting their rules desires or boundaries, been willing to have social meetings, that your clean, safe, have good hygiene.

    However in my experience "One Of" the biggest things that lets down single guys profiles is the pictures. For example they post bad pictures / they post pictures of themselves with massively overgrown pubic hair / they post pictures of themselves is messy untidy rooms / they post pictures of themselves with bad backgrounds / they post pictures of themselves fucking other women which can put couples off / they post pictures of themselves in sex clubs or large group sex situations which can put people off / they take pictures hidden away in gym bathrooms so the wife doesn't walk in and find them taking pictures / they take pictures of themselves in old tatty clothes / they only display close up pictures of their penis which doesn't actually show what their body is like / they take pictures when they have dirty finger nails.

    Basically taking good pictures, and enough good pictures is a key aspect of getting people interested in a single male. Lets be honest most people choose partners by SIGHT not by reading what they have said in some profile. My advice would be to:

    - Get you hair cut
    - Fully trim and tidy your pubic hair
    - Have a fresh shave
    - Cut your nails
    - Fully wash and condition your hair
    - Brush your teeth very well indeed
    - Trim you eyebrows a little
    - Buy a brand new posh designer pair of boxer shorts
    - Shave any unsightly hair
    - Get yourself as clean as possible

    THEN.....

    - Think of the best background for your pictures
    - Tidy the area where you will take pictures
    - Add very clean bedding if your taking pictures in a bed
    - Try taking pictures in different lighting, some light, some dark, think mood lighting
    - Make sure wherever you are taking pictures is clean, secure, private, looks attractive to the eye
    - Perhaps get a camera with a timer, or wire that allows you to take pictures without holding the camera
    - Then take LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES and pick the very best ones for your profile

    I see so many single men taking pictures in the bathroom, they take close up pictures of their penis and below them is a stained wet bathroom rug, below them is messy socks and old unattractive boxer shorts on the floor, they even take pictures of the toilet, you can see grime around the edge of the bath, and sadly its not an attractive thing, it looks messy, it look bad and puts people off.

    If you take pictures where couples are thinking....

    "God that place looks a mess"

    "God it looks like anyone could walk in there any second"

    "It doesn't look very clean or secure"

    "Oh he is taking pictures in the toilet behind his wife's back"

    "Wow he doesn't even trim his pubic hair"

    "Wow look how dirty and worn those boxers shorts look"

    "Eeeerrr he has dick cheese all over his cock"

    "Wow that bedding is proper ugly and messy"

    Then your soon going to put off couples.


    The ideal situation would be to have brand new bedding, this bedding (in my opinion) should be a clean solid colour, don't have pink bedding, don't have flowery old peoples bedding, your not wanting to take pictures in a family bedroom but instead wanting it to look comfy / clean / private / fresh. I see a lot of guts posting pictures in family bedrooms, you can see pictures on the walls, magazines on the side, clothes on the floor, family styled bedding covered in flowers, and actually couples are looking to fuck you, they are not looking for a tour around your home, that such things can put people off.

    If you take pictures in a clean bed, with nice solid colour bedding, with a nice background with perhaps a few arty pictures on the walls, if you take the time to add little touches, maybe candles, mood lighting, lamps rather than big overhead lights then you are creating a clean, simple, minimal look. The photos are not cluttered with objects, they are not cluttered with clothes on the floor, they look appealing and attractive unlike some everyday family home.

    One thing I have noticed is that when we have taken pictures at home they actually look crap, they look crap because in the background are books, ornaments, clothes, towels and lots of things to distract people away from us as people. Then however we visit a hotel and take pictures and what do hotels have? They have clean rooms, they have less clutter, they have solid colour bedding that matches and doesn't contain flowers or silly patterns, they contain lamps to add softer lighting and yeah the pictures look better in that environment.

    I do warn you however, don't just take 10 pictures, take 100 or even 1000, take as many pictures as possible with yourself laid in different poses, stud in different poses. Then pick the very best of the bunch.

