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Hi, we are an older couple, 60 and 58 married a few years and both in good shape. While I was active in the lifestyle in my forties my wife has no experience other than going to a club with her former husband also in her forties. We want to move our bedroom fantasies to reality by exploring the lifestyle but are really not sure if we are now "too old" to go to clubs. I know there are several good clubs in Manhattan but we hold back from going because we really don't want to look or feel out of place. Any thought or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.

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I really believe there is a large regional component, considering who swings where, so I think you need to make local inquiries.

 

However, I believe there is a general tendency for most older swingers to gravitate towards house parties and smaller groups.... even if they attend large venues, they are likely using it as a M&G tool.

 

A new and budding trend I am seeing is towards orgies that are oldster friendly. They are few and far between, now, but seem to be increasing in number.

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From my experience, there are many more mature couple at clubs these days. Never went to one in New York, but the ones in Denver and Vegas have a majority of attendees toward our age. We are 55 and 45 currently.

 

Go! What do you have to lose other than the price of admission? If the crowd is totally young hipsters then find another club or try another night. Or hook up with one of the younger couples. They ain't all bad! Or just watch them, most of them are good looking!

 

Let us know how it goes!

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:ditto:

 

It seems like the swingers these days are mostly under 30 or over 45...those in between these ages are usually taking care of a family. Once the kids leave, then play time begins! Go!

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Ahh, to be young and vital again! Sixty would be just wonderful!

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I've seen alot more older couples at Club Encounters on Long Island the few times we went. Haven't been there in a year but last time there was more of a 40 and over crowd then the many other clubs in the city.

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We'd love to find an upscale club with clientele in the 45-65 age bracket where the music was played at a decibel level conducive to conversation and somewhat less than that of a B-52 rolling towards takeoff. We'd also like to hear some music whose lyrics are in English, performed by some artists who have actual names and (gasp) we'd like an occasional slow song as well. We'd like a club where there is a dress code that is enforced and where there are more looking to play than people looking to look or be looked at. Maybe its just South Florida but we're pretty close to giving up on the club scene all together.

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We'd love to find an upscale club with clientele in the 45-65 age bracket where the music was played at a decibel level conducive to conversation and somewhat less than that of a B-52 rolling towards takeoff. We'd also like to hear some music whose lyrics are in English, performed by some artists who have actual names and (gasp) we'd like an occasional slow song as well. We'd like a club where there is a dress code that is enforced and where there are more looking to play than people looking to look or be looked at. Maybe its just South Florida but we're pretty close to giving up on the club scene all together.

 

Or they could play the "B-52's!"

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Our experience has been plenty of people of all ages. Anything above 30 really.

 

That has certainly been the Chicago, New Orleans, Vegas, and Florida.

 

We have had a pretty wide age of playmates as well. I think the most important thing would be to get out there.

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We visited a club in NYC recently called Bowery Bliss. We came with another couple, and the four of us are in our upper 40s to mid 50s. We found, on that night, in that club, that the demographic skewed somewhat younger than us. It turned out not to matter much to us, since we had brought our play friends with us- we had our party! We chose this club based on a recommendation from another couple who are in our age range, so our observation might be an aberration.

 

Another club near us, Tabu (near Baltimore), also skews younger. And the DJ there played loud, pounding dance music that made it very tough to talk to anybody. But two other clubs in our area- The Private Affair (TPA) in Port Deposit, Maryland, and the Korral in Spring Grove, Pennsylvania- have a crowd that works well for us, age-wise.

 

So I think it's just a matter of which clubs you attend. I recommend that you go for it- I'm confident that you will fit right in at many clubs!

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Ok friends and folks possibly multiple items with club attendees age ranges:

 

Part of we have got going on here is a shift of demographics meaning ages of the vast majority of people involved with swinging. Tailing end of the baby boomers was born in 1964 and now the millennials about 1981-1998 are sweeping into their own.

This generation change, combined with the internet allowing the younger demographic more readily to source the swing info, is skewing certain club attendance towards the younger. Plus typically more disposable income for this group.

 

Then it is probably the location of Manhattan skewing to the younger crowd ready to live in a 300 sq ft apartment, make their way in the big city until they are burned out or settling down and move to a cheaper and more family friendly area.I remember reading an article in a magazine (Maxim or similar) about a higher end NYC swingers group which required a $250 application fee for couples plus full pictures to determine if you were "hot" enough to be accepted and that didnt count the event entry fees.

 

Geography influences say Florida and California swingers where the "good" weather puts emphasis on youthful good looks versus elsewhere where you are bundled up in heavier clothing and coats for a portion of the year.

 

I agree that certain clubs attract certain demographics as others above have mentioned.I know that is the case in my home aeea of the Mid-South, Nashville region.

 

I also think that more mature swingers trend to attending house parties because of the networks they've built up with other swingers over time, for the couples being more down to earth and knowing exactly what they want, and them not wanting to spend extra money on the club memberships/entry fees.

 

Just my $0.02.

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I only know the situation in the Netherlands but in most clubs the range is indeed below 30 and 45 up. No limit, I've know people in their 70s who actively play. But: there is one club, unfortunately one of the best regarding location quality, which has a policy on age (and BMI unfortunately). So I would definitely inform about any rules on age before leaving home to a club.

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