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Hi,

I try to get her into the swinging scene.. talk about threesomes.. but never happned..

I found she watching porn movies.. most of them DP and group sex.. and or Old man and a young girl..

sometimes when we having sex we put porn on side.. and she is telling me to put DP movies..

we had same patner same room sex while ago.. but that was it..

do you think this is bad or she has interest in swinging?

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I'm no expert by any means, but I would assume she at least has a fantasy about it. Having a fantasy and wanting to actually do it can be very different. My best advice is to ask her. If she's watching it sometime you could ask her something like " Do you think that is something you'd like to try?" or even straight out ask if it's fantasy or something she'd hope to try. Reassure her that there is no wrong answer.(and mean it) keep everything judgment free.

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Lots of people watch porn, but very few swing. You will have to talk to your wife about what she likes in porn and what she would like to experience herself. You may find that her interest in DP doesn't mean she wants a second man but rather that she'd like to incorporate a dildo into sex.

 

In other words, the only one with the answers you're looking for is your wife.

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I don't think watching porn translates into interested in swinging. She could be just curious. And it's very different to watch it on a screen as opposed to actually doing it. It's probably best to talk to her about it.

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I agree, it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to swing, but can I say it's great that she watches it as it can definitely lead to discussion about the lifestyle.

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Ask her. That is the only way you will know unless she decides to volunteer it.

 

A good way is to simply say " I notice you like the DP porn, would it be something you would like to try for real"?

 

Be prepared for a what ever she says. If she says no, then leave it be. If she thinks about she may change her mind, but the ball is in her court and she will know you are at least somewhat open to it is she decides to revisit it.

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Sorry. But, if everyone who watched a certain type of porn actually wanted to act on it.. we'd be a lot less repressed of a society. I say that to say, that likely No it doesn't mean she wants to swing. It sounds like you've talked to her about your desires to swing and she's said no, so that probably means that shes not interested. Enjoy the porn with her, enjoy the fantasies and maybe one day she'll decide that she is interested in more.

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enjoy the fantasies and maybe one day she'll decide that she is interested in more.

 

I can vouch for this. It is how it was on our case. Not the porn, but we talked about fantasies in the bedroom. When I asked if this was something we could act on in reality, the answer was no. Over a 10 year period, I asked maybe 4 times. Years later, and at least 3-4 years removed from me asking, and after a great deal of growth in our relationship, she brought up the idea exploring sexually, out of the blue.

 

I felt like the dog that had just caught the car. I was not sure what to do, but we talked it through and here we are. :)

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