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  1. #201

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    We have been involved in the LS for 5+ years. However, it really was not until we had been married for 22 years and in our early forties (yes, we married young)that we started the discussion on getting together with others. Actually, we both admit that we had been having thoughts on our own of what it would be like to have sex with others for a couple years. But,it was my wife that initiated things when she told me one day that she wondered what it would be like to have sex with another man after it had just been her and I for 20+ years. Needless to say, after all the years together, sex had started to become a little bit mundane and routine for us both. It was a bit of a surprise but it was the spark that started us on our journey over the past 6 years.

    At first, my wife started chatting with a guy from Australia on one of the chat sites. As the weeks went by, things between the two of them in chat got more heated and they started to sex chat, which in turn sparked a new flavour in sex between my wife an I. Normally, after chatting late at night she would come to bed and tell me about their sex talk and we would end up having incredible sex ourselves each time. This progressed with us discussing being with others while having sex and this even got things more stimulating between us. This "first step" continued for approximately 6 months.

    The next step happened when we decided to visit a LS club on a trip to Florida late that year. Even though we did not get involved with anyone at the club, we did meet a nice couple and had a great evening chatting, dancing, and enjoying drinks. Plus, the couple pointed us in the direction of signing up for an adult website in order to meet people. Needless to say, this sparked our curiosity for the remainder of our trip to Florida and left us having great sex and discussing naughty thoughts.

    Upon returning from our trip that year, we did join one of the adult websites and began chatting with some couples. Being totally green, we did not know what to expect. Unfortunately, our first meet was site unseen and turned out to be a bit of disaster. Even though we were a bit turned off from the first meet, we persevered and managed to have a great meet with our second couple.

    Up to this point, we have never looked back and have continued to enjoy ourselves and the dynamic of our own sex life with others. Yes, we have meet couples that we have not connected with or with who we never became involved with. But we have had some great experiences with couples and have realized that we really enjoy the MFM threesome as I enjoy sharing my wife with another guy, and my wife enjoys the attention of two guys.

    Even though we may have taken the cautious approach, we have enjoyed ourselves. We have even taken in a clothing optional resort as a different dynamic and are looking forward to doing it again.

    We continue to look forward to things developing from here.


  2. #202

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    I looking forward to this new adventure with my baby. I get bored easily and it takes a creative man to keep my interest. This by far tops the list right now. I'm a very outgoing flirt that loves exhibition that leads to hot sex. So from Dec. Of last year till now I've just been retaining all the knowledge that is available to me.

  3. #203

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    Is there any women from plymouth looking for some NSA fun I'm a 21 year old guy looking for a good time

  4. #204

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    For me, it was from day one when I met my husband-to-be David since I was still screwing my ex-fiance. David knew from day one.


    It took two years of me thinking about it (no talk) before I sprung another woman on hubby.

  5. #205

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    I thought about it near 2 years, before I tell my wife about it. She agreed to try and everything starts.

  6. #206

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    My wife has n agreed to swing with anyone else yet but she has agreed to go to a swinger club. I'm looking for a club in Indianapolis,In area. Can someone tell me what clubs are in that surrounding area preferably with an older crowd. Thanks Joe

  7. #207

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    We have been researching, learning about, listening to others and reading about the lifestyle for a couple years. We have met a couple couples out for dinner and had some great conversations as a group. We even had a second outing with another couple where the four of us visited an adult toy shop and had a great time perusing the store and discussing the toys and sexual likes and dislikes. We have had some electronic discussions with couples, single men and one single lady. Undortunately with the men we have come in contact with they all seem to struggle taking it easy, instead they become sexually aggressive quickly and that turns my wife off so we have not had a first experience with another couple yet. She is a very sensual woman and derives her excitement, arousal and pleasure from sexy erotic talk that builds her comfort & trust. These men start right in with how they want to deep throat her and all the things they want her to do to them vs how they could bring her pleasure too. She has even told them itís the sensual approach that gets her going but they canít seem to restrain themselves from taking the aggressive approach.

    We know not all men in the lifestyle are like that so we will keep looking for a good connection and fish in better waters. Just wanted to represent that is what has held us back from actually doing anything and give some advice to the men out there....listen to the wife of the other couple because many times she will give you the tips to get her aroused and attracted with you. Donít miss the cues gentleman.

  8. #208

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    She is a very sensual woman and derives her excitement, arousal and pleasure from sexy erotic talk that builds her comfort & trust.
    We wish you lived closer! The sex shop trip sounded HOT (we may have to try that)! It isn't always the destination...getting there should be just as much fun. Taking the time and enjoying the ride. Keep looking and stick to your guns, there's a couple out there for you. They might be hard to find, but it will be worth it once you do find them.

    These men start right in with how they want to deep throat her and all the things they want her
    Maybe we don't get it, but this is just rude. Not all women are into or able to deep throat and Mr. Gold would never ask (let alone tell) another woman that he wanted or expected this. We both accept what someone is willing to give and appreciate the gesture, and would NEVER TELL someone what is expected from them. Move on and find a better match. Let us know how things go for you and good luck!
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

  9. #209

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    Thank you so much Mrs Gold. We appreciate the response and feedback. Sometimes I think it is me, Mrs Stayingactive here, and maybe the type of experience that would be a good fit for us isnít out there. Reading all the posts and hearing other peopleís great experience tells me itís our there and we do have to just keep looking.

    The toy store trip was fun. We go as a couple from time to time on our own and I have periodic ďbreakfast and toy store morningĒ with my best friend but going with someone in the lifestyle was fun. We enjoyed walking around and discussing the toys we all own and what our likes and dislikes are. Unfortunately at one point when the husband had me alone thatís when he showed me some type of numbing cream and explained I should get that and put it in my throat so he could deep throat me really hard. Thatís when my interest dropped and the sexiness of the date left. It was too bad as the wife was wonderful and there was a connection between her and I as well as her and my husband. But her husband had turned me off and my husband was not trusting of him after I told him the story. For us it is about a safe comfortable experience and a connection with the couple or singles. Weíd love to do a date like that again as over all it was a fun outing. :-)

    Sounds like Mr Gold is a respectful gentleman and we hope to find people like that someday. We know we will. Donít get me wrong, I love sex and when turned on will have some wonderful sexual experiences and I am not afraid of some exploration, but after I am turned on, and the path to turned on for me is sensual, erotic and respectful. That type of man will get my juices flowing every time. :-)

    Thank you so much for your words of affirmation and encouragement. We will keep looking and excited for the situation where we do find the right fit. Nice to meet you too.


  10. #210

    Default Re: How long have you been thinking about/ discussing swinging?

    The right couple is out there, they can just be hard to locate. Remember how hard it was to find another guy that you connected with? Now try and make that happen but in a four way match. Not easy, but when it does happen, it can be explosive! Just keep looking and if a couple isn't right, move on...don't waste more time hoping that they might someday be. Also know that there are still gentlemen in the world and Mr. Gold is definitely one of them. Not too many left, which is why I share with with others

    Love the avatar picture! We wish you success and hope you will let us know when you find it...and if you are ever out California way we need to do dinner.
    If you donít have to lie about sex, you donít have to lie about anything. - John Williamson

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