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Is there anyone out there who can give me some advice or tips? I have been together with my wife for fifteen years and married for eight years, and for the last three or four years I have had a fantasy of seeing her sleep with another man. I am constantly thinking of it and the thought of any man looking at or flirting with my wife turns me on instantly ...I can't stop thinking about it!

 

I met her when I was nineteen and she was seventeen and she has never been with anyone else. She has lost a lot of weight recently, looks like a model and always gets compliments on her great shaped ass.

 

I want to tell her I am interested in swinging but I'm not sure if I should lead up to it and drop hints.

 

Is there any good build up to this?

 

Please, any advice would be good.

 

Thanks

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Hello and welcome. Lots of good reading on here that will help you with your questions. Honesty, communication and trust are some things you'll see repeated.

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Welcome to the forum, ste3526. Perhaps you two can start with dirty talk during sex and move the fantasy talk outside of the bedroom the next day.

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I agree with sunbuckus, fantasy talk during sex is a nice time to introduce the concept of mfm encounters with your wife. See how she reacts and you might get a clue on how to proceed.

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First, welcome, ste3526, to Swingersboard.

 

In regard to your question, you are not the first person to ask it. I have always recommend the direct approach; ask. Lead-ups can be awkward, can be misinterpreted and can, consequently, send you off into non-productive directions. If you get a rejection after you ask, let the subject cool for a while, then ask again. In time, your question will be answered with a question, "why? You can then explain.

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She may think you are crazy the first time you ask her She may get mad. Then she will think about it and she may like the idea. Don't force it. Bring it up, let it marinate and she may find it to be of interest!

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Do you watch porn? If you do with her, there are ways to bring the subject up. She may have no desire to be with anyone but you or she may have thought about it and had a hard time broaching the subject. Do you have an active sex life and talk about sex? Does she play with toys? If she is quiet and just not interested, I would not push the subject. We all have fantasies, some can be played out, others have to remain just a fantasy.

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