    Good clean photos are a top priority for single guys.
    you are very knowledgeable! will you tweak our profile for us lol?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLustLife View Post
    . . . Is there anything you would like to see or would like me to elaborate on in my profile?
    Help me. At which Web site or Web sites are you displaying your profile? SLS? SZC? SDC? Kasidie? SwsingTowns?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sun&Moon View Post
    Well firstly it highly depends on the couple your looking to meet, for example some very confident or highly sexed couples simply want a man to provide no hassle, no strings sex, in which case its your profile pictures that will have the most impact. In fact in many cases its your profile pictures that will have the biggest impact.

    Secondly however, if the couple is less confident / new to the scene / wanting a ongoing friendship then its more likely they will appreciate a longer profile that explains more about you as a person and offers things such as taking it slowly, some general friendship, respecting their rules desires or boundaries, been willing to have social meetings, that your clean, safe, have good hygiene.

    However in my experience "One Of" the biggest things that lets down single guys profiles is the pictures. For example they post bad pictures / they post pictures of themselves with massively overgrown pubic hair / they post pictures of themselves is messy untidy rooms / they post pictures of themselves with bad backgrounds / they post pictures of themselves fucking other women which can put couples off / they post pictures of themselves in sex clubs or large group sex situations which can put people off / they take pictures hidden away in gym bathrooms so the wife doesn't walk in and find them taking pictures / they take pictures of themselves in old tatty clothes / they only display close up pictures of their penis which doesn't actually show what their body is like / they take pictures when they have dirty finger nails.

    Basically taking good pictures, and enough good pictures is a key aspect of getting people interested in a single male. Lets be honest most people choose partners by SIGHT not by reading what they have said in some profile. My advice would be to:

    - Get you hair cut
    - Fully trim and tidy your pubic hair
    - Have a fresh shave
    - Cut your nails
    - Fully wash and condition your hair
    - Brush your teeth very well indeed
    - Trim you eyebrows a little
    - Buy a brand new posh designer pair of boxer shorts
    - Shave any unsightly hair
    - Get yourself as clean as possible

    THEN.....

    - Think of the best background for your pictures
    - Tidy the area where you will take pictures
    - Add very clean bedding if your taking pictures in a bed
    - Try taking pictures in different lighting, some light, some dark, think mood lighting
    - Make sure wherever you are taking pictures is clean, secure, private, looks attractive to the eye
    - Perhaps get a camera with a timer, or wire that allows you to take pictures without holding the camera
    - Then take LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES and pick the very best ones for your profile

    I see so many single men taking pictures in the bathroom, they take close up pictures of their penis and below them is a stained wet bathroom rug, below them is messy socks and old unattractive boxer shorts on the floor, they even take pictures of the toilet, you can see grime around the edge of the bath, and sadly its not an attractive thing, it looks messy, it look bad and puts people off.

    If you take pictures where couples are thinking....

    "God that place looks a mess"

    "God it looks like anyone could walk in there any second"

    "It doesn't look very clean or secure"

    "Oh he is taking pictures in the toilet behind his wife's back"

    "Wow he doesn't even trim his pubic hair"

    "Wow look how dirty and worn those boxers shorts look"

    "Eeeerrr he has dick cheese all over his cock"

    "Wow that bedding is proper ugly and messy"

    Then your soon going to put off couples.


    The ideal situation would be to have brand new bedding, this bedding (in my opinion) should be a clean solid colour, don't have pink bedding, don't have flowery old peoples bedding, your not wanting to take pictures in a family bedroom but instead wanting it to look comfy / clean / private / fresh. I see a lot of guts posting pictures in family bedrooms, you can see pictures on the walls, magazines on the side, clothes on the floor, family styled bedding covered in flowers, and actually couples are looking to fuck you, they are not looking for a tour around your home, that such things can put people off.

