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Meeting our first couple tonight. Things have escalated.

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My wife and I are meeting our first couple tonight for drinks and we have booked a hotel. When we first chose to do this our original plan was to meet and have some same room fun with no swapping. Now it seems to have evolved into a soft swap meet. We have well established no fucking, but that has changed since the original plan of only contact with our partners. I'm a little nervous and I'm not entirely sure where the plan changed. My wife has been more active in talking with them, however it is in a kik group chat. I know the ladies had a private convo but my wife showed me the text of this conversation. Not sure if I should pump the breaks or go with the flow. I'm totally ok with FF contact but a little unsure of the MF contact with my wife. Though I am interested in the MF contact with our new friends. Time to compromise and discuss it after or is it time to pump the breaks.

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If you aren't comfortable with "more" happening, then pump the brakes. Let your wife know where your head is, and yes, you can tell the other couple what you're feeling and where you'd like the boundaries to be for tonight. They'll appreciate the communication. I know we would.

 

Good luck and have fun.

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I'd suggest a sit-down chat with your wife. You need a better understanding of what could happen.

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Hi, Have a talk with the wife, she may not even realize you have these concerns - my wife sometimes talks to folks and agrees to do stuff thinking oh yer the old boy will love that, then I find out latter because she thinks I'll be fine with it. (this is normally outside of the LS but appliers here as well)

 

She may just think ok no sex but he'll be fine with soft play.

 

Just talk to her, one thing I think is important is if your not 100% into some thing do not do it for the team - oh and I think it's not a good idea to change the rules while or just before playing. Do it after when you have time to think and talk.

 

Hope it all goes well.

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Swinging is recreational sex shared with others. I think that somehow, you and your wife instinctively understood that. Good for you!! Proceed with caution because not all of your encounters will go that well. Fortunately, you had an excellent 1st experience which kind of sets the standard going forward.

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We were indeed ready we are both very reasonably minded people. We tend to look at things objectively long before subjectively. Objectively, we wanted to fuck. Subjectively, it was a great experience. We are very happy with our decision.

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My fears with MF contact with my wife never became a reality, which is a relief. In actually very glad she got to get some different dick. I feel like she deserves something different from time to time. I love to see her pleasure.

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I'm so glad that things went well for you all! It's understandable that you had some nerves or reluctance before it happened. And it actually would be good if you guys talked things out and agreed beforehand to the limits, and tried not to blow past your limits in the future, especially if there was a verbal discussion during the play of going farther during which you indicated reluctance to go to full swap. That said, if you all were comfortable in the moment, and you and your wife were both confident that each other was OK (maybe you had a moment of eye contact, separate from your wife's request and your initial statement of reluctance to go to full swap, that communicated that you were OK?), then it's a win for both of you!

 

It sounds like you had a good reaction to seeing your wife with another guy. That is the best indication that, as you said, you are built for the lifestyle! Is your wife feeling equally comfortable and happy with seeing you with another woman?

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I typed out a reply earlier and forgot to push reply. Long story short, we did it. Boy did we do it. We both had a great time. I was 100% ok with seeing him and my wife..actually, I think I became interested in seeing it before my wife did doing it. We had a played with our own partners for a while then we decided to soft swap. As it turns out both of them are multi orgasmic. Well that makes things a little difficult actually. At one point my play partner said "you are going to have to get on top because I don't know if I can control myself." My wife then suggested a full swap. At that point everyone wanted to fuck. I was hesitant and said we should keep doing what we were doing. It was very clear that we all wanted to fuck each other. We did break the rule above and go full swap. We broke our own rule, but these things happen right? Neither of us feel bad, guilty, or jealous. I did have a very fleeting moment on the way home tonight. It was gone almost as soon as it came. We had a lot of fun. We believe we were built for this shit. We decided to become swingers in 2017 and we wasted no time before we went all the way.

 

Well good work guys,

The two of you seem to be even minded in what you want so i/m glad the full swap worked out as well. lucky ducks aren't you lol.

 

regards.

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