Jump to content
letsenjoy252

Swinging after breast cancer.

Recommended Posts

We enjoyed the swinging lifestyle for a couple years, something we both highly enjoyed. Last year I was diagnosed with stage 3c breast cancer, resulting in both breast being removed, Would love to get back into the lifestyle as it was a very exciting part of our life, but very nervous about doing so. Would love to hear from others both that maybe have gone through it, or has a honest opinion as to how it will be accepted.

Share this post


Link to post

Haven't been through it, but we ALL have our own scars. Have you undergone reconstruction? Either way, it would not be a deal breakeer for us. We care more about the person and the personality than the scars they carry.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post

My wife has not had a surgery for removal of a lump or a breast but I do play frequently with a woman who has had both breasts removed. She feels a little self-conscious about her scars so she wears a sort of a corset that is rather like a sports bra so as to cover that part of her upper torso. She tells me that she misses activity like nipple play but enjoys all other aspects of foreplay and "the sex act". And I enjoy playing with her. I nibble on her lower lip and on her neck and see much the same response as I used to see nibbling on nipples. Your mileage might vary.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post

We haven't encountered this situation yet, but it wouldn't make us any difference at all. Like GoldCoCouple said, we care about the personality and the person, not what it is wrapped in. Since it's a part of your life that you miss, I say go for it and don't look back!

Share this post


Link to post

We've known woman who had mastectomies and it was never an issue. Usually at at party they keep a top and bra on but may get completely naked with those that they are they are comfortable with. Just be honest with people and there should be no reason to worry about being accepted.

Share this post


Link to post

Beauty is only skin deep but sexiness comes from deep inside (and has nothing to do with beauty). Good luck but we think that you'll be just fine.

Share this post


Link to post

I don't want to quibble with you, GolCoCouple, on matters of semantics, but I think you agree that when you said "beauty" you were referring to some theoretical standard that is perpetuated by society, recognized for the symmetry, flawlessness, etc., but isn't the real beauty that comes from within. And that also seems to come from some sort of mysterious life force that draws us in like the Sirens to Odysseus.

 

Had a visit with step son just last night on a similar topic--he referred to a girl he knew in high school that was "drop-dead gorgeous" but not as totally appealing/compelling/sexy/mesmerizing as another girl who I happened to meet that he went out with briefly. The second girl was cute, pretty, but didn't match the classical standard. However, she had "IT" or whatever you want to call it.

 

My questions to the experienced, brilliant and ever-so-wise members of this website:

1. Do you also experience this mysterious attraction? while you're at it, does "IT" apply to both men and women?

 

2. When someone strikes you as having "IT" does it also increase the likelihood that they are "f**ked up?" (You probably guessed that it seems that way to us.

 

There are probably a host of follow-on questions, but those two presented themselves now.

 

Back to the subject of the OP, the question of whether the result of breast cancer surgery would make a difference to me is not dependent on how you look, it is dependent on who you are.

Share this post


Link to post

We think of beauty as physical attractiveness and sexiness as 'that unknown attraction' that radiates from within. We have seen photographs of people who were (for lack of a better way to say it) a 5 in the picture, but when we met them they had 'something' that made them into a 10. Cameras can't photograph confidence, sexiness, personality, or whatever it is. But this is beside the point.

 

We hope that letsenjoy252 gets back on the bike and goes to the club. We would love to see her there.

Share this post


Link to post
We've known woman who had mastectomies and it was never an issue. Usually at at party they keep a top and bra on but may get completely naked with those that they are they are comfortable with. .

 

We have no experience with it, but the idea of getting "completely naked," of showing all of yourself as you really are, is always a turn on. As another poster said, "we all have scars," we all have imperfections.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post

My wife had breast cancer surgery about 10 or 11 years ago and that left her affected breast very deformed. She was very self conscious and most recently chose to have both breast surgically balanced. The surgeon was excellent (25+ years experience); she is almost completely healed and looks wonderful. The surgery did NOT include any foreign material inserted and both breast feel very natural. I am so happy for her and proud that she took this step to improve her self image.

  • Like 2

Share this post


Link to post

One of my aunts died from breast cancer. She was a very sweet loving woman. Congrats on beating cancer.

Share this post


Link to post

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


  • Similar Content

    • By Rae and Lynn
      Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........
    • By HotCplUk3040
      Ok so this may be a bit taboo and yes there are plenty of issues that come with this… but our conversation (and fantasies) revolve around swapping and sex in this fashion.
       
      It might sound silly but is this frowned upon in swinger circles? Would we be blacklisted or is there a place for this?
       
      We wouldn’t be sleeping around and maybe hope to find a regular couple or 2 to have this fun with, but as a general rule what’s the community’s approach to those coming in and looking to have bareback sex?
    • By LovelyLynn
      I have a question for the experienced couples on the board. For quite a while I have had the desire to be in a more sexually charged environment while having sex with my husband. Now, I have been hanging around this board and learned a lot about the maturity required to swing and I must say I am impressed by a lot of you. The reason I bring this up is because I would like your opinions. I am wanting to find some couples or groups that are open and mature like yourselves to watch while each couple has sex.
       
      I am in my 20's and find that a lot of couples around my age lack maturity when it is called for. Of course for a lot of couples at any age it seems can barely keep their own relationships together. On the other hand it seems that a lot of you put respect and your relationships above all else. Other than the fact that I am not technically a swinger (yet ), I feel you people share more in common with my ideals than most groups of people.
       
      I would love to try new things but I'm not near ready for a 4some or swapping. However, I feel that being in and getting comfortable as a couple around swingers would open the door to a lot of new experiences for me.
       
      So I was curious how the couples on here would feel about having a non swapping couple around having sex in the same room as them? Does it make a difference to you if there are just 2 couples, more than 2, group sex, or swapping going on in the room? What do you think the best way to go about it would be? Is this something that Swingers in general accept?
    • By uran_690101
      My wife and I are contemplating swinging. I really enjoy performing anilingus and cunilingus on my wife, and I would be willing to do both on other women. I am wondering if these practices are accepted within the swinging lifestyle.
    • By TNNFORFUN
      Hello everybody.  Married MW couple for 18 years today.  We have been out of the LS for 5 years but prior to that we where in the life style for about 10 years and had a great time.  We are in our mid forties and going on the bliss cruise in November.  This will be our first swinger cruise. 
       
      The question is, How is mm bisexual play seen in the LS community on this Cruise? 
       
      In our past experience it was always accepted FF bi play but MM was pretty frowned upon.  My husband and I have had a couple MMF in the past and had a great time.  We are hopping to find that again.  There is something  that I just love watching him get it from another guy and sharing the other guy orally together.
       
      Any and all comments greatly appreciated and recommendations encouraged. 
       
       
×
×
  • Create New...