    If you take pictures in a clean bed, with nice solid colour bedding, with a nice background with perhaps a few arty pictures on the walls, if you take the time to add little touches, maybe candles, mood lighting, lamps rather than big overhead lights then you are creating a clean, simple, minimal look. The photos are not cluttered with objects, they are not cluttered with clothes on the floor, they look appealing and attractive unlike some everyday family home.

    One thing I have noticed is that when we have taken pictures at home they actually look crap, they look crap because in the background are books, ornaments, clothes, towels and lots of things to distract people away from us as people. Then however we visit a hotel and take pictures and what do hotels have? They have clean rooms, they have less clutter, they have solid colour bedding that matches and doesn't contain flowers or silly patterns, they contain lamps to add softer lighting and yeah the pictures look better in that environment.

    I do warn you however, don't just take 10 pictures, take 100 or even 1000, take as many pictures as possible with yourself laid in different poses, stud in different poses. Then pick the very best of the bunch.

    Good clean photos are a top priority for single guys.
    Agree with all that. My best profile pics come from hotel rooms, with a friend or playmate (make certain its ok with them to use a pic with them in it.)

    Got yer back.jpg

    The bed is a bit mussed, but not repulsively so, no personal hygiene items lying about, loose papers, dirty clothes. If you are going to display toys then display them. Arraign them on the bed or whatever & not just carelessly tossed around. When you are sloppy with your pictures people think you will be sloppy & indifferent with your sexual service to them. I have dozens of other lesser pics on fire or trashed & will take and sort through dozens of others before choosing another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GMOFLEISURE View Post
    Agree with all that. My best profile pics come from hotel rooms, with a friend or playmate (make certain its ok with them to use a pic with them in it.)

    Got yer back.jpg

    The bed is a bit mussed, but not repulsively so, no personal hygiene items lying about, loose papers, dirty clothes. If you are going to display toys then display them. Arraign them on the bed or whatever & not just carelessly tossed around. When you are sloppy with your pictures people think you will be sloppy & indifferent with your sexual service to them. I have dozens of other lesser pics on fire or trashed & will take and sort through dozens of others before choosing another.

    The picture above is actually a great example.

    Like GMOFLEISURE said the bed isn't made properly and the picture is a little out of focus, but the clean background / the solid colours / the lack of clutter and everyday family items / the fact the people are clean / shaven / wearing clean clothes, all makes a more attractive picture.

    People pick playmates based on how they look / how the pictures look.

    For a single guy or couple having good pictures is the first step to making a good profile.

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    Got to share a bit more about the pic, to make a further point. The woman & I both liked the pic. It was one of several good ones we took that morning, & they went into our respective profiles. I put that one up as my lead pic for a couples weeks, but took it down relatively quickly. It got a hell of a lot of attention, from couples interested in my wife, single men interested in my wife, even a single woman interested in my wife. I had between forty & fifty propositions in two weeks, all from folks who had not read my profile & who failed to note I'm not married & the lady was not my partner to share.

    So yeah it is a great pic, but as a lead pic it was wrong. It was attracting people who had interests at odds with mine, who could not read profiles, who jumped to conclusions & who were otherwise wasting my time. Point here is a pic needs to be more than pretty, it needs to be clear about what you are offering or your interests.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLustLife View Post
    I'd love any feedback I can get as long as it's constructive.
    Of course we are looking for a playmate. Why are you looking for us? "to satisfy your sexual fantasies in a safe way" ? Or something like that? Be interested in us.

    I, my wife lets it up to me, don't mind dick pics. I want her to experience something much larger than me but It's not going to be the only thing that I will consider.

    Be considerate and empathetic. Don't be the "I can fuck your wife so hard she'll scream" guy.

    No matter what you say in a profile we'll want to meet you first in a non sexual way. It might be more than one nonsexual meeting. Just to be sure. It might be that we meet you, like you and it's party time in the hotel room.


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