I'm in the military, and refuse to be with another woman. How do we meet playmates?

Hello,

We have been together for more than 20 years (we started dating when my wife was 14) and are very happy together. We both enjoy the idea of swinging and have even tried some things with another couple and have tried a couple MFM threesomes. There are a couple of things that have made really enjoying the lifestyle somewhat challenging though. The first is my profession. I am military and thus spend many months at a time away. We have found that people lose patience with us on swinger meeting sites because we can not immediately meet up. Luckily we live in a city that has a couple of clubs dedicated to the lifestyle that we have been able to go to. This is where we were able to try the limited experiences we have had. This leads to the second challenge. We have one boundary that really makes playing with another couple difficult. I will not be with any woman but my wife. Are there couples out there that would be comfortable with this, or are we looking for a unicorn?

The majority of people in the lifestyle swap partners. Based on my observations. There is a lot of women with women. Some women want another man or multiple men and the husband may watch and/or participate.

But if you don't want to do other women, you are in a minority of lifestyle participants. It may be more difficult to find playmates, but I could be wrong.

I believe you have already discovered the best way -- go to swingers' club parties.

Just go to the Swing Club Parties. I travel a lot and have similar issues. Even though we are a full swap couple doesn't mean we wouldn't enjoy soft swapping with a couple. In fact there are times we prefer it.

Just do your best to be up front about what you are into.

Swing club all the way! Once you meet a few people, you might get invited to a house party or two - which is, IMHO, the best kind of parties.