My wife fantasizes about other women's breasts.

We are new to swinging. Haven't done anything yet other than talk about it. My wife admits that she is really into other women's breasts. She says she isn't gay, but gets turned on by nude boobs. Seems like there are quite a few women like this. What is the best way to help her indulge: Swingers club, Strip club, Escort?

Welcome! IMHO it really depends on what she wants. If watching is enough, a stripclub sounds fine. But then again, a sauna visit will do as well. Don't know much about stripclubs in the US and how 'hands on' it is over there, though. If she wants non-professional (paid) contact, a swingersclub or online dating site can be a good choice. Be prepared of the fact much more then only watching and touching boobs is going on in a club, that can be intimidating for her. :-) If you choose to date, be it in a club or online, be sure to state your wife's limits (breasts) to prevent wrong expectations with the other woman/couple.

Your wife and I have that in common

It sounds like you have more work to do. Other than saying she likes women's breasts (and from reading your other post that started this which was watching 'Swing' on Playboy), has she said that she wants to explore this further...that she wants to go to that next level? Don't go making assumptions that she is interested in swinging or anything else based on this one comment. Nurture the comment and let her know that you won't judge but support her when she opens up so she will feel comfortable to continue doing so. Gently prod to see if she is interested in moving forward. If you push too hard or move too fast, however, you can scare her away.

There are LOTS of women JUST LIKE HER. We wish that there was a better 'word' for it, but usually the term 'bi-curious' or 'bi-friendly' is the one that is used. It just means while she isn't bi-sexual, she still appreciates the female body and would like to be able to 'examine' another body in some manner closer (usually discussed by all parties involved beforehand).

One step at a time...I would ask her if she would like to go with you to a classy strip club and see what she says (beyond just being embarrassed at the thought of walking into a strip club). Talk more with her about her interest and continue to encourage her to open up. Ask her if she would like to actually feel another woman's breasts and let her know that you would LOVE to help make that happen if she in interested. Also constantly reinforce how sexy and hot she is for even telling you in the first place. If not a strip club, how would she feel about checking into a swingers club, a house party, or a meet and greet?...they really aren't like 'Swing'. Nothing is expected, you don't have to DO anything and it is just fine if the only thing you do is watch. Just be patient and supportive but if she says no, then don't keep pushing it.

I've said it before and I will continue saying it: Love, trust, communication. This is the foundation of any great relationship and a must have for swingers (who aren't headed for a ). She has to KNOW you love her and aren't looking for a replacement. She has to trust that what you say is THE trust and that you won't betray her trust when she opens up to you. She has to KNOW that you won't judge or condemn her for anything she tells you and that she can tell you everything and it will be okay. There's still a great deal of talking you two need to do to understand what you are both hoping to have happen (if anything). Luckily, there's a ton of information here that will help out...just look around. Even if she eventually says she's not interested in continuing down this path, if any of these things are improved in your relationship, you come out WAY ahead. Good luck and let us know how things are progressing...

Your wife and I have that in common

 

It sounds like you have more work to do. Other than saying she likes women's breasts (and from reading your other post that started this which was watching 'Swing' on Playboy), has she said that she wants to explore this further...that she wants to go to that next level? Don't go making assumptions that she is interested in swinging or anything else based on this one comment. Nurture the comment and let her know that you won't judge but support her when she opens up so she will feel comfortable to continue doing so. Gently prod to see if she is interested in moving forward. If you push too hard or move too fast, however, you can scare her away.

 

There are LOTS of women JUST LIKE HER. We wish that there was a better 'word' for it, but usually the term 'bi-curious' or 'bi-friendly' is the one that is used. It just means while she isn't bi-sexual, she still appreciates the female body and would like to be able to 'examine' another body in some manner closer (usually discussed by all parties involved beforehand).

 

One step at a time...I would ask her if she would like to go with you to a classy strip club and see what she says (beyond just being embarrassed at the thought of walking into a strip club). Talk more with her about her interest and continue to encourage her to open up. Ask her if she would like to actually feel another woman's breasts and let her know that you would LOVE to help make that happen if she in interested. Also constantly reinforce how sexy and hot she is for even telling you in the first place. If not a strip club, how would she feel about checking into a swingers club, a house party, or a meet and greet?...they really aren't like 'Swing'. Nothing is expected, you don't have to DO anything and it is just fine if the only thing you do is watch. Just be patient and supportive but if she says no, then don't keep pushing it.

 

I've said it before and I will continue saying it: Love, trust, communication. This is the foundation of any great relationship and a must have for swingers (who aren't headed for a ). She has to KNOW you love her and aren't looking for a replacement. She has to trust that what you say is THE trust and that you won't betray her trust when she opens up to you. She has to KNOW that you won't judge or condemn her for anything she tells you and that she can tell you everything and it will be okay. There's still a great deal of talking you two need to do to understand what you are both hoping to have happen (if anything). Luckily, there's a ton of information here that will help out...just look around. Even if she eventually says she's not interested in continuing down this path, if any of these things are improved in your relationship, you come out WAY ahead. Good luck and let us know how things are progressing...

Thanks for the feedback. She has told me that she wants more than just looking. We are free to express our fantasies, and often do. Basically, she wants to indulge in breasts play with another woman, with some possible kissing. She ideally wants to do it while having sex with me. While the Show Swing provided an opportunity to discuss swinging, we both understand, that reality TV is far from reality. We have discussed it, and have already set boundaries if such an event were to occur. She's open to a swingers club, but she is deathly afraid of running into a client. Maybe we should try a strip club. Seeing boobs bouncing in the flesh probably will let her know if she wants to go further. Any tips of bringing a woman in to a strip club? Neither of us have ever been to one. Would an on-premise swingers club offer as much T&A to see?

Tips on bringing a woman into a strip club? Use the correct entrance, during the correct business hours, grasp the doorknob firmly and pull. Walk in. Congratulations, you are now in a strip club.

Sorry, wasn't trying to be a smart ass, but couldn't help myself. In terms of being serious, the only drawback I can see to going to a strip club is that your wife might be uncomfortable with some of the leers she would get by perhaps being the only woman, or one of a few, that wasn't a dancer. I've always noticed that strippers tend to be very supportive of seeing women customers in the club. To counter this, maybe you could go during non-peak hours like a weekday afternoon or week night early, when there aren't as many people there to make your wife uncomfortable.

Some of the more upscale clubs even have couples nights. You'll find you aren't the only one who is into this!

First, maybe try a swing club that is not in your back yard...drive an hour or two and get a hotel, make it a weekend. At the same time, even IF you run into someone you or she knows at a club, remember, THEY were there too and probably don't want you advertizing it as well. Most swingers value privacy and while they keep other things open, their mouths are usually kept shut (unless they are using their mouth for some other purpose.). Being one of those people who used to be intimidated about going somewhere like a strip or swingers club, just as Ready2dewit said, open the door and step in. Once we did it the first time (both the strip and swingers club), we felt silly that we had made such a big deal out of doing it. As for the strip club, experience has shown me that when most strippers give a lap dance to another woman, they generally don't mind if the woman is more 'hands on' than a man (but always ask before touching). Once in the club, you can just walk up to the woman of her choice and tell her that you want to buy your wife a lap dance and would she mind if your wife could touch her breasts. If she has a problem with it, she'll tell you then and you can move on.

Other than that, it sounds like you two are on the right track (there wasn't quite enough info in your original post to be able to tell). Good luck and have fun