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She gives confusing signals but I believe she is ready!

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When I first talked with my wife about my desires for swinging she said no, then she did things that made me think "what?" For example, after she said "NO" and I accepted it then she set up a night out on the town!!! With friends, two couples I had told her months before I believed were swingers. She dressed in her hottest shortest dress without panties! :) We had a blast that night with her being the hottest thing in the clubs with many guys hitting on her and she loved it! She even found a hot young guy at the bar that she pressed her legs up against and had a long conversation with that was only broken up by our friends.

 

When we went home in the limo she spent the drive with my friend with his hands on her legs and shoulders while another friend's wife flirted like hell with me and it didn't bother my her. WOW this was a first!

 

When we got home that night we had amazing sex while I told her that the whole scene got me off and she loved it also! In the morning I told her I loved that night and she agreed! But when I told her a few days later that I wanted to enjoy the Lifestyle with her she said "no". Wow...

 

Then we went to Vegas and again another experience. I will not go into that story but "WOW"!! I approached her again and "No". Wow...

 

Lately it's been amazing and she has been giving me all the signs! But I'm not going to ask again. But this happened. This weekend while we were in bed, no sex just reading, when I woke and found she was reading on one of my old ipad's that had some swinger books on it that she knew about, and she was reading one of the books. She was reading "Swinging for Beginners". She didn't know that I saw it as she was sleeping.

 

When we woke she brought the ipad to the room we enjoy our coffee in together in but didn't say a thing but she was very happy and enjoyed the morning with me as I waited for her to approach the subject of swinging as I knew it was on her mind! Should I ask again??

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You bring swinging up to her at least three times and each time she says "no" and shuts you down.

When you drop the issue, she starts exploring and appears to be giving it some consideration.

 

Now, tell me why you would bring it up again?

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You've planted the seed, now it's starting to sprout and find out more about the world and you want to step on it. She may not ever want to swing, but she is at least trying to find out more info about it. Don't push her...

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What happens when you ask her about your great nights together?

 

What does she say when you ask her about the books she is reading?

 

Everything is not 'black and white', binary. Swing or Vanilla...hell everybody has different versions of 'swing', and frankly flirting with other people can be equally as difficult to take as having sex with other people.

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Got to agree with the last. If the flirting & hotwife thing is leading to great sex the accept that for now & see what develops. Just guessing, but it may be she wants to be in control with how she approaches this. Probablly has doubts or reservations and wants to explore very slowly. What bothers me is she is not communicating clearly to you. That may be ok if its normal for you two & you are able to operate that way, but its usually a lot better if these things can be talked out more directly.

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kikonkrome: I have to love it when anyone uses 'binary' in a sentence (I use it all day long, but I don't see many others who use it). :claps:

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