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    by Published on 07-12-2014 11:00 AM  Number of Views: 5743 

    Aren't Diseases a problem?

    STDs are a major concern in this lifestyle to everyone, and that alone can help reduce the risk. By choosing to participate in this lifestyle, you accept that there is a risk of contracting an STD. The fact that people are thinking about it, helps us to take precautions. But we must keep in mind that even a condom doesn't completely eliminate the risk of most STD's. You will need to decide just how far you want to go to minimize your risk of contracting an STD from swinging. The best way to reduce your risk is to use condoms.

    It is also very important that if you have a sexually transmitted disease that you tell your potential partners before engaging in ANY sexual activities. Even if you had it previously and think it's gone... many diseases stay with us for life, even though we show no symptoms. Check out our STD info page for more info on the various diseases and your risk.

    Is it normal to be jealous the first time you swing?

    Yes. It is even normal to be a little jealous every time you swing. We have dedicated a whole page to this topic, please see Dealing with Jealousy.

    What kind of people are swingers?


    All kinds of people. Swingers come from all walks of life, all races, all incomes. One common bond is that they are interested in exploring sexual fantasies, they are honest with themselves and others, and they tend to communicate better with their partners than the average couple.

    How do I convince my partner to swing?

    This is probably one of the most common questions we see on the message board. Basically, you DON'T CONVINCE your partner to swing. Swinging is not for everyone, and it might not be for you and your partner. Before you think about trying to convince your partner to swing you should first look at yourself and examine the reasons you wish to swing. Are you wanting to swing so that you can "get more action", if so, then don't bother. This is not the lifestyle for you. If, however, you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own, or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others, then you can start looking at how to talk to your partner about swinging.

    You may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing, all you have to do is let them know that you are. On the other hand, they may not have ever thought about it. Communication is the key to opening all of the doors here. The first thing you need to do is talk to them about your fantasies, perhaps leave a swinger mag lying around for them to find to stimulate a conversation, or have them look through Swingers Board with you. Be open to any questions that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to do this.

    If your partner lets you know that they have no interest in the lifestyle, then back off. Pushing them will get you nowhere. However, you can mention your fantasies to them, if you can get your partner turned on to your fantasies then you will have a much better chance of opening the lines of communication again and the chances of taking things further will increase.

    Another take on this question.

    What do all these terms I see in ads mean?

    You can find the means for most of those acronyms in the Swinger Dictionary

    What is soft-swinging?

    Soft-swing is basically a variety of swinging that encompasses everything except actually having intercourse with other partners. Many swingers choose to save the actual act of intercourse for their own partners but will play with others for the "fore play". They opt for this for a variety of reasons including less risk of STD's, or just saving that special thing for their partner. Some swingers also prefer to just watch others have sex or to be watched, this also falls into the category of soft-swinging.

    Why is it so hard to find a single female to join us?

    The answer to this question is fairly simple: supply and demand. There just aren't many single females in the lifestyle. Most females that are in the lifestyle are half of a couple and many couples don't like to split up to play. The other side of the problem is that single females (bi in particular) are the most sought after portion of the swinging population. While there are more than enough single males to go around, most single females either don't know about the lifestyle or just aren't interested. Most of those that are involved in the lifestyle were brought in by a previous boyfriend or husband.

    So are the couples who want a single female completely out of luck?

    Don't give up, and consider opening your options. If you are looking for a single female to play mainly with the female half of your couple, then perhaps you could look for a couple with a bi-female and a husband who doesn't mind watching. But remember, this won't be fun for long... eventually people start to feel like they are being left out, of course that doesn't mean you have to swap partners. You could always let the women play together then when they are done the guys can enjoy their own partners. However, if you are looking for a female so that you can have a threesome, then you will just have to be patient. It happens but you may have to wait a while. The best advice I have heard when it comes to finding a single female is to look at those single females that you already know. It will be much easier to talk to a friend and possibly get them to join you for some fun, than it will be to find a stranger. Also, if you are an out-going couple you might consider just checking out the local night clubs you may find a female or two there willing to go home with you for a night of fun.

