Single guys wanting to swing, here are some tips for your profile:
Sincerity - The reason most single guys fuck things up is they forget the most basic rule and that an invitation into the bedroom with a couple should be treated like a gift. Yes there are some hardcore bed-notchers but most couples want a fun experience with single guys who appreciate being invited. They are inviting you to have sex with the one person they love more than anything in the world.
Attention - This is the ONLY thing you should be offering them. There are a million guys out there with dicks. Thick, fat, long, etc. Almost always, the more attentive you are the better your chances will be, not any physical endowment (yes there are exceptions) so if you are pitching anything, make it be about how you will ensure that their wife is the center of attention and make it known in your profile that you are capable of being respectful because you can be a rock star but it's not going to get you past the guy if you are not going to treat his wife the way HE feels she should be treated.
What do you have to offer besides sex? Do you dance, can you hold a conversation? We typically will meet somewhere for drinks then the wife likes to go dancing to see if there is an attraction with the guy. This is where you can make the difference in sex for one night or a regular invitation. Be different because I promise you, no matter how good looking you are, how well physically fit you are, how much stamina, etc. There are 100 profiles before and after you that look the same.
Don't offer nude pictures. Have pictures that are attractive, like you are going to look when you go out on a date. Not a selfie of you in the mirror flexing your muscles. If you are taking selfies, take the shit/clutter out of the picture. Nothing worse than a picture of you in the bathroom with a roll of toilet paper on the counter and your Prozac bottle next to a dirty bong. A good picture of you in jeans and a nice shirt will go much further.
How about things you like to do? Tell us a little about you, not what you want to do to our wives. Make us like you.
Here are some things you can do if you meet them at a club or if you are cold contacting a couple at a club:
If you see a couple, don't follow them around like a stalker and try to sit next to them everywhere they go. It's creepy. If they keep moving away, take it as a hint, your not doing it for them.
If you think a couple has looked at you once or twice, maybe, just maybe, you are a contender so introduce yourself politely. Tell them your name, say something nice that you noticed about the wife but make sure you also talk to the guy. Don't blow the guy off whatever you do. Include him in the conversation. If after a couple minutes, if YOU are the one continually having to start the conversation, tell them it was nice meeting them and excuse yourself by saying something like, it was nice meeting you both. If you are interested in a single guy I would consider is a privilege and move on. You will leave a much better impression then if you just keep trying to create something out of thin air because they may or may not be looking for a single guy THAT night but you might stay in their mind for when they are.
Be genuinely interested in them but don't ask questions like, where do you work, what gym do you go to, also creepy and stalkerish... You can ask things like where are they from but after that bridge out to topics of interest besides sex. Ask if they (yes, they) would like to dance. You just blew past the other 80 single guys in the club right there.
Use common sense. Despite the fact they are at the club, you can't assume that they are anything other than voyeurs or exhibitionist and no matter how hard you try, nothing is going to happen. Understand that. If you stop thinking so hard about getting laid and think more about how to turn on the girl while establishing a bond with the husband, your chances will triple.
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