Meet and greet at hotel: Expectations

Going to our first meet and greet this Saturday at a hotel with a Kik group we've been chatting with. They explained the greet is from 7 to 9 and then there will probably be an after party for those that want to stay. As a new couple in the group, what should we expect in the after party? Do we need to be invited to that? Do we just stay if interested and see what happens? Should be about 20 people in two suites. Do these things end in orgies? We are hoping to play, just don't know how these parties end.

It's ok to be nervous. It depends how comfortable the group is with one another. My first swinger party I was in a nice foursome. But my next party it turned into an orgy all This was with the same group. These parties are about sex so at the meet and greet ask questions. How long did you guys swing? What are your turn ons turn offs? Funny stories etc. If everything is ok and you two make friends or your invited, ask if you two can watch and go from there so you can ease the nerves. And being new I know the experienced couples will be ok with that and breaking you in slowly. Maybe have same room sex, sometimes the sounds, moans and groans are a great turn on. So best of luck and take a shot to ease the nerves but don't drink too much.

Early on, we went up to Milwaukee to a hotel meet and greet. Our first at a hotel. We had a room there. We were surprised because the group was younger then us, we in are early 40’s, they in their 20’s but we got invited to a connected room where people were partying. Each had two king beds and a couch. We went with them and were asked to join into group play. It was quite nice.

I was lucky that we had a good mix 20s, 30s and 40s with me being forty I was very comfortable

First, let me say hello, utahcpl, and welcome to SwingersBoard!

If you are in friendly conversation with any couples at the meet-and-greet, you can ask them the same questions you're asking us. There's nothing wrong with telling people that you're new, and asking how things work. But from what you've described, it sounds like the afterparty is open to all.

If you connect with any couples and want to play with them at the afterparty, you could indicate to them that you're interested.

Whether it turns into an orgy is kinda dependent on the crowd- and I guess also dependent on your definition of an orgy! If the group is going to have two suites, and 10 couples, I can imagine things turning into either 1) a lot of people pairing off and playing in pairs, in whatever spot they can find, or 2) a pile on each bed where lots of people are playing all together rather than in pair-offs. I would consider the second scenario to be more orgy-ish!

Good advice from CoupleinMD79. I'll add a thing or two:

1. Go to the meet and greet with zero expectations other than to have a good time and meet a few people. If something happens, great. If not, you still had a good night out.

2. Don't be surprised if there are fewer people attending than expected. If 20 say they are coming, I would guess 10 will show up. That's how these things usually roll.

3. Come back to this thread and let us know how it went.

All the answers are great.

Again, don't drink too much, that leads to bad decisions. (Although they might not seem that bad the next day.)

Don't have any expectations, go with the flow.

And don't get pressured into doing anything you don't want to.