    Is swinging just for couples?


    Swinging is a lifestyle that couples enjoy to help them live out their fantasies with other adults. Singles can be involved in the lifestyle, and are involved, since many couples are looking for either an extra male or female to help them live out a threesome fantasy. What singles must remember when they are lucky enough to be involved is that it is a privilege and they must treat it as such. Swinging involves the utmost discretion, which is very important to remember. If you are a single simply looking for another single then you are not looking for swinging. If you are married and looking to cheat on your partner then you are not looking to swing. Advice for Single Swingers

    I'm a single male, how can I get involved in the lifestyle?


    With Luck. As I have mentioned before, as a single male, if you do manage to get involved in the lifestyle then it is a privilege and requires the utmost in discretion. There are couples out there who are looking for single males, those are the ads you should answer. Don't answer ads that aren't looking for single males. If you are good-looking, clean, honest & discrete you will have the best chance.

    Something else that will help you is if you can get a girlfriend that is willing to swing with you, then you would be a couple. Many couples look at it as "if he can't even get a girlfriend, why would we want him". There are couples out there that are looking for single men. Guys that are open and honest and not just out looking for an easy lay will have the best chance at being accepted by these couples. I suggest that if you really want to get involved in the lifestyle you try contacting couples in your area that are seeking single men, and let them know that you are interested. There are many tips throughout the Swingers Board to help you in how to respond to an ad as well as in placing your own. However you will probably have a much better chance by responding to other people's ads. There are many sites out there with swingers personals and you should check out the various ones as different people place ads on different ones. You can find a list of many of them on the Swingers Board links page. You should also check the club listings for swinger clubs in your area that accept single males.

    Please do not consider trying to get into the swinging lifestyle if you think this will be an easy way for you to get laid. That is not what this is about. This is about couples enjoying their sexual fantasies with other people that can not be acted out with just the two of them. Since there are many couples that desire MFM 3-somes or where the husband enjoys seeing his wife with another male there is a place for single males in this lifestyle, as long as the single male in question realizes what it is. Also note if you are married and looking to cheat on your partner (your partner does not know and/or approve of your actions) then you are not SINGLE and you are not swinging.

    How do we meet others who are interested in the lifestyle?

    There are several ways to find others interested in swinging. The two most prolific ways are through personal ads and swinger clubs. On our Personal Ads page you will find several great sites for swingers personal ads. All of which will allow you to post your own ad for free as well as allow for limited free browsing and answering of others ads.

    What is the difference between an on-premise club and an off-premise club?

    Off-Premise Clubs
    Going to an off-premise club is often like going to a wedding reception, and often held in the same places. Most off-premise clubs are held in local banquet halls (Knights of Columbus) or other large places that can be rented out. Some are held in hotel ball rooms. Those held in hotel ballrooms afford an extra convenience in that if you do decide you want to play you don't have to go far. Since no sexual activities take place "on-premise", if you want to play with someone you meet you need to go somewhere else, your place/ their place or a hotel room. Usually they are BYOB, providing food/ snacks and setups (soft drinks/ mixers). Off-Premise clubs give you a good opportunity to get to know other swingers in a pressure free environment. You can dance, talk, flirt without feeling like something has to happen. Where the club socials are held, dress requirements, and memberships vary from club to club, so you will need to contact the particular club you are interested in for all the details.

    On-Premise Clubs

    On-premise clubs provide space for people to engage in sexual activities. They may have private rooms, themed rooms or only one large rooms where everyone plays. Each club is different and provides different features, so it is very important to check out the clubs amenities before attending. Contact the club host/ administrator and get all the details on the club and if possible a tour of the premise.

    Private Parties / House Parties
    As many states are trying to create laws against swing clubs, private parties are becoming more and more popular. These are usually held in someone's home and those who attend are invited by the host couple. Most often these parties are couples only.

