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Women - how would you feel if he wants you to fuck another guy and watch?

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How would you women feel if your husband or serious boyfriend said it was a fantasy of his to see you fuck another guy in front of him? Would that generally produce a negative reaction from you and make you think "what the hell is wrong with this guy? Why does he want to share me?" or would the thought of that turn you on and would you view it as a positive thing like you could be more open to express your sexuality with him?

 

Just curious, I have said this to my girlfriend and just want to see what other women especially "newbies" think or did think when it happened to them.

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I love the thought of it. I love the thought of him with other women too. These are not desires I fully understand yet, but at the core of me, it is a turn on to see him please another woman and it is a turn on to think of him wanting to see me with another man or thinking about me with another man in a way that turned him on instead of making him jealous or insecure.

 

share and share alike ;)

 

~xxx~ Jezzy :D

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I love it, and do it every chance we can :) Part of what makes it so awesome is how much HE likes it. Then he gets to share me and watch someone else pleasure me.

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When I was vanilla I would have been pissed off at him. Just saying, prior to this board I thought swingers were a bunch of cheaters. I did not understand the lifestyle.

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I love it and we share as often as we can:) I also like watching him with another woman or being in a pile with him.

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I love the thought of it. I love the thought of him with other women too. These are not desires I fully understand yet, but at the core of me, it is a turn on to see him please another woman and it is a turn on to think of him wanting to see me with another man or thinking about me with another man in a way that turned him on instead of making him jealous or insecure.

 

share and share alike ;)

 

~xxx~ Jezzy :D

 

Ha Ha! Sharing is caring right?! Except for STD's people can keep that shit to themselves!

 

I know exactly what you mean when you say "These are not desires I fully understand yet..." I can totally relate to that thought, but yet here I am turned on by the idea of it!

 

I just wonder if it actually happened if I would still feel the same way. Maybe there is a way to 'test the waters' and test how I would feel before we go all the way with it and I end up regretting it?

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I love it, and do it every chance we can :) Part of what makes it so awesome is how much HE likes it. Then he gets to share me and watch someone else pleasure me.

 

 

Yeah I understand what you are saying. I mean I feel that is the biggest turn-on about this for me is to see how much pleasure my girlfriend would get from another man or another woman...although strangely enough I tend to fantasize about her with another man way more than her being with another woman! Doesn't make much sense to me! I grew up loving lesbians and am still turned on by the good looking ones, but I constantly fantasize about her fucking another man and her cumming so hard and making him cum so hard all over her!

 

I completely don't understand these feelings, and I am used to understanding my feelings pretty well so this is new to me!!

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I am in the love it group. Bob loves to watch me be pleasured by other men and I also enjoy very much watching him pleasure other women.

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I can and do respect the desire and thrill of watching your significant other make someone else feel good - what I am having a problem with is - not having any more one-on-one time with him. Everything (sex) revolves around a third and/or 4th, 5th, 6th person or constant talk of having multiple sexual contacts. While I love watching him please others, I get confused when he is so aroused by another person other than me to the point the they are being told they are "the best" - I want our swinging to compliment - not rule - our sex life ... am I making any sense?

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That is actually how hubby and I got into the conversation of the lifestyle. He told me that he'd like to see me with another man, and that turned me on. And then I realized how I would love to see him with another woman. And here we are! We love the lifestyle and everything it has to offer! I love seeing him be pleasured, and he loves seeing me be pleasured as well.

 

How did your girlfriend react to you saying that?

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Before we started swinging, Dave would tell me how he'd like to see me fuck another man...so in fantasy, it turned me on... when I found out he was serious, it almost freaked me out because my self esteem told me that something was wrong with his statement. I couldn't understand his thought process.

 

Now that we do swing, I absolutely LOVE seeing him with other women, more so than I like being with other men. Probably the same way he feels. It's now a turn on for both of us.

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Big Nikki here.

I absolutely LOVE seeing him with other women, more so than I like being with other men.

 

Good lovers get almost as much satisfaction out of pleasing their partners as they do out of being pleased themselves.

 

So, seeing your partner with another person combines the thrill of seeing them pleased with the thrill of voyeurism.

 

That's how I understand feelings like what's quoted from LFM2.

 

-- Big Nikki

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In one sense this is the wrong group to be asking. Most here would say they like/love it because as swingers we already see our partners with others and we enjoy it.

 

We can think back to before we became swingers, but it will still have a bias because, well, we became swingers. The tendency for people is to look back at things a bit different than they were in reality, particularly as we get older, we paint the picture we remember of a point in time, but that picture can get somewhat colored by everything that happened in between.

 

And the swinger community is relatively small. So the probability of getting an answer that would be similar to this community is small.

 

If you GF is like the majority, the question could well freak her out and turn her off. If you are lucky she will not freak out. If you are REAL lucky she might be excited about the idea.

 

It reminds me of something a Cadre told us when we were training on disarming/getting through a minefield.

 

"This is the best training for marriage, you learn to be quiet, pay real close attention and do exactly the right thing, because one wrong step and it can ruin your day." Sort of applies in this situation too :)

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when i first asked my wife she just looked at me and said "i don't get men" but after she tried it she couldn't beleive how much fun it was both mentally and physically

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I can and do respect the desire and thrill of watching your significant other make someone else feel good - what I am having a problem with is - not having any more one-on-one time with him. Everything (sex) revolves around a third and/or 4th, 5th, 6th person or constant talk of having multiple sexual contacts. While I love watching him please others, I get confused when he is so aroused by another person other than me to the point the they are being told they are "the best" - I want our swinging to compliment - not rule - our sex life ... am I making any sense?

 

Absolutely! I %100 agree with you. If we were to have sex with other people or just her have sex with other people, neither of us would want it to take over our sex life! It should be a occasional thing to spice up our sex life, not the overwhelming thought in our sex life we both agreed. I would want most of the time to be just us, one on one, with no talk about anyone else for sure.

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That is actually how hubby and I got into the conversation of the lifestyle. He told me that he'd like to see me with another man, and that turned me on. And then I realized how I would love to see him with another woman. And here we are! We love the lifestyle and everything it has to offer! I love seeing him be pleasured, and he loves seeing me be pleasured as well.

 

How did your girlfriend react to you saying that?

 

My girlfriend reacted in a positive way in that she did not freak out and get mad, she was just seeking to understand but never agreed to wanting to think about doing it with someone else. I think she thinks the thought is a turn-on, but she is very monogamous when she is in a serious relationship. We do go to strip clubs and I buy her dances and she admits she gets turned on by that, so maybe that is the stepping stone into going further with these thoughts?

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