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My hubs and I have been flirting with the lifestyle for a while now. I'm much more ready to jump in than him, so we are waiting until both are on board the bus. I know part of his hesitation is that he is insecure in a few areas including penis size. He is not very big but has always been able to get the job done. So I guess my question is how important is penis size for women in the lifestyle? Do any of you simply brush someone off if they aren't well hung? I would hate for this experience to turn into something negative. Thanks for any advice you can give.

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Tell your hubs that there are a lot of small guys in the lifestyle. The three most important things for her are how much attention she receives, how well he kisses and how good he is at oral sex.

 

His cock size is irreverent. She considers the intercourse primarily for the guy and as a bonus afterwards but hardly a requirement for a great night...seriously.

 

Now there are many that are looking for thick and hung, fucks all night, etc. but most of the couples we have met want raw sexual attraction.

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Define not very big. Big is subjective and a lot of people have a distorted view on it.

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Out mrs will tell you that size matters very little. Be classy, kiss well, make her laugh, the rest is gravy. Chemistry can overcome size most of the time. Sure, there are "size queens" but they'll often state that in their profile. Hope that helps!

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In my experience, penis size should be the least of his concerns. Yeah, there are size queens, but that is more of a preference than deal breaker as far as I can tell. I have met women that have sort of a fetish for smaller than average too, a woman I play with often included. Her favorite thing is to have just the first few inches of her vagina fucked, repeatedly penetrated, etc., and gets disappointed if I neglect to do that for her. If she sees someone that can give her that and get in to the hilt and really bone her, she will want to swoop on him -then endurance will be his big worry. She loves to do that forever.

 

Bigger worries are being able to approach people and even speak if there are security issues if it's his first time, if there is chemistry with people you meet, etc. Being rejected goes with the territory, there may not be chemistry with specific people for all sorts of reasons even if you are the most attractive people in there. Beginner's jitters are common, but some people find a little vulnerability endearing. Just dive in, relax, calm down, have fun and try to have reasonable expectations.

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One of my favorite play partners doesn't do intercourse, just manual stimulation and toy play. He's very good at what he does. As someone stated earlier, if he knows what he's doing and does a good job, the intercourse is secondary. Also keep in mind that the most nerve endings are at the entrance of the vagina. In my experience men on the smaller side "work it" better and rely less on simply thrusting.

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Depends.. My old partner was very blessed, and women used to hunt him down haha, much to my amusement because he had no interest.

 

I think the old "quality not quantity" comes in to effect. Having experienced more than my fair share whilst out swinging, a guy can have the best tool going, but if he doesn't know how to use it, can become a drag. On the flip side, a guy I was with made me cringe with pity.. How mistaken I was! One of the best orgasms I have had, we both had great fun and he was fairly lacking!

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I'll be honest I've gotten a little disappointed of late with the number of teeny weenies in the lifestyle. No, their size doesn't keep me from giving them a chance, but it does kinda set the tone. However, if they've been doing a good job turning me on and keeping me there before I ever discover their size it's not likely to matter much.

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I'll be honest I've gotten a little disappointed of late with the number of teeny weenies in the lifestyle.

 

Ok I gotta know whats teeny so I can self compare :)

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Ok I gotta know whats teeny so I can self compare :)

 

I've seen some that are between 2-3 inches.

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The short answer is that, no, I don't brush a man off based on penis size, even though I prefer penetrative sex. The longer, slightly more nuanced response is that penis size does determine the quality of the experience if the man does or does not know how to use what he has. Different positions are better for men with smaller equipment and others are worse (spooning would be a bad idea) and it helps if he knows that.

 

As to Chicup's question, about the girth of my (not at all large) forefinger and slightly shorter, so just a bit over 2 inches.

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As to Chicup's question, about the girth of my (not at all large) forefinger and slightly shorter, so just a bit over 2 inches.

 

small-penis.jpeg

 

Wow, I honestly feel sorry for them, thats just gotta suck.

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4" or less. If it disappears in my hand it's too small.

 

You've tipped your hand, so to speak. We now have intimate knowledge of at least one or its dimensions.

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If he is insecure, swinging will destroy him. Swinging is at least 50% rejection. You've gotta be secure in your own self and not be effected by this.

 

That being said, swinging can also be a huge ego booster.

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I've found that more often then not concerns about dick size have to do with what other MEN perceive about each other. I am lucky to have a respectable package, and found that the one most responsible for boosting the ego of smaller guys that we play with is me, not Mrs. P. Odd though that sounds. Technique is 90% of the equation!

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Some like big, some like small. most will work with a variety. Hell, I have turned down men for being too big. No joke.

 

Once you're in it for a while, you'll see this. The key is for him not to let his anxiety get the better of him. If he does, then he may have issues getting it up, and that, women often don't deal well with (god, I've seen some bitchy women).

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One thing I learned on Monday night.

 

I have a HUGE cock as long as she has a very small vagina :lol:

 

Size is very relative.

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