    Conventions
    Many of the larger clubs hold annual conventions. Most often the hosting club will rent out a hotel for a weekend, providing a large amount of privacy. During the day there are usually typical "convention" type events such as discussions on issues, guest speakers, etc. Throughout the weekend activities are planned to give you plenty of time to get to know other people in attendance. Price range on these events vary and we will provide you with as much info as we have on our events page. In recent years there has begun to be a lot of overlap between different types of parties. You may find a hotel party where the main party is off-premise but there is also a take-over of a floor of the hotel that could be considered on-premise. It is always best to ask the owners what is allowed at their party and where.

    So, how do we get started?

    That depends on how ready you are, and what you are comfortable with. If you want to just jump in, then you might want to try visiting a local club in your area. If you just want to get a feel for what kind of people are in the lifestyle, then you might want to try an off-premise club. This will give you a chance to meet people without feeling any pressure to participate. If you are really ready to jump in and don't mind a little help, then you could try an on-premise club, there you can not only meet other swingers but you can actually participate in swinging activities, not that you will be required to, but you get the idea. If you prefer things a little more one-on-one (or two-on-two) then you might want to stick to placing and answering ads. You can meet great people this way and you will have a chance to get to know them better through communication before you even meet them face-to-face.

    What's the best way to meet people? Clubs or Ads?


    This really depends on you. Swinger clubs are a great way to introduce yourselves to the lifestyle, you can meet lots of people in one night and not feel tied to any one couple or person. Clubs can also be a bit smoky and loud (depending on the club) and for some may be cost-prohibitive (costs vary from club to club).

    Online personal ads allow you to browse local swingers you might be interested in and contact only those that spark your interest. You can then engage in online conversation and move to a meeting in real life (or talk on the phone first, whatever you are comfortable with and they agree to). The downside of online personal ads is they take a lot more time, and sometimes the people you meet aren't what you expected based on their ad. Sometimes you never meet them at all because there are a lot of fakes on personal ads sites (people who are just there to browse and have no intention of meeting, people who only want to collect pictures of others, and people who wish they could swing but their spouse would never actually go for it so they play on the ad sites and live vicariously).

    I would suggest doing both. Find a club or a social near you that you can check out and also place an ad on an online personal ads site (you'll find several that we recommend, here). This will give you the best of both worlds and allow you to decide for yourself which route is best for you.

    We are going to a club for the first time, what should we expect?

    That is going to depend a lot on the club. First off read the above FAQ on the types of clubs and note the differences. Be sure to talk to the club owner/ host prior to attending and know ahead of time what type of club it is. If you are not interested in single males you will probably want to make sure that the club you are attending does not allow single males on the night you are attending. Each club is different with different sets of rules and expectations. Be sure to ask the owner/ host to allow you to come early for a tour and to get to know them a bit. Give them a call and ask them any questions you have about the club before you attend.

    What should we ask the club host/owner when we call?


    A few questions you might want to ask would be:

    What is the general age range at the club? Is there a mix of races? Do they allow single males? What is the price? Do you need to BYOB or is there a bar? Do they provide setups (the soda and juice for mixed drinks)? What is the expected attire?

    For on-premise clubs you may also want to ask: Do they provide condoms? Do you need to bring your own towels? Do they have lockers for your stuff? Showers? Soap? Shampoo? Are there clean sheets available?

    Especially when visiting an on-premise club you should ask for a tour of the facilities during a time when the club is not open for business (or is not busy). Be sure to note how clean the club is at that time. If it's not clean then you can only imagine how much dirtier it will be when it is busy.


    We are about to meet someone for the first time, where should we meet, what should we do?


    Meet someplace neutral, a bar or a restaurant is usually good. Since bars can be a noisy and crowded, restaurants are usually a better choice. This will give you a chance to talk and get to know each other. Remember to set up something with the people you are meeting so that you know who they are. Find out what kind of car they drive, what they will be wearing, etc. Make sure to set up signals with your partner ahead of time, so that if either of you isn't comfortable with the people you meet you can get out without having to flat out say "are you interested in these people". Be yourself, don't wear/do things that you wouldn't normally do to try to impress these people. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.

    Read More About The First Meeting

    We made it through dinner, now what?


    Make plans. You can either invite them back to your place right then and continue getting to know each other, or you can make plans to see each other another day. Invite them over to your place, or if you can't or don't want to entertain make plans for a hotel room or to go to their place. Just remember no matter what that "no" means" no". Even though every thing may look like it's "a go", people can change their minds.

    The couple we have met seems to want to move things a little too fast


    Things should always move as fast as the slowest person involved. If you aren't ready yet, let them know. They'll either back off and give you time, or they'll decide they aren't interested in waiting. If the later happens, it's their loss not yours. Swinging should be about more than just sex... and if they don't see it that way, then they are definitely losing out. Don't allow yourself to be coerced into a situation where you aren't comfortable. If you are feeling pressured, so "No, Thanks" then if they don't back off, it's time to leave.

    I would like to start my own swing club... What do I do to get started?

    The first thing you need to do is talk to an attorney in your area and find out what the legal issues are of operating a club in your area/ state. You might want to call a few of the club owners in some of those cities 4-5 hours away and talk to them to see what issues they have dealt with as well.

    New clubs open and close every month because people don't do the research prior to starting them regarding local laws and business practices. Another thing to remember is that in running a club you give up the ability to play at the club. As the host it's now your job to ensure that everyone else gets to have a good time. As one club owner put it, don't start a club unless you want to stop swinging.

    As far getting the word out, that is probably the least of your worries and the easiest thing to do. Hopefully, if you are thinking of starting a club then you already have at least a few couples that you know personally in the area you are thinking of starting a club in. Those few would be your initial base and if your club is good, then those few would tell a few more and so on. Word of mouth is really your best form of advertisement. Other ways such as joining NASCA, and getting your club listed in their book, as well as on other swinger websites and in other swinger magazines can be very helpful as well but won't do nearly as much as good word of mouth.
    by Published on 04-25-2012 01:10 PM     Number of Views: 15385 

    What do all those acronyms mean? What in the world is a MWC? Here's where you will find your answers.


    420
    refers to marijuana use
    AC/DC
    Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI; BISEXUAL)
    ADULT
    Euphemism for pornographic.
    AFF
    Refers to the website Adult Friend Finder
    ALL CULTURES
    Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
    AMERICAN CULTURE
    Man on top, the missionary position.
    ANAL SEX
    Anal intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE)
    ANALINGUS
    Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
    ANIMAL TRAINING / ANIMALS
    Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women (see BEASTIALITY)
    ARTS
    Euphemism for fetishes (see CULTURE)
    B&D or B/D
    Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)
    BBC
    Big Black Cock
    BBW
    Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are.
    BDSM
    A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.
    BEASTIALITY
    (see ANIMAL TRAINING)
    BI
    Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
    BI-COMFORTABLE
    A Male or Female who is open to bi-sexual activities within swinging, but does not consider themselves bi-sexual or attracted to the same sex. (see also HETERO-FLEXIBLE and SOCIALLY BI)
    BI-CURIOUS
    A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
    BIZARRE
    Unusual sexual desires
    BONDAGE
    A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
    BUKKAKE
    a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.
    BYOB
    Used to indicate that visitors must supply their own alcohol, common practice at clubs where local ordinances may prevent the sale of alcohol. However, they will usually provide "mixers" (i.e. sodas, juices, ice). (See also MIXERS PROVIDED)
    CAN ENTERTAIN / CAN HOST
    Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
    CAN TRAVEL /WILL TRAVEL
    Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
    CANING
    A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
    CHEATING
    Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
    CLEAN
    Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
    CLOSED DOOR
    (see CLOSED SWINGING)
    CLOSED SWINGING
    Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
    CLOSET SWINGER
    A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
    COUGAR
    Name for an older woman who is seen to be aggressive in pursuing younger men.
    COUPLE
    In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
    CPL
    (see COUPLE)
    CUCKOLD
    While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
    CULTURE
    Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
    CUNNILINGUS
    Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
    D/D FREE
    Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is STD free and does not use drugs.
    DILDO
    An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
    HALL PASS
    1. A permission given to one married partner by the other to independently find and engage in sexual play. 2. A permission to play away from home without the presence of the other married partner.
    DIRECTOR
    The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
    DISCIPLINE
    A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
    DISCREET OR DISCRETION
    Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
    DOCILE
    Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
    DOGGING
    Dogging is a British euphemism for engaging in sexual acts in a semi-public place (typically a secluded car park or a movie theater) or watching others doing so. Frequently, there are more than two participants; group sex and sometimes even gang bangs can occur. Observation is encouraged, thus voyeurism and exhibitionism are closely associated with dogging. The two sets of people involved often meet either randomly or (increasingly) arrange to meet-up beforehand over the internet.
    DOMESTIC TRAINING
    Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
    DOUBLE PENETRATION
    Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral)
    DP
    Double Penetration
    DOMINANT
    A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
    ENGLISH CULTURE:
    Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
    ENTERTAIN
    (see CAN ENTERTAIN)
    EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB
    One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night).
    EXHIBITIONIST
    Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
    F
    Female
    FELLATIO
    Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
    FETISH
    Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
    FFM or FMF
    Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME). FFM refers to a threesome that is female-centric, where the women play with each other. FMF refers to a threesome where he women only play with the man.
    FLAGELLATION
    Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
    FRENCH CULTURE:
    Oral-genital sexual activity (see FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)
    FRIENDS FIRST:
    Interested in developing some level of friendship prior to sexual play (see INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP)
    FULL SWAP
    Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse (see SOFT SWAP)
    FUN AND GAMES
    Euphemism for sexual activity.
    GAY
    A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
    GBM
    Gay Black Male
    GENEROUS
    Refers to money for sex.
    GIRL-GIRL
    The girls will play while the guys watch.
    GOLDEN SHOWER
    Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS)
    GREEK CULTURE:
    Anal-penile intercourse
    GROUP ROOM
    Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
    GROUP SEX
    Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
    GWM
    Gay White Male
    HARD CORE
    A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
    HARD SWINGING
    (see HARD CORE)
    HEAD
    Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)
    HEDONIST
    Someone who lives for pleasure.
    HETERO-FLEXIBLE
    (see BI-COMFORTABLE)
    HETEROSEXUAL
    Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
    HOMOSEXUAL
    Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
    HORNY
    Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
    HUNG
    Refers to a man with a large penis.
    HWP
    Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
    INDOOR
    Swinging activities in general
    INDOOR SPORTS
    (See INDOOR)
    INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
    Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. (See FRIENDS FIRST)
    IR
    Interracial
    IRL
    In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
    ISO
    In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
    LEATHER
    A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
    LESBIAN
    A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL)
    LTR
    Long Term Relationship
    M
    Male
    MARITAL AIDS
    Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
    MASOCHISM
    Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
    MASTER/SLAVE
    Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)
    MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM
    Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
    MBC
    Married Black Couple
    MBiC
    Married Bisexual Couple
    MEET & GREET (M&G)
    A swinger event, usually held in a public place, for the purpose of meeting other swingers.
    MEET FOR PLEASURE
    Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
    MENAGE A TROIS
    Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
    MFM or MMF
    Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME), however different types of threesomes. MFM refers to two straight males and a female, while MMF refers to two bi-males and a female.
    MILF
    "Mom I'd Like to Fuck" - used to refer to older women that are attractive
    MIXERS PROVIDED
    Used to indicate that the club/party will provide mixers (juice, sodas, ice) for those in attendance. You will need to bring your own alcohol. (see BYOB)
    MORESOMES
    More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
    MWC
    Married White Couple
    NASCA
    The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
    NEWCOMERS
    New people in swinging; First-timers.
    NONSMOKER
    Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
    NSA
    No Strings Attached. Sex without any expectations beyond that encounter.
    OFF-PREMISE
    No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
    ON-PREMISE
    A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.
    OPEN DOOR
    (see OPEN SWINGING)
    OPEN RELATIONSHIP
    A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.
    OPEN SWINGING
    A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
    ORAL-GENITAL
    (see FRENCH; CUNNILINGUS; FELLATIO; HEAD)
    ORGY
    Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
    PARTY
    Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
    PARTY CLOTHES
    Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
    PARTY HOUSE
    A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
    PASSIVE
    Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
    PASSIVELY BI
    A male or female that will accept same sex touch/ attention but will not return it. (You can go down on me, but I don't go down on you).
    PHOTO
    Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
    PHOTOGRAPHY
    Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
    PLAYDAR
    That internal feeling you get that another couple may also be swingers (think Gaydar for swingers).
    POLYAMORY
    A love relationship involving more than 2 people.
    P/P
    Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
    PRO
    Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
    RECREATIONAL SWINGER
    A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
    RESTRAINT
    Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
    ROMAN
    Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
    ROMAN CULTURE:
    Sexual orgies
    RUBBER
    Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
    SAFE
    Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
    SAME ROOM
    Refers to playing together in the same room. May include soft swinging or full-swap.
    SAME ROOM SWAP
    Refers to swapping partners in the same room. As opposed to SEPARATE ROOM.
    S.A.S.E.
    Self-addressed stamped envelope.
    SBF
    Single Black Female
    SBiF
    Single Bisexual Female
    SBM
    Single Black Male
    SEPARATE ROOM
    Couples will split up and go into separate rooms to swap partners.
    SGL
    Single (see SINGLE)
    S&M or S/M
    Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM)
    SCAT
    refers to the use of excrement/fecal matter.
    SDC
    refers to the website Swingers Date Club
    SINGLE
    A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
    SLS
    Swing Lifestyle, usually used to refer to SwingLifestyle.com, one of the more popular swinger ad sites.
    SOCIAL
    A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
    SOCIAL SWING CLUB
    A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
    SOCIALLY BI
    (see BI-COMFORTABLE)
    SODOMY
    Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
    SOFT SWINGERS
    Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
    SOFT SWAP
    Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP)
    SOFT SWINGING
    The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
    SRS
    Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
    STD
    Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
    STR or STR8
    straight (see STRAIGHT)
    STRAIGHT
    Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
    SUBMISSIVE
    Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)
    SWAPPING
    Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP)
    SWEDISH CULTURE:
    Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
    SWF
    Single White Female
    SWM
    Single White Male
    SWING MAGAZINE
    A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
    SWINGING
    An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
    SWINGING LIFESTYLE
    Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
    SWINGING MARRIAGE
    Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
    SWM
    Single White Male
    SZC
    refers to the website Swingers Zone Central
    TAN
    Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus (AIDS)
    THREESOME
    Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)
    TICKET
    A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
    TOYS
    Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
    TRANSGENDERED
    Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation.
    TRANSSEXUAL
    Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion
    TRANSVESTITE
    A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
    TRAVEL
    (see CAN TRAVEL)
    TRIAD
    Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
    TRIOLISM
    Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
    TUBAL LIGATION
    Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
    UNICORN
    the term Unicorns represent a single female, bisexual or straight. Who is willing to have sex with a couple. To some, that seems mythical. Hence, the name/title.
    UTOPIAN SWINGER
    A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
    VANILLA
    Typically refers to non-swingers (i.e. "vanilla friends")
    VASECTOMY
    Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
    VERSATILE
    Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
    VIBRATOR
    Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
    VOLUPTUOUS
    Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
    VOYEUR
    A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
    VOYEURISM
    Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
    WATERSPORTS
    Typically refers to urine play.(see GOLDEN SHOWER)
    WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS
    